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bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:40

It's now past 9:30. It's a warm day and I'm staying at my parents's house with the window in the bedroom open and toddler asleep next door. Kids are outside kicking a ball and screaming at each other. I'm all for playing outside and making noise in the day - go for it and have fun! But after 9pm I feel it's just not on. Maybe I'm just getting older and more miserable but it's really annoyed me tonight. What are your thoughts - AIBU?

OP posts:
oakleaffy · 22/06/2024 23:42

Wills890 · 22/06/2024 21:46

Because they are children enjoying their childhood and freedom and are enjoying themselves...it's the weekend! Leave them be.

Screeching like they have red hot pokers up their derrieres? it sounds like they are being tortured.
It's not normal noise.

It's ragged shrill screeching that is far from pleasant.

DingDongDenny · 22/06/2024 23:33

Kids can still enjoy themselves without screetching. That way everyone else can enjoy the Summer nights as well. People are far too precous these days about centering kids all the time at the expense of everyone else, it does them no good

Lovepeaceunderstanding · 22/06/2024 23:32

No you are not being unreasonable @bloodyhellKen22 it appears to me that many parents these days are bringing up selfish and entitled children. God help us all. 😔

Marblessolveeverything · 22/06/2024 23:32

bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:48

@OhHelloMiss oh I completely agree with this, but just before 9pm would be nice.

I don't actually know why 9pm - I suppose it's the watershed and it feels more like an appropriate bed time.

Noise rules generally state 11pm. It's summer break here so children are in holiday mode 🤷‍♀️

Soonenough · 22/06/2024 23:30

The screaming is hard to take I agree. But normal playing should be OK . The world doesn't revolve around any one group , like babies, etc. I lived in a city with constant noise , just a fact of life . So few opportunities to kids to congregate outside . Just have to put up with it I'm afraid.

RedHelenB · 22/06/2024 23:23

I think yabu. It's still light, it's summer let them enjoy themselves.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 22/06/2024 23:22

We are passed the days of "children should be seen and not heard"

I bet they've been in for at least an hour now as it goes dark and the temp drops

Summer hols start in a few weeks... better start getting used to it

brunettemic · 22/06/2024 23:22

Your child is asleep, you’re not at your house and you’re in bed really early. Seems more like a you problem than anything else.

Everythingiscalmfornow · 22/06/2024 23:14

MissingKitty · 22/06/2024 22:29

OP isn’t even in her own home though, she’s visiting someone else’s

Actually I realise I've used this thread to sound off a bit about my own situation because it's really making me miserable ATM.
But even if OP is not in her own home she still has a right to be annoyed about the noise.

MissingKitty · 22/06/2024 22:46

SkeletonBatsflyatnight · 22/06/2024 22:42

My kids are still outside playing football with their cousins.

You arent in North East Scotland are you OP?

How old are your kids? Is it a special occasion?

SkeletonBatsflyatnight · 22/06/2024 22:42

My kids are still outside playing football with their cousins.

You arent in North East Scotland are you OP?

Hb7x3 · 22/06/2024 22:33

Adults never sit outside late into the evening and make noise, never ever 😄

MissingKitty · 22/06/2024 22:29

Everythingiscalmfornow · 22/06/2024 22:17

Well the children I have the problem with are playing outside my house EVERY evening - not just the weekend.
Also they don't even live in my street. They just congregate here. And they are extremely cheeky and some of them very foul mouthed. As well as very noisy.
I think it's great children get the chance to play outside. But they shouldn't be making life difficult for people who are trying to get on with their lives in their own homes.

OP isn’t even in her own home though, she’s visiting someone else’s

RobinHood19 · 22/06/2024 22:18

Wouldn’t bother me at all. But I was raised somewhere where at 9:30pm you’re just starting your evening, children, dogs etc in tow. I love a loud summer night!

Everythingiscalmfornow · 22/06/2024 22:17

Sagarmatha · 22/06/2024 22:01

Totally this. Fgs it's the first weekend of warm weather we've had, it's the longest day. Celebrate that they are outside playing not inside on a bloody screen.

If you were in France or Spain this would be expected in mid summer.

Well the children I have the problem with are playing outside my house EVERY evening - not just the weekend.
Also they don't even live in my street. They just congregate here. And they are extremely cheeky and some of them very foul mouthed. As well as very noisy.
I think it's great children get the chance to play outside. But they shouldn't be making life difficult for people who are trying to get on with their lives in their own homes.

Bearbookagainandagain · 22/06/2024 22:16

There is no chance i would have been allowed to scream and screech outside at 9:30pm as a kid, nor would I allow my kids to do so.

You know: parenting, respecting others and all that...

Sensitive2024 · 22/06/2024 22:13

My neighbours 2 doors down are having a party. In their garden . Music/base and laughing. Kids excited etc. I can easy sleep though it though. So can my kids. I think maybe it because I never made things quite for them.

ButtermilkBeetroot · 22/06/2024 22:09

We have this, thankfully not screaming and I don't mind hearing them play generally but we have asked them to pack it in with the incessant basketball after 9.30pm.

Sockmate123 · 22/06/2024 22:06

I love my kids playing outside and encourage it but they are in from 9pm for showers and a snack before bed. They are 12 and 9. However there are 4 year olds on my road that are regularly outside til 10.30 or later screaming, crying, shouting etc I think its neglectful. When do these children shower is what I wonder 🤔 I love Autumn and Spring more than Summer for that reason. Brighter long days bit still dark at 8.30ish so at least things quieten down then.

wastingtimeonhere · 22/06/2024 22:03

It's not the playing, being outside, making happy noise, being children that's a problem, it's the screeching like they are being tortured that is.

Universalsnail · 22/06/2024 22:02

I think 10 pm is the cut off really. If it's light outside I think it's fine.

Everythingiscalmfornow · 22/06/2024 22:01

So I've got a grass embankment opposite my house. For the past almost 3 weeks I
been having a problem with a gang of older primary school children playing there. And I'm talking about literally for hours on end. The really irritating thing is there is a playing field with basketball net and children's play equipment a two minute walk round the corner.
It's mainly girls and the noise they make is unbelievable. I don't understand this full on screaming. I was always taught
about the "crying wolf" thing: you don't scream when you are playing because then if any thing bad happens and you scream people will think you are just playing. Well these girls literally scream most of the time. If anyone was, God forbid, to hurt them or abduct them or similar no one would take any notice because they scream all the time.
Last night it was 10 pm when they left. Tonight a bit earlier. And I'm worn out with them. I've started looking at houses on Rightmove but I expect any where I could afford to move to would have similar problems . And other unrelated ones as well.

So OP I. totally sympathise with you.
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Sagarmatha · 22/06/2024 22:01

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 22/06/2024 21:48

It's still light outside
It's a weekend
Let them have fun and remember your little one will be their age soon and you'll want them to be able to enjoy their childhood

Totally this. Fgs it's the first weekend of warm weather we've had, it's the longest day. Celebrate that they are outside playing not inside on a bloody screen.

If you were in France or Spain this would be expected in mid summer.

Nouvellenovel · 22/06/2024 21:59

Well the dc are playing in their own neighbourhood and you’re the visitor op so I think you need to accept it.
They’ll be gone in soon.

TheTartfulLodger · 22/06/2024 21:55

bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:49

@TheTartfulLodger yes but my mum would have asked us to either quiet down or come inside as she would have been mindful of the people around us.

And we would have completely ignored them yes 😂

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