How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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Man this thread won’t die, and the OP hasn’t been back to update since the first couple of posts 🤣
when will it leave my watched list!!

Just repeating this.

Maybe it's an Amex. They're rubbish.

I wouldn't pay for anything for him. Let him solve it.

Hes a user 😔

It depends. My dp (now dh) was and is extremely generous normally so if he came on holiday with no money I’d just call him a weirdo and pay for everything for him.

If it was a newish partner who has already showed signs of tightness, I’d tell him I only have enough money for me so he’ll have to get a relative or friend to do a money transfer for him.

Hey!
Guess what everyone! We do not know the nation, if this was out of character, whether he usually pays for her!
See you again in a page time :D

@Iwilldestroyyou345

It would be nice if you would come back and let us know what the resolution to this situation was. I do acknowledge that you don't have to if you don't want to.

Unless this was a reverse and the OP is the one who came with no cash?

This is horseshit, bank/savings account you cannot access and the doozy, a credit card that doesn't work abroad. He is taking the piss.

This!!! I’m hearing excuses!! How long have you been together? I would be packing my bags I’m afraid……and not to go on holiday!!!🤣

Very funny

Is his name Jamie? Sounds like my ex

what kind of credit card does he have that doesn't work in certain countries? Sounds a bit off to me. If he can't transfer funds to you from his savings account then tell him you'll give him a certain amount of spends for himself & he'll pay you that back as soon as you get home. Don't buy bits & bobs here & there for him as it'll be so hard to keep track of what he owes you. Give him a lump sum & let him pay his half of everything while you're away then he refunds you the total amount you've gave him.

This happened to me twenty years ago. Boyfriend forgot to go and get euros in advance of the holiday and told me on the way to the airport. He had a debit card with him but couldn't remember the PIN. The only thing he could pay for all week was shopping in the one supermarket that would still accept a signature on the receipt if it matched the one on the back of the debit card. It put a dampener on the whole holiday. I just couldn't stop worrying and feeling annoyed all week.

Ooh awkward and difficult decision. All depends on your actual partnership status, I'd only ever call someone a partner if finances are joined/shared like bills, mortgage otherwise they're just a BF/GF. lovely of you to pay for the holiday just shame it's turned out like this. Which country are you in ?

Yes this.

I had one of those. Happy to spend my money because one day we'd use his significant savings for a house deposit.

I've dated lots of wealthy people in the past, so never questioned anyone saying they had significant assets, because it had always been true. I'd never dated a liar, so it wasn't on my radar.

This bastard, when my suspicions were raised and I asked him to show proof, used the exact same line "can't access it online" so I told him he needed to go in branch. He became so abusive in order to maintain that lie, that I have PTSD.

He's using you. The money most likely is an invention on his part and on the small chance it isn't, he's deliberately making you bank roll him.

I'd be questioning whether he actually has the savings.

His credit card should work.
Though after having terrible experience with a credit card abroad I always carry cash..and mostly only use cash.

Keep very good records or borrowings and add interest.

The last few trips I've been on I've not carried any cash into the country - just a couple of credit/cash cards. The same as most of my travel companions. And if one of us finds their card won't work in a particular situation another will cover their share and we sort it out after - generally there's little to sort out as it mostly evens out across a holiday.

And I've rarely needed any cash. I think in the last two holidays I've needed cash twice - which has been easily obtained from a nearby cash point. Everything else went on my card.

That being said I have checked in advance re. use of my cards in these locations, and always have a couple of options in case one is a problem. But I could see myself coming unstuck at some point i.e. having got to the stage where I take it for granted I'll be able to use my cards and don't need to worry about cash.

Why did he only take a card? Was it reasonable that he thought he'd be able to use the card? What kind of holiday are you on? Did he think everything was already paid for and no/minimal money would be required? Does it actually reflect differences in holiday expectations i.e. you're on an AI holiday and to him that means staying in the resort the whole time and not spending any additional money? What is his plan now?

Of course it doesn’t work abroad.

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Time to ask how he was planning to pay for it all

He must have a current account? His day to day spending can’t be only on his credit card. He needs to try several cash machines, my debit card rarely worked in Thailand last summer, so cash advances via my credit card was the only way. Very strange that his credit card doesn’t work at all.

An utter creep. Not a real man.

Disorganised or mean.
Or both.
Or neither. Maybe naive. Or unlucky.

Deal breaker

Been there done that one…..after 25 years of being married to the selfish pig and suffering many other problems within the marriage I finally left him. If this is his only fault then ok but if there”s others into the bargain get out now. He will never change and you will be the one to suffer throughout the relationship. He won’t care, it’s all about him unfortunately.