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bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:40

It's now past 9:30. It's a warm day and I'm staying at my parents's house with the window in the bedroom open and toddler asleep next door. Kids are outside kicking a ball and screaming at each other. I'm all for playing outside and making noise in the day - go for it and have fun! But after 9pm I feel it's just not on. Maybe I'm just getting older and more miserable but it's really annoyed me tonight. What are your thoughts - AIBU?

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Buryyiirwhat · 25/06/2024 12:42

Yup! My sisters neighbour has a new guy, and apparently he likes to sit in the garden chain smoking weed with friends to the early hours - they’ve had to shut all doors and windows because it stinks so much…

Tumbleweed101 · 24/06/2024 19:15

I'd much rather hear children playing than loud music or hot tubs and pools.

I keep forgetting how late it is at the moment so I suspect parents are too.

Buryyiirwhat · 24/06/2024 18:02

Now we live on a street with a primary school and I love the sound of the kids coming and going, playing out.

Buryyiirwhat · 24/06/2024 18:01

Beezknees · 24/06/2024 17:14

YABU in my opinion. Kids can't win, you all moan about them being on screens too much but then moan when they're outside playing. People expect children to be seen and not heard. 9.30 isn't even late.

Now, my noisy adult neighbour in my apartment block shouting and swearing and banging around at 3am is another story.

Exactly! I have been disturbed many times over the years, but rarely by the sound of children playing… the guy who mowed his lawn at 7am on Sundays, the woman in the flat below us who worked in clubs so would come home in the early hours and clean/ vacuum or party, the bloke who came home from the pub on a Friday and screamed at his Mrs ( back when the police weren’t interested in ‘domestics’), students in the house opposite who had endless midweek parties and on and on…

Beezknees · 24/06/2024 17:14

YABU in my opinion. Kids can't win, you all moan about them being on screens too much but then moan when they're outside playing. People expect children to be seen and not heard. 9.30 isn't even late.

Now, my noisy adult neighbour in my apartment block shouting and swearing and banging around at 3am is another story.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 16:53

And now the twatty parents are out on the roof, music blaring, setting up for a party. Sigh. I loved the old owners (it’s all short rents now) who were musicians and on occasion one of them would play beautiful classical music.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 13:14

When we were kids if we got loud or lairy mum would send us indoors because 'why shouldn't neighbours have to listen to us??' Shame the man with the bagpipes didn't take that advice every bloody Sunday morning when he practices in the back garden.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 13:12

Wooden skittles bouncing down an echoes mews - at 6:30am. Lord they make a racket! For some reason the little darlings don't play skittles at other times of the day, just silly o'clock.

Maybe because mommy is too busy smoking weed on her balcony...

ohtowinthelottery · 24/06/2024 11:46

Meant to say the shouting and excitement is fine but not the screeching

ohtowinthelottery · 24/06/2024 11:44

OMG, the screeching! What is that even about and why don't the parents tell them to stop it.
One of my neighbours children had friends in the garden the other day. The shouting to each other, the excitement, even the music (although it could have been turned down a little - they were very good at asking Alexa to change the song!) but why in God's name do they need to scream? I'm talking DCs up to age 11 here, not toddlers! And there were parents around so it must surely drive them mad too.

By contrast my other neighbours were in the garden with their 4 and 2 year olds. The 4 year old was 'whinging' apparently - although I didn't hear him. But DH heard the parents quite clearly say ' if you continue, we will have to go I side as the neighbours don't want to listen to that!' And they followed through! Model parenting, showing consideration for others! (I will add that the child was allowed out again after a period of time but no doubt with a further warning!)

loropianalover · 24/06/2024 11:28

You’ve have loads of replies OP, just want to say I feel for you but unfortunately it’s just one of those things isn’t it 🙈

We have a group of boys on our green who are there from sun up to sun down screaming at each other, wrestling, fighting, swearing, screaming, crying, and then 10 mins later are best friends again and all laughing. There’s a few that throw very loud strops and whinge a lot, it’s annoying to listen to but better that they’re expelling energy doing this rather than causing trouble or on screens at home. This is my first summer living in this house so I am dreading it a bit but ultimately just have to ignore it! I usually have TV on downstairs for background noise and try to focus on that. I leave ‘classical’ music on overnight on my Alexa too which blocks out the busy street outside.

Cooper77 · 24/06/2024 11:27

There really ought to be stricter laws on noise pollution. It ruins lives. It's not so important in a country like Australia, where you have lots of personal space. But in a small, densely populated country like the UK, where we're all jammed on top of another, noisy people can, and do, ruin lives.

Most people are reasonable. If you ask them politely to stop their dog barking, they'll apologise and do what they can. Unfortunately, that isn't always the way. I have known two different people driven to suicide attempts by the noisy, anti-social scumbags who moved in next door.

Buryyiirwhat · 24/06/2024 11:23

YABU!
All I seem to hear about modern kids is
‘kids these days on on screens too much, don’t go outside as much, are all obese, don’t have the freedom we had…’

yet as soon as they do a normal thing, like play outside on a sunny, bright evening out the whingers come…9.30pm isn’t that late when we have light til 10.30pm in some parts… suck it up, it’ll soon be too dark for them to go out after 5pm…

KimberleyClark · 24/06/2024 11:16

Wills890 · 23/06/2024 07:04

Well...this is Mumsnet after all. Not sure why people who whinge about not liking children would be here 🤷

Mumsnet is full of people who love their own children but can’t stand other people’s.

