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It's a noisy kids outside one

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bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:40

It's now past 9:30. It's a warm day and I'm staying at my parents's house with the window in the bedroom open and toddler asleep next door. Kids are outside kicking a ball and screaming at each other. I'm all for playing outside and making noise in the day - go for it and have fun! But after 9pm I feel it's just not on. Maybe I'm just getting older and more miserable but it's really annoyed me tonight. What are your thoughts - AIBU?

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dottiedodah · 24/06/2024 08:42

Well this wouldnt really bother me that much .I hate drilling,banging and chainsaw noise ! Its been quite miserable for June up to now ,surely they can play out in the warm evenings .I would let them enjoy themselves! No I dont have young DC or GC yet .Our NDN are playing footie in the evenings , and making a noise . No worries !

mrsDracoMalfoy · 24/06/2024 08:28

Can't win
Inside watching screens - bad
Outside playing when it's still daylight and cooler - bad

🙄

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

Ginmonkeyagain · 24/06/2024 08:22

Also it is a bit unreasonable to expect total silence at 9.30pm on a Summer Saturday evening.

That is an unusually early bed time for a adult, particularly in summer when it is still warm and light.

Kinshipug · 24/06/2024 08:08

Mumsnet - kids are all fat because they're inside all day.
Also mumsnet -how dare children play outside in summertime

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:06

The estate I grew up on (council estate not a private country estate manor), it was all concrete paths, walkways, garages, greens dotted about with no ball game signs which we ignored, and the adults let us ignore them, noise from us kids would echo around the place as we played in big groups from morning until the street lamps come on. We were sometimes noisy, sometimes not, adults sometimes would move us on to another part of the estate, tell us to shut the hell up or sometimes just leave us to it. Sometimes they would piss themselves laughing at us, sometimes tell us off. Sometimes the adults would argue with each other and we would stare like dogs looking at a cooked chicken then burst out laughing when they all walked off and slammed their doors!

we would get up to mischief with stuff we found, old shopping trolleys or junk, we would roam around on our bikes, skate boards or roller skates, we were kids, that was life. If one of us got hurt, whichever mother was at home in the flat or house nearest would rush out and scoop us up or we would get given squash by someone else’s mum, the whole feral group of us, if we asked randomly.

Ok so sounds a bit like a council estate Enid Blyton novel, but it’s actually how it was. Obviously as is life, it wasn’t all roses, but I think we are getting more intolerant in some ways as a society, I hope childhoods like this still exist (without all the indoor smoking and no seatbelts in the back of cars with hot plastic seats and full ashtrays 😂), but I doubt it reading Mumsnet!

Jifmicroliquid · 24/06/2024 08:02

Im not a fan of children but I strangely like the sound of kids playing out in summer. Maybe because it reminds me of my childhood when the neighbourhood sounded like that all summer, whereas now with the weather and technology, not as many kids play out.

S0livagant · 24/06/2024 08:00

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 07:42

You said same privileges, adults doing this would be annoying too. OP was talking about kids playing in their own garden at 9.30 on a sunny day when she didn’t even live there. You stop being ridiculous.

Exactly. Same privileges for both.

It's the adults fault if they don't like the noise as they don't let the kids take themselves to the woods and fields anymore, they only have the street.

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 07:55

They're just playing. I couldn't get worked up about it tbh. Kids need to play.

CandiedPrincess · 24/06/2024 07:52

Nah 9.30pm is hardly late. If it was after 10pm then maybe.

Ginmonkeyagain · 24/06/2024 07:49

Ahh man, we were basically feral in summer as my parents worked long hours farming (harvesting only stops when the light goes).

I have great memories of totally free summer holidays playing out round the village and cycling out in the warm, light evenings.

Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 07:46

Ha ha I bloody love this - first weekend of decent weather, still broad daylight and MN kicking off about kids being outside in their own street.

Just out of interest, how many posters on here have read or posted outraged/smug comments on either of the 2 massive threads currently running about how awfully fat UK children are and how none of them move around or play outside anymore??

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 07:42

Gingerdancedbackwards · 24/06/2024 07:27

Stop being ridiculous. You know it relates to letting them shout and scream at unsocial hours

You said same privileges, adults doing this would be annoying too. OP was talking about kids playing in their own garden at 9.30 on a sunny day when she didn’t even live there. You stop being ridiculous.

