How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

This was he told he was a total treat by you? No - In which case he can transfer a few hundred to you now by internet

He's no money and is bullshitting you about non working credit cards and savings accounts.
Either you go with someone else or just pay for his shit?! He won't pay you back and has no respect for you. Who the fuck would go on holiday without a penny to their name?!

My ex did this. Big family holiday to Florida for 2 weeks, my mum paid for everyones flight and the villa. All we needed was spending money. He only got £100 exchanged which i found out couple days before going. I ended up having to pay for everything for him and lend him money. He also then decided one day not to come with us to watch football instead (i love football too but not to watch that instead of family holiday and not even England playing). He had the villa key (only 1) On way back we called to see if he wanted food picking up, no answer, repeated calls and no response. Turns out he got hammered and was asleep back at villa. We walked in as door left unlocked and he didn’t even hear us. I was scrambling round the bedroom to find the key.
Massive argument which my mum heard him call me a bitch! The next morning he was ashamed to come put i said he had to. He apologised to my mum and stepdad and he was forced to go to the theme park extremely hung over. Amazing thing is it still took me a further 2 years to break up with the prick!

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

They do, but it takes five minutes and a quick phone call to solve it.

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

Yeah, I've had this happen, but I immediately called the bank's credit card helpline and got it sorted out. This guy seems to default to relying on the OP and she shouldn't let him. He's got to eat 3x a day and he needs to pay for it.

although its weird to me ... who doesn't just have a debit card and do online banking? :S

How long have you guys been together?

I would feel frustrated, annoyed and would be debating whether I had a sponger or a complete idiot as a partner.

for me it would depend on one thing. I would pay for this holiday although do it as cheap as i could. then when we got home i would ask for the money transferred that day. If i didn't have that money within 3 days of me asking/reminding him then i would be leaving the relationship as it shows no respect.

Did you pay for the holiday, then, or did he pay half?

If he deliberately came on holiday without any money, then I would tell him to go back home. Absolute cheeky fuckery.

hmm 🤔 doubt the story about the credit card, but here’s a solution if true:

He can go into an actual bank tomorrow and ask them to do an over the counter transaction with his credit card. They will assist with any blocks on the card. He will need to pay cash and transaction fees obviously.

Who was asking for help?

I'd think I was being scammed.

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad

They do indeed, @Saschka; I've had it happen to me even in the US, and that was after informing them I'd be there, withdrawing £10 at the airport before leaving and all the other things you're supposed to do

It was sorted out eventually after much angst, but needless to say the bank couldn't give a stuff about the trouble they'd caused

Very annoying but it could be that he assumed his credit card would work.

Surely there is a bank somewhere that he can use his credit card in.

Can he not transfer money from his bank account into your account?

So he is expecting you to pay for everything? I'd be going out without him. I bet he'd find some money pretty damn quick if you did that.

Like PP, I call bullshit that his credit card does not work and he can't get hus hands on any money.

Ridiculous.

I would end it and tell him to go home.

If it's a genuine mistake and I can see that he expected to pay by card but it is not working and tried his best to sort things out and promised that he will pay back on return I might accept it. Anything less and I will say oh that's a shame that you can't join me on x y or z activity. Shall we meet later? I suspect it is the latter as he didn't even pay for the trip (unless it was a present).

I'd tell him to get on a plane and go home if you don't trust him to pay you back if you end up covering him.

I would feel he was weaponising incompetence and taking me for a fool.

Does his credit card work at the airport? He can book a flight home to get some money. Cheeky bastard.

Trust your gut. The fact you are asking you know deep down it doesn't sit right. He needs to find a way to get funds over to you. You can't be responsible for the both of you while away.
How long have you been together?

And for the others and their judgemental comments in this post. Not necessary. Trying be more supportive for when someone asks for help.

Tell us more about this credit card that won’t work abroad…

How long have you known this person?

YANBU . So what is his plan for spending money now then? How long have you been together? Why can't his family send some money to your bank account for you to withdraw for him?

If you do give him money, give him a round sum to pay for things as he goes as it will make it easier for him to pay you back again if its a set sum. Then you won't have to keep tally of everything you pay for him (assuming that you want to give him money).

Is he always this tight? or is this just unfortunate as he thought the card would work?

There are people who don't see the need for cash, and are then screwed when their card/phone pay doesn't work.

Whatever his reasons, he is selfish for not researching it all beforehand and causing you this problem and potentially ruining your holiday.

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

What isn’t believable is that he has no other mechanism for either making payments or transferring money to OP, because every other penny he possesses is tied up in a fixed rate ISA (or whatever excuse he is using). As a PP pointed out, he is paying his bills, so clearly has money accessible somewhere.

Sorry, but what credit card doesn't work abroad? Where the hell are you? If it's a relatively normal holiday destination, and not like South Sudan or Uzbekistan, then sorry, he's pulling a fast one on you.

Yeah, I'd be inclined to.see.this as a relationship ender. It's not just the stinginess. Its the casual attitude that you will fix it. I assume he hasn't promised.to.pay you back?

Unless this is a trip he didn't want and didn't agree to, this behaviour is 100% not ok.