Cattery · 24/06/2024 11:16

Kids where I live are all in school atm but I’m just having to listen to some filthy pig snorting then gobbing on the pavement.

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 11:10

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 10:58

6:30 am on a Sunday morning isn’t a reasonable time for your kids to be screaming in an echoey mews. Trust me.

They scream, throw wooden along the cobblestones, hoot their recorders (because they certainly can’t play them) and just make noise.

The ones next to us are loud kids - yelling, screaming, shouting ‘mommy! She’s being meeeeeeeaaaaan to meeeeeeeeee’…

I agree 6:30 am is too early to go un the garden.

However, another poster was moaning because children just squeal and don't play games, your neighbours play skittles and you're complaining about that. They cant win!

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 11:06

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:06

The estate I grew up on (council estate not a private country estate manor), it was all concrete paths, walkways, garages, greens dotted about with no ball game signs which we ignored, and the adults let us ignore them, noise from us kids would echo around the place as we played in big groups from morning until the street lamps come on. We were sometimes noisy, sometimes not, adults sometimes would move us on to another part of the estate, tell us to shut the hell up or sometimes just leave us to it. Sometimes they would piss themselves laughing at us, sometimes tell us off. Sometimes the adults would argue with each other and we would stare like dogs looking at a cooked chicken then burst out laughing when they all walked off and slammed their doors!

we would get up to mischief with stuff we found, old shopping trolleys or junk, we would roam around on our bikes, skate boards or roller skates, we were kids, that was life. If one of us got hurt, whichever mother was at home in the flat or house nearest would rush out and scoop us up or we would get given squash by someone else’s mum, the whole feral group of us, if we asked randomly.

Ok so sounds a bit like a council estate Enid Blyton novel, but it’s actually how it was. Obviously as is life, it wasn’t all roses, but I think we are getting more intolerant in some ways as a society, I hope childhoods like this still exist (without all the indoor smoking and no seatbelts in the back of cars with hot plastic seats and full ashtrays 😂), but I doubt it reading Mumsnet!

Yup totally agree with all of this! Council estate kid here and it was great. People take themselves too seriously these days.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 10:58

Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 07:46

Ha ha I bloody love this - first weekend of decent weather, still broad daylight and MN kicking off about kids being outside in their own street.

Just out of interest, how many posters on here have read or posted outraged/smug comments on either of the 2 massive threads currently running about how awfully fat UK children are and how none of them move around or play outside anymore??

6:30 am on a Sunday morning isn’t a reasonable time for your kids to be screaming in an echoey mews. Trust me.

They scream, throw wooden along the cobblestones, hoot their recorders (because they certainly can’t play them) and just make noise.

The ones next to us are loud kids - yelling, screaming, shouting ‘mommy! She’s being meeeeeeeaaaaan to meeeeeeeeee’…

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:57

The idea that kids just squeal nowadays is hilarious, kids voices haven’t changed, that squealing people on here are so fond of judging is just their voices, it’s them communicating with each other. In time their voices will break, and instead of squealing (god that bloody judgemental word) they will sit quietly in leather wingback chairs and with their mellow deep voices, they will debate all the boring adult shit that is coming their way and all the fun they apparently shouldn’t be having will be a distant memory! I presume this is more inline with what Mumsnet expects of humans!

LadyFeatheringt0n · 24/06/2024 08:57

All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions.

Mine do. There's a bit of shouting and squealing though? Excitement when someone is found, a big cry of delight when the cricket ball is caught, a lot of laughter over silly things.

Mine were squealing this morning because the cat brought a live mouse and its apparently hilarious watching mummy pounce around trying to catch it.

Hellooooy1 · 24/06/2024 08:55

I remember the absolute joy of summer and being out until the street-lamps came on sometimes when my parents would let me.

I think people are intolerant of children having fun and making noise because they were told off for it as kids and it’s an unconscious discomfort!

Let them have their fun, OP. They’ll only be able to do this for a few nights in summer - which isn’t that many nights in their entire childhood really!

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 08:54

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

So now kids are playing wrong. And clearly you remember childhood playing noises from the past perfectly and are now observing these children to determine they are playing incorrectly. Gotcha

Nobody likes the pointless screaming amongst the playing that some kids do, and 6am is way too early. But bloody hell there are some miserable buggers on here.

LadyFeatheringt0n · 24/06/2024 08:54

I'd find it annoying after 9pm too op and ive got young kids.

The age where they are noisy like this, its the same age they should be in bed before 9pm.

Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 08:50

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

That's funny because all the kids I know (my son and his friends) do those things.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/06/2024 08:45

Oh so they are playing WRONG now?

Maybe it's because they aren't allowed to play outside that they don't know how to play games

They know tag and stuck in the mud and that seems to be it

Probably because if they start enjoying themselves outside, they get told they're too noisy and need to go back in

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