To resent that my future depends on whether a man deems me good enough

No, not so hard to understand, I get it. I just found it odd that she says if more people were single,.etc. That's an odd thing to say. Why would it make a difference if more people were single?

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It's not at all strange. When being in a couple is the norm with the people around you, you stick out like a sore thumb when you are single.
When everyone around you is single it's different. Your friends do not have other priorities, you can go out together. No one is the odd one out, no one feels they are missing out.
You wouldn't mind that.
There is a natural progression, and if you are single in your thirties, or find yourself single again, it's hard to meet someone.
Round one of coupling up is over, you are now in round two, and it's more difficult.
OP wants to meet someone decent and have a relationship is that so hard to understand?

If more people were single, you say you wouldn't mind? This to me is strange. So if more people were single you would be absolutely okay with being single?

I meant to add that it might be a good idea if the OP kept off Facebook and social media as the curated happy couples stuff is obviously an irritant.

Back to the OP🙄I’m an old ‘un and think that OLD and general attitudes now make it harder to find commitment. There was an old saying about why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free? Sure, nothing was perfect sex wise, but the quick availability of sex now before a relationship has truly formed means people move on.
The argument for/against dating work colleagues is interesting as many marriages arise out of working together and finding more than just superficialities in a person, a true bond.

I really sympathise with the OP as I have a young friend in the same boat and nowadays on the whole, it seems to be easy come easy go. There is so much luck involved in finding a life companion and I wish the OP all the very best in the future, 33 is not old to me so stay hopeful, get a cat and therapy in the meantime.

How dare a woman speak negatively about men on a woman’s forum!!!? What was I thinking?

I attacked men..bunch of pickmes turned up to rage. So yeah, I’m just having fun now.

You should see how they talk about us on their forums..you’ll never see them defending us.

Only person mentioning it is you.

And you realise it's libel to write untrue things about other people (stating PPs husband is searching the vile things you keep talking about).

Don't worry. I think they're out to cause conflict only and will be picked up by MNHQ soon enough.

Well it's pretty much only you mentioning them in here so it is you who is the obsessed one.

Arguing with you is like playing chess with a pigdeon.
They knock all the pieces over, shit all.over the board then strut around like they won.

It’s all mentioned in the OP!!!

It’s really not true, they’re people, same as women. Some are arseholes and the reasons that statistically this is recorded more in men is complex and not as straight forward as quoting figures on porn use.

It’s sad that you are so closed minded that you won’t see this, perhaps because you’ve had a rough time I don’t know, but if you spend your time looking for something you will see it everywhere, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy.

I ruffled a few feathers with truth, oops 🙊

Good luck ladies, gonna need it 👾
Out

If this can be solved by good parenting, you must have a very low opinion of mothers/women too.

Christ this thread is depressing.

OP - You’re coming across as angry and negative on here, you’re trying to dictate what people can and can’t say to you in a pretty combative way. You’re also incredibly negative about this people that you’ve dated, placing yourself on a higher level than them.

I get that you’re annoyed and upset about all this but be honest - would you want to date someone who thought they were better than you? Who was angry at everyone because they felt they’d been given a rough hand in life? Who lumped together everyone who was the same sex as you in such negative terms whilst simultaneously wanting a long term relationship with you? I wouldn’t. The reason people are saying these cliches to you repeatedly are because they’re true. I wonder if there is more going on than this? Someone asked upthread and I can’t see an answer, have you had therapy or would you consider it?

Can we agree to disagree and stop derailing the thread...?

What I speak -is- the real world. If you have daughters, best learn quickly.

You seem obsessed with porn site on most of your posts,

Just because you had a ex who was scum doesn't mean all men are.

The numbers speak, I don’t need to. You think onlyfans is one of the fastest growing sites in existence because I’m delusional? 👹

80-90% married men, btw

I know it causes a lot of butthurt to say the majority of men are the pits and not good enough for a wife, but it’s true Just because you say "it's true" that doesn't make it so. Many men think the majority of women are too masculine, they nag too much and are openly hostile towards them and men in general, doesn't necessarily make it true. (I can, however, see where they might get that idea from)

Oh this is always my favourite.

You don’t need to be. I’m gonna raise him to respect women and himself :-) …and hopefully 🙏 he won’t be the type of man I’m talking about.

I know it causes a lot of butthurt to say the majority of men are the pits and not good enough for a wife, but it’s true 🤷‍♀️

Meanwhile in the realworld outside bangwam1 delusions.

Nope majority of men aren't predators. Get help.

It's so sad to read this thread. My dad loved me unconditionally. There was no benefit for that to be a lie. My sons including my adult son loves me with no view of personal gain. My dh has been with me for over three decades and dispite not being perfect he is us here faithful and supports me so he I'd more than good enough.

Is this like a female Incel?

Absolutely to both @retinolalcohol and @prinkfloyd .