How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

are you bed and breakfast on holiday? whats is there to spend money on? Is it All inclusive or self catering? How long are you away for?

Have you offered him a loan of money?

I'd think he was an idiot, but that it wasn't my problem.

It’s 2024 - cash?! I’d be the one bringing my card only as last few trips I’ve done, the cash has come back unused, nobody wants to take it. It’s a bit strange his card doesn’t work though, I can’t think of anywhere from the top of my head where a standard UK CC would not be accepted!

Are you in Russia or North Korea? 😇

Has he tried calling the credit card provider? They might have blocked his access thinking the card has been stolen and it’s a random use…

Sounds dubious. Having said that my first major trip abroad I had a travel card and attempted to withdraw cash at an ATM in Italy for lunch. It refused so I tried again, still no luck.

i was by myself and couldn’t get any euros at the train station prior to departure (was assured by my local family there would be plenty).

I made sure I applied for an Amex before going anywhere next time. Since have a WISE card too.

Not accessible online 😓
am I the only one thinking he is doing a massive one to op??

please walk away from that person. Enjoy your holiday alone and let him figure it out. The man is making you pay 🤷🏼‍♀️ coz he has money he « can’t access ».

This is an soon to be ex partner I presume?

For me it depends on the circumstances. My ex booked a holiday for us without telling me, I didn't get a say in when or where. I was struggling financially at the time and had very little money when the holiday came around a couple of months later. Then he made me feel guilty for not having any money. Dipping into savings was not an option for me. They are savings for long term purchases and not to be spent on holidays.

A regular reminder, we do not know their usual financial arrangements. We do not know if it was a genuine error, we do not know where they are.
Despite the posters certain they know, none of us do.

I'd tell him he needs to sort out something by ringing his bank because you only took enough spending money for yourself. He's a user.

How on earth is he going to eat?

Has he ever been abroad before, lack of knowledge or a deliberate attempt at a cost free holiday?

Regardless, if you do end up bank rolling him, make it crystal clear that you're saving all the receipts and that you'll expect payment the moment he lands back on home soil.

It’s an immediately dumpable offence. In fact, I’d be so pissed off that I’d make absolutely sure to leave them high and dry too! It’s not just a disgusting level of stinginess but denotes a horrible lack of respect and kindness.

Id tell him to have fun chilling at the hotel while I went out and did all the things I'd planned to do that he couldn't afford. And ask Why hasn't he paid you back for half of everything before coming? I'm old and jaded thoughm in my youth id have probably thought of no it's a shame he made a mistake

I used to go out with someone like that, I look back now and wonder why I put up with it. It was like I was supposed to provide everything. He had to go. No regrets,

I’d tell him to call his bank and arrange a temporary overdraft. I also explain that there is no way I’d be paying for everything while you’re away. What would he have done if he was away on his own or with people not close enough to him to ask to borrow money from ?

Where are you and what credit does he have?

He should have checked the credit card
thing and that’s annoying but YABU to have expected him to bring cash..who does that?

So what happens if you just say no I’m not paying for you as well as myself I cannot afford it. What a plonker to do that to you!!

What would happen if he had an accident and needed to pay to see the Dr/for a prescription/x-ray etc? I suppose he has his EHiC card all sorted for this sort of problem (not).
This just sounds off - something’s not right.

Yeah, what credit card doesn’t work abroad? He can call the card provider and tell them he’s in country and to authorise transactions. Or he’s at his limit and can’t spend on it and it’s irrelevant where he is.

So he’s not offered to pay for half of the trip in advance? And he’s brought no spending money? Well now you know to dump immediately in case you had any doubts before

He wants a free holiday! Drop him, he's a parasite.

🤣🤣 My husband regularly forgets his wallet when we go out - or on holiday!! No problem - joint account, same pot!

Simple advice - leave now - My ex did this all the time, never brought his wallet for meals out, never paid for anything on holidays, shopping, vets bills, childrens clothes, you name it I had to fight for every penny and alot of the time it was just too annoying to ask and it rocked the boat because he would go off on one, the children would get upset etc etc. So I often paid for everything - after 23 yrs I left. Now I'm fighting him again for the money I am owed on the house. Given the choice again 23 yrs ago I would walk if I were you.

The man is clearly a creepy liar. Get rid of him

That is a huge leap from the posts.