Gingerdancedbackwards · 24/06/2024 07:27

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 07:25

The ‘privileges’ of using their garden in summer?

Stop being ridiculous. You know it relates to letting them shout and scream at unsocial hours

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 07:25

Gingerdancedbackwards · 24/06/2024 06:29

It's the principle. Parents thinking their children are entitled to the same privileges, thus bein inconsiderate of other adults
Kids aren't the issue

The ‘privileges’ of using their garden in summer?

Gingerdancedbackwards · 24/06/2024 06:29

Wills890 · 23/06/2024 07:04

Well...this is Mumsnet after all. Not sure why people who whinge about not liking children would be here 🤷

It's the principle. Parents thinking their children are entitled to the same privileges, thus bein inconsiderate of other adults
Kids aren't the issue

HoneyButterPopcorn · 23/06/2024 17:07

One of our neighbours seem to throw their kids out into the road at stupid o'clock to scream their little heads off (sometimes they play skittles - wooden skittles). Another neighbours child was blowing into a recorder in the street from about 6:30 this morning. Blowing, not playing. Stopped about 10am. Another leaves their poor dog out on the balcony and it howls the place down.

I have to admire their lungs.

Oh did I mention they are in a mews so it echoes like crazy?

SmellyNelliey · 23/06/2024 08:40

I've 4 children and they can be loud but there in bed washed and fast asleep by 9pm on the weekend 8pm on a weekday.
I often think about the lack of parenting for a few children on my street who are out past ten as young as 5years old! And the screaming 😱 I've popped out a few times thinking one had been ran over!

A1ia · 23/06/2024 08:31

I can definitely sympathise. The family next door have a habit of only coming outside after about 9pm. They have there small children (no older than 7/8) who then run around screaming on the grass beside the road in the street until at least 11pm whilst the parents sit there smoking weed. If the smell of the weed doesn't force us into shutting the windows, the screaming does. Not ideal really especially when we are a household who heads to bed by 10pm due to being up before 6am. It is one of the only things I prefer about the winter months to be honest.

Snugglemonkey · 23/06/2024 08:16

oakleaffy · 22/06/2024 23:42

Screeching like they have red hot pokers up their derrieres? it sounds like they are being tortured.
It's not normal noise.

It's ragged shrill screeching that is far from pleasant.

I cannot stand the screeching. My dc would never be allowed to do that. I am grand with playing outside though. They get little enough opportunity!

Westfacing · 23/06/2024 08:04

AffableApple · 23/06/2024 07:56

Nothing "even" about wind chimes. People who put those up are selfish arseholes. Clanging noise for noise's sake, inflicted on others - so selfish!

Other peoples windchimes and water features are torture - I'd rather listen to traffic!

AffableApple · 23/06/2024 07:56

Dowhatyouwanttodo · 22/06/2024 21:41

It would annoy me but I’m not very noise tolerant. Even the neighbour’s wind chimes annoy me.

Nothing "even" about wind chimes. People who put those up are selfish arseholes. Clanging noise for noise's sake, inflicted on others - so selfish!

TeenLifeMum · 23/06/2024 07:54

I’ve always seen threads like this and thought people were grumpy because children playing is a nice sound… until a few weekends ago when I walked the dog in a different area of town and omg the screeching was horrific. I can’t believe there are parents who are fine with this. Mind you, I’m sat in the garden with a coffee and our neighbour has been mowing the lawn since 7am which I also find rude. I’m far too British to say anything but I’ll sit here and grumble.

Busby88 · 23/06/2024 07:51

YABU. It’s summer, we’ve had pretty lousy weather so far, and recently there have been a load of posts on MN about obese kids not getting enough exercise! Honestly kids can’t do right for doing wrong sometimes. Stick some ear plugs in.

S0livagant · 23/06/2024 07:50

Gingerdancedbackwards · 23/06/2024 06:54

Read the post - i said it applied to adults/lawnmowers etc....

I asked what are they ruining that adults wouldn't. I agree that there are understandings between neighbours but I would not differentiate between adult and child noise.

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