To resent that my future depends on whether a man deems me good enough

Actually, some of them are single - highly desirable and charismatic as well as wealthy and successful.

We already had this convo in another thread, where I went through all the ways you're wrong.

25 yr olds with almost no relationship experience, who read incel red pill shit all day, shouldn't be giving advice to adult women.

I'm not sure the OP needs to be burdened with your issues.

She has enough of her own.

'Trust'.

He’s got a very low opinion of women in general, and yes, a benzo addiction affects your brain usually in not a good way.

Love this attitude. Good men don't aim young, and I too look better than my chubby faced non stylish insecure self in my teens and 20s. I get asked out more now in my 40s, stared at etc

Old is full of cheaters, sex seekers etc

They project their own motivations onto women on there.

I remember a guy asking me if I was "adventurous" after a couple of messages.

I just ended the convo shortly after but I felt like saying "well I've done a solo parachute jump, travelled around west Africa, taught Tefl in Japan" etc but you don't mean that, do you?You mean some BS clicked sexual nonsense; I'm not "adventurous" if i don't send you noods or have sex; which would actually be the definition of not non adventurous, because I've fucked numerous men before.

Then there was the guy who announced he was a really good kisser in the middle of our convo about our jobs, industry, tech etc.

Most women I know who've done OLD have gotten dick pics.

There are just so many creeps and chancers on there.

Are you trying any other ways of meeting people?

I think that’s great. I wish more women felt like that.

objectively I think all women have something attractive about them.

I know you are struggling, but try not to lose that.

However, if no man has wanted to date you for more than a couple of months, there’s obviously something not working.

Do you have any friends that would be absolutely (but kindly) honest with you?

You only have to look on mumsnet for a few days to realise those so called perfect relationships are actually not perfect at all

You have made a lucky escape. You don’t want one, trust 💖

Use them and throw them away, like they do us

I guess that these men met their wives while both young and the wives were smart enough to stick with them.

Anyway, attractive and wealthy does not necessarily equal charismatic.

well I'd say this looks like desperation to me....sorry but you did ask.
"I can't have a child alone, I don't have local family, I can't afford to be a single parent financially or otherwise, period.

Honestly, my mental health has been shot to pieces. Life still has meaning, but it's unfair that I'm deprived of what seems to come so easily to other people."

Exactly. I am early forties, eight years older than you. I look way way better than I did in my twenties, and though I say it as shouldn't, better than many of the over made up, overweight, and overbotoxed women that I see in their twenties now.

What does his benzo use have to do with things? And he is not a 'misogynist'. I knew that the very mention of him would bring out all the kneejerk reactions, though, so thanks for proving me right. If you don't like him, fine. My advice was for the OP.

Maybe the guys you dated have a different opinion hence the reason I’m advising some introspection on your part and some feedback from them .

A lot of 30-35 year olds go for women their age. It is a myth that every man wants a young woman. Especially considering that so so many young women look like Love Island candidates. OP should take heart and think of Sienna Miller: just had her second child with a man in his late twenties. Of course, celebrities are different from most people but I fail to believe that a beautiful, successful, talented woman is going to be rejected by men her own age.

Non of those things make someone mediocre. They make someone mediocre to YOU. You have no idea if other women fall into this category or not. Or wether other people feel the same.

What is ‘limited ambition’?

and what exactly is intelligence? Only someone who has a degree from certain universities? IQ?

Attractiveness is subjective as is charisma. Not even sure what interest is to be honest.

The point is you don’t know Op and you don’t know these other women to know what they are like. As far as you know Op may have no charisma in real life at all. Would you then downgrade her to mediocre?

Personally, I don’t see anyone as mediocre I think it’s a really shitty thing to decide unless someone fits these really narrow list of YOUR preferences they must be less than.

Jordan Peterson is quite a pill popping misogynist so any dating advice by the guy should be taken with a massive pinch of salt.

Also wrong. Your're making some ridiculous generalisations. I have plenty of wealthy, successful, attractive male friends in my social circle who don't fit with any of your assumptions. Again, what you're claiming may be true of some men but most definitely not all.

Does that cover married couples?

Doesn't look like it.

Maybe you’re doing something wrong? (I don’t know you so have no idea). 12 years of continuous rejection is too much. I would take some accountability, immerse myself in an introspective journey and call some of those ex’s who rejected you and ask them “why” (tell them you’re doing some self introspection research), once you have enough responses see if there’s a pattern.

Oh great, we really need an incel, red piller on this thread (Euro).