DH grumpy all weekend if I don't give him sex

Does he actually do anything to get you in the mood.....its not a light switch you turn off and on 🤐

Jeez that is proper grim. I’ve no advice as I assume you won’t leave this prince.

This is sexual coercion. 😔

OP you deserve a happier life than this.

It sounds like the relationship is over unless you can communicate well enough between you to overcome this. Resentment leads to contempt and that’s a killer.

He shouldn’t try to coerce you into sex you don’t want. However, if you don’t think you’ll ever want to have sex with him again you need to tell him that so he stops asking and you can both decide what the future holds.

We have two under 5 and I wouldn’t be happy if DH decided I was going to be celibate forever if that’s what staying married to me meant.

This sounds grim and I’d expect your marriage to fail if there arent changes.

Intimacy is obviously important to him, but not you, his way of communicating is childish, you need to work things out like adults.

Coercive sex is rape.

This from the Metropolitan Police:

” What separates sex, or a gesture of affection, from sexual assault? It's a matter of consent. That is, both people agreeing to what's happening by choice, and having the freedom and ability to make that choice. See Consent is Everything and Support for victims of rape and sexual assault for more advice and information.”note the “agreeing by choice” and “having the freedom … to make that choice”. Agreeing to avoid a grumpy weekend is not a free choice.

Have you told him his passive aggression and making sex transactional is coercion?

Does he understand that sex isn’t something you give him, but is meant to be a mutually desired experience and an outcome of intimacy and depth of relationship?

If you would happily never have sex with him again, I think you need to consider whether this relationship has run its course.

I know it’s awful and hard when you have young children but nobody should ever pressure you into sex or make you feel guilty for saying no. And if you don’t want sex, you do not have to have it.

Maybe you could consider counselling because there’s been a total breakdown of communication and desire it seems. But please please remember that you are 100% entitled to say no to sex and any decent man will accept that without question, guilt trip or sulking session!

YANBU he sounds repulsive.