Is it rude not to acknowledge dog?

It’s actually great, isn’t it, that there is such an easy way of weeding people out?

I love dogs and cats and have always had them, but the idea of having to fawn over someone’s “fur baby” and be forced to say hello to it or I won’t be welcome … well, it makes me quite nauseous TBH.

So fantastic to know I wouldn’t be wanted as a friend to someone who would behave that way.

I have a cat. If visitors don’t acknowledge her in her own home they go down hugely in my estimation.

I'm sure they must be devastated.

Great analogy

It's personal preference though, when I had a cat I preferred non-cat people to ignore him. Why would I want him to have contact with someone who doesn't like him. Yes I was overly protective

My son has a dog phobia because some relatives let their huge dogs gallop at us the first time we visited… my son was only one and was terrified. I had him in my arms and they jumped up all over me. Dog owners can be SO clueless about their “babies”. Not all of them but many of them.

Now my son is phobic, we get a lot of dogs coming close to us - parks, cafes, on the pavement - and the owners without fail shout ‘she/he’s friendly don’t worry!!’ - but that doesn’t really help with a phobia does it. Maybe just control your dog a bit better?!

I have a cat. If visitors don’t acknowledge her in her own home they go down hugely in my estimation. I don’t expect anything more than Hello and maybe letting her sniff your hand if she comes over but to actually ignore her innocent trust is just rude and shows me a visitor is not someone I want to visit again.

I'm allergic to cats.
Your attitude reminds me of some dickhead bloke I met back in the 90s as a young teenager.
He snorted and refused to move his precious cat from the room despite me visibly being uncomfortable. Didn't believe I was uncomfortable or allergic.
Just "appreciate my cat!"
I spent over an hour on the doorstep and he didn't give.a shit.
Point is nobody has to love your balls of fur, why expect everyone to just handshake it or sniff your hand, fuck that

I have a cat. If visitors don’t acknowledge her in her own home they go down hugely in my estimation. I don’t expect anything more than Hello and maybe letting her sniff your hand if she comes over but to actually ignore her innocent trust is just rude and shows me a visitor is not someone I want to visit again.
The issue of a dog jumping up is separate to whether you should in general be polite enough to acknowledge an animal. If you are frightened/ uncomfortable with dogs then discuss this before visiting. Most dogs just want to be friendly and over enthusiasm in this is hardly the worst behaviour but if it is too much for you raise the matter before visiting again.
Whilst not everybody likes animals it is common manners to respect your host’s home and family and whether you agree or not pet animals are family to the better owners.
I don’t really like babies and toddlers but if I visited somebody with a child wanting to say hello (or even if they didn’t) I would never be so rude as to ignore them.

Speak for yourself.

I only visit homes to which I have been invited. Fortunately, almost all dog owners are more considerate than you.

Well, that’s what people are thinking if you don’t teach your dog to behave around visitors.

You are doing the right thing with a jumpy dog. Mine barks at people when they come to the house and I tell them to just ignore her and when she calms down you can say hello. She calms down much quicker this way, otherwise she would just keep on barking. You aren't completely ignoring the dog either as you pat it when it comes and sits next to you.

I'm sure they won't be arsed if you visit or not then.

Every dog is a potentially dangerous breed.

Well trained (and thus secure) dogs do not jump at visitors.

There is no valid comparison between a dog and a child.

A dog's interaction with people should always be on the people's terms, not the dog's.

Dogs are not human and their needs differ from ours. In particular they need to feel the security of having a leader, namely their owner, so establishing who is in charge via obedience training and consistent setting of norms of behaviour makes them feel secure. Dog owners who let their dogs get away with unacceptable behaviour are not respecting the nature of their pets.

That sort of attitude just gives the dog notions.

I wouldn't want to go in the dog's home more than once if it's owner didn’t make sure the bloody thing behaved.

If the dog's owner thinks they're doing me some kind of favour by letting me in their home to be harassed by their wretched animal, they've made a sad mistake.

Not only would I ignore the dog, I'd ask that he or she be crated for my visit.

This dog is going to make your children nervous around dogs.

so non dog people have to learn all about dog behaviour because the actual owner cannot be arsed to train it.

In a nutshell if the dog has something in its mouth (ball, toy, stick etc) it will probably be ok. If the owner is calm & relaxed the dog is likely to be to. If there are small kids in a group the dog is more likely to be ok as the owners probably have trained it.

dog not happy when it stares at you, heckles go up and growls. Hysterical owner shouting dog is just being friendly also a 🚩. Never have food on you near a dog either - whole new set of rules.

Rude? 😂
Acknowledging dog is a choice, as long as the animal doesn't get startled by you.
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@LuckySantangelo35 in the dogs own home, they absolutely DO have more rights. Your ass can sit on the floor as far as I'm concerned 🤣

All my friends and family have dogs and /or are dog lovers. I think it's rude to ignore a dog, I had a newish friend that came to my house the first time (and last) and she rolled her eyes and sort of swatted her hand in their direction whilst making faces like she was disgusted.

Thing is she knew we have dogs, they weren't jumping up or being noisy. That was the last time I saw or spoke to her because she pissed me off so much. So damned rude.

The “creature” that’s demands attention and gets it is the dominant creature. ie the dog jumping at you and getting up in your grill is demanding energy and when the human responds with claps etc they’re doing what the dog wants.

In a pack, subordinates and puppies get all excited and jumpy when greeting the alpha/dominant dogs who remain disinterested and bored looking. The attention interaction stops when the dominant dog decides it does. If this D(og)IL jumps up, demands attention and gets it then buggers off when it wants to leaving the humans patting the air then the dog is completely in charge and is allowing humans to share its space and look after it!

Nobody needs to like dogs, you can be scared of dogs if you want to, you do not need to interact with any dog, ever. I would absolutely encourage people to teach their kids to be wary of dogs as there are so many badly trained dogs about these days that always have a breathless owner running after them (if you’re lucky) panting “It’s ok….hes freindly…he won’t bite…oh he just likes to nip…it’s like a kiss, isn’t Fido?” 🙄Teach them to recognise a calm, happy dog and how to avoid pissing jumpy ones that lick their faces and scratch them/knock them over.

OP, I recommend researching dog body language so you know when that dog is about to get dangerous. Did I read correctly that your husband who doesn’t own the dog, has to hold the lead because its owners aren’t strong enough to hold it. That added to the fact it can get its paws on your shoulders suggests it’s a big dog, potentially young, that is going to get worse. If you have to be near it (and I would refuse. I’ve had that family argument 😀), familiarise yourself with dog signals so you the danger signs. Don’t let your children play with it and always keep them in sight.

Of course you can pet it if you want to but if you do, completely ignore it when you arrive (fold your arms and turn away with knee to the chin if you want), wait for it to walk off and do something else then call it over to you. You then finish the exchange (if it walked off before I was ready to I’d call it back again etc but I’m petty 😬).

PS I bloody LOVE dogs and have had them all my life 🐶🐶🐶

@Wills890

dogs don’t have more rights than humans EVER

@BabyBobs

just you.

@TheRiddle

train your dog better so it doesn’t jump up. People don’t want that when they have nice clothes on etc .

Is it just me that says, "Hello, how are you?" to every dog, cat, horse, rabbit, Guinea pig, hamster etc that they meet! 😬