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How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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Iwilldestroyyou345 · 23/06/2024 11:00

You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

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Maddy70 · 23/06/2024 12:23

I never take cash. Just cards. Get him to transfer some to you so you can use your card

Roundeartheratchriatmas · 23/06/2024 12:23

Well mainly I’d think he’s a liar about not having any access to money and I’d fuck off and leave him to it.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 23/06/2024 12:22

Puzzledandpissedoff · 23/06/2024 11:50

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad

They do indeed, @Saschka; I've had it happen to me even in the US, and that was after informing them I'd be there, withdrawing £10 at the airport before leaving and all the other things you're supposed to do

It was sorted out eventually after much angst, but needless to say the bank couldn't give a stuff about the trouble they'd caused

When was this? It used to be the case it was advisable to tell your bank you would be using credit and debit cards abroad in case this happened (and it was "in case" - not definitely)

That hasn't been the case for years now.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 23/06/2024 12:20

Even my kids go henry and rooster work abroad.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 23/06/2024 12:20

He is a liar. Dont be fooled. Let him know youll expect half the spending money back when you return and then end it. There is no happy future with this man.

mondaytosunday · 23/06/2024 12:19

Sounds like BS to me. Do your credit cards work? Then why doesn't his? And whoever heard of a savings account you can't access, and doesn't he have a regular checking account? No debit card or Apple Pay?

Orangecandle81 · 23/06/2024 12:18

What was the agreement? Did he assume you were inviting him? do you agree to split costs? Or you just went and booked everything hoping he will contribute some,

He seems like a sponger.

wutheringkites · 23/06/2024 12:17

How long have you been together? Do you live together?

EveryOtherNameTaken · 23/06/2024 12:16

Can't understand how it got this far. Didn't you just talk generally beforehand about how much money to take and have a back up plan.

He needs to ring the bank for a transfer

Jellycatspyjamas · 23/06/2024 12:16

So how is he planning to eat, because I wouldn’t be funding him. Explain you have enough for your own needs and he will need to sort something out - I’m sure he’ll miraculously find a way to pay.

EatTheGnome · 23/06/2024 12:16

So he has a saver account. Fine. Where do his wages go? He needs to access money, himself, as an adult, or go without. Seriously fucking fuck him.

Aside from the sponging and ssumption that you'd pay, I'd be dumping him for being so incompetent. How will he care for me if I'm ill or old? A child? He can't (be bothered to learn).

hastalav · 23/06/2024 12:12

If this happened to me, I'd move to another hotel on my own and spend my money that way instead of bankrolling a freeloading chancer.

Shoxfordian · 23/06/2024 12:11

Where are you and what credit card doesn't work? It's either a very obscure country, where you must have known in advance you needed cash or a weird credit card.

I'd be noting down the spending and asking for half back when you get home, although don't be surprised if you don't get it.

youwouldthink · 23/06/2024 12:10

If he has a credit card he can access cash through atms. If no cash machines there are money exchange centres in all airports so send him back there. Afraid he is feeding you a line. Total BS . What a horrible thing to deal with on your holiday.

poshfrock · 23/06/2024 12:10

Credit card probably doesn't work because it's been maxed out. 🙄

isthismylifenow · 23/06/2024 12:10

I never take cash abroad either. Only ever use my credit card.

Where are you that he can't use a credit card?

Perhaps he really did think he was able to use a card hence not taking cash.

AstonMartha · 23/06/2024 12:10

I’m sure I’ve read very similar before.

AstonMartha · 23/06/2024 12:09

How long have you been together and did you discuss finances before going on holiday?

Iwasafool · 23/06/2024 12:09

I might wonder if there is something wrong with him as that is such ridiculous behaviour.

KnickerlessParsons · 23/06/2024 12:08

He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country.

Also bollocks. Even if true he can call his bank and ask them to make it work.

hastalav · 23/06/2024 12:08

I'm sorry but I don't believe this for a minute. Is the whole story made up to get a response?

It's just so ludicrous that if it's true, you OP I'm afraid are an idiot. You must have known this bloke is also an idiot but a scheming one.

KnickerlessParsons · 23/06/2024 12:07

Iwilldestroyyou345 · 23/06/2024 11:05

Sorry forgot to say, it's a savings account you can't access online apparently.

Bollocks!

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 23/06/2024 12:06

I only take a credit card when I travel - much easier to replace if it gets stolen or cloned and I leave my bank card at home so I have access to that when I get back and pay off the credit card in full.

I have yet to find anywhere that 'doesn't take credit cards'. Not even to withdraw cash with? Hmm.

SquashPenguin · 23/06/2024 12:06

My ex did this. We went to Paris and it wasn’t until we got there that he told me he had no money. We’d had the trip booked for weeks.

On a different trip he got paid whilst we were there and spent his entire months wages in a weekend. Safe to say that relationship did not last.

BingoMarieHeeler · 23/06/2024 12:05

To be fair it doesn’t even occur to me to take cash abroad anymore. I went abroad last week and just used Apple Pay or card (mountains of Italy and zero problems doing so) I did have multiple cards though obviously - going abroad with just one card is indeed bonkers. If you’re at ‘partner’ stage though then I’d assume it’s all shared anyway?