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How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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Iwilldestroyyou345 · 23/06/2024 11:00

You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

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Shinyandnew1 · 23/06/2024 11:44

I can’t imagine being with a partner who would behave like that, no!

pinkdelight · 23/06/2024 11:44

Sorry forgot to say, it's a savings account you can't access online apparently.

Even if this was true - and I doubt it, given that online/phone banking is the norm now and no one has to go into physical bank to do their basic banking - then he must have a current account and it can't be maxxed out on overdraft if he has £££ savings. It's patently BS and he expects you to pay for him. Don't. Treat him like a grown up and leave it to him to sort this out. Enjoy yourself!

Thelnebriati · 23/06/2024 11:43

I'd get the next flight home and leave him to sort himself out.

jay55 · 23/06/2024 11:42

I'd be thinking they'll be going hungry until they sort themselves out.

LakeTiticaca · 23/06/2024 11:42

He would rapidly become my EX partner 😉

LadyLolaRuben · 23/06/2024 11:42

We need some context. Did he want to go on the holiday? Who paid for accommodation and flights? How long have you been together and do you live together?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 23/06/2024 11:41

I'd wonder how he's going to feed himself for the next week or get home from the airport. Because it certainly wouldn't be me paying for it.

Droolylabradors · 23/06/2024 11:41

Well I've come away for the weekend with just my credit card. Thought everyone did that?

But what kind of credit card doesn't work in most countries in the world?

Hadjab · 23/06/2024 11:40

So have you actually asked/told him to go online and transfer money from his current account to yours, so that you take it out at an ATM for him?

Cantrushart · 23/06/2024 11:38

Do you really need to ask?

Readysteadygoo · 23/06/2024 11:35

Is it shit planning or taking the pure piss?

CheeseWisely · 23/06/2024 11:35

Well I hardly ever take actual cash abroad, but I've never encountered a whole country that doesn't take Visa or Mastercard. Amex is trickier but I don't really solely on it for this reason.

Has he really got zero in his current account?

Kitkat1523 · 23/06/2024 11:31

He’s lying to you 🙄

Purplecatshopaholic · 23/06/2024 11:31

Err, so he is expecting you to pay for everything? Nope. He’s a tight twat and you should be rethinking this relationship when back home op. I bet this is the tip of the iceberg. For now, get him to transfer money to you, or keep a tally and ensure he knows he’s giving it back to you. Yuck, what a turn off.

fieldsofbutterflies · 23/06/2024 11:31

I'd think he was a fucking idiot.

And a liar.

Bumcake · 23/06/2024 11:30

So he’s got no money in current account that he can access? Seems unlikely.

It’s his problem to resolve anyway. Leave him to it I say.

ActualChips · 23/06/2024 11:29

Sucks to be him. Dump him and enjoy your holiday, he's obviously not boyfriend material.

CristineMagellan · 23/06/2024 11:29

Was it deliberate or did he assume his credit card would work?

Sorenips11 · 23/06/2024 11:28

Sounds like a him problem. Just ask him "So what are you going to do?". If he asks to borrow from you, agree a set amount and the exact date he will pay it back (if you can afford it). Don't get pressured into paying for him here and there otherwise you'll never see that money again.

memyselfi · 23/06/2024 11:27

So what does he say ?

Lavenderandbrown · 23/06/2024 11:26

visa it’s everywhere you want to be…that was their slogan for a very long time. Op
ask him….how did you intend to purchase food/ water/ enter exhibits??! Ask and wait for it….he will say credit card. Ok it doesn’t work…what are YOU going to do? Let dp
sort this. Tell dp simply directly and honestly..I cannot afford to bank roll your entire holiday…surely you know that? And if it creates tension or sulking ensues then go off on your own with your money and holiday while rethinking the CHARACTER traits you desire in a dp because I’m sure creating a financial Emergency due to zero planning is not one of them. It’s ok if the card doesn’t work but dp can’t just 🤷🏻‍♂️and expect you to now pay.

helpfulperson · 23/06/2024 11:23

Credit cards aren't as widely accepted in all countries as here. I've benn to fairly tourist areas in both Germany and Austria where only cash was accepted. And not all Mastercard/ visa cards are the same. I know some people have had trouble in French petrol stations. It can depend on the issuer. But this is why you never only take one form of access to money.

HelloJillll · 23/06/2024 11:23

So he’s broke and has no money in a current account?!

It’s so rude and disrespectful to expect you to pay

VJBR · 23/06/2024 11:23

So how are they expecting to pay for things? Are they assuming you are going to put your hand in your pocket every time.

Singersong · 23/06/2024 11:23

This is insanity. He's obviously lying.