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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:53

Runor · 22/06/2024 21:50

Nobody wants to make being trans illegal. Some spaces, services and sports were developed specifically to be single-sex in order to protect women’s safety, privacy and dignity. Those things are all still needed. Transwomen should be able to safely use men’s facilities (why are men never told to be kind?) or campaign for third spaces. These things were designed as single-sex for a reason. People cannot change sex

That’s not entirely true. Many women’s sports were set up because men wouldn’t allow women to play. It’s not to protect women, it’s to protect men’s egos.

Why are men never told to be kind? Great question. Why are women told to carry keys, cover their drinks, don’t walk alone. Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women. We are busy in-fighting instead. It’s easier to gloss over the societal problem of MEN and get angry at a minority group.

ilovesooty · 22/06/2024 21:52

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:37

A few posters like to do this, insisting ‘MN isn’t representative, ALL women don’t care, no one cares or is speaking about this stuff in real life’.

Yet here they are, starting threads on Mumsnet, engaging (ha) in discussion on all threads that mention women’s rights.

Why? Desperation to turn it as a trans issue.

I haven't started any threads. However I think I'm free to engage if I'd like to.

Runor · 22/06/2024 21:50

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:45

No but it did. People used to think it carried a risk! You are being so naive and ignorant of the past. We know now that gay men aren’t perverts and peados but they actually did think that. It was illegal, they used to be imprisoned!

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

Nobody wants to make being trans illegal. Some spaces, services and sports were developed specifically to be single-sex in order to protect women’s safety, privacy and dignity. Those things are all still needed. Transwomen should be able to safely use men’s facilities (why are men never told to be kind?) or campaign for third spaces. These things were designed as single-sex for a reason. People cannot change sex

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 21:50

Im with eresh I have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about

its a wee bit like that wrong side of history bollocks

SnakesAndArrows · 22/06/2024 21:49

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:37

Although I see your point, and believe what happened to that poster was obviously dreadful, she did volunteer that information in order to make a point about what I said, that you’d never know if your brother was a pervert. This was said in response to another poster who said she knew her brother and father were not a threat to women. My point was you can’t know that, and it has nothing to do with their trans-ness or lack of. This poster’s comment although very awful does not make the point she’s trying to. Men are the problem. Not trans women.

Men do not need to pretend to be trans to attack us. They are the most privileged in our society. The can come and go as they please. Men have attacked women in toilets, hospitals, shopping centres, their homes before and will do again. They don’t need to put on different clothes to get close to women. But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

They do say “not all transwomen” but you weren’t listening.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 21:49

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:45

No but it did. People used to think it carried a risk! You are being so naive and ignorant of the past. We know now that gay men aren’t perverts and peados but they actually did think that. It was illegal, they used to be imprisoned!

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

But being male actually does pose a risk to women.

Are you suggesting that it doesn't?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 21:48

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

I will never be embarrassed and ashamed that I didn't fall over myself to believe in an odd religion based on sex stereotypes just because other people said I should.

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 21:48

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:45

No but it did. People used to think it carried a risk! You are being so naive and ignorant of the past. We know now that gay men aren’t perverts and peados but they actually did think that. It was illegal, they used to be imprisoned!

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

What we will be ashamed of is that children were ever told you can be born in the wrong body and were ever put on puberty blockers. It is a medical scandal.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 21:48

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:43

You know they’ve spent over a decade making life harder for women though don’t you

Well, not specifically for women. For a lot of people.

I'd love to see the back of them, make no mistake.

I'm just appalled that there isn't a non misogynistic alternative.

Why the hell isn't Labour the party of women's rights?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:47

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:37

Although I see your point, and believe what happened to that poster was obviously dreadful, she did volunteer that information in order to make a point about what I said, that you’d never know if your brother was a pervert. This was said in response to another poster who said she knew her brother and father were not a threat to women. My point was you can’t know that, and it has nothing to do with their trans-ness or lack of. This poster’s comment although very awful does not make the point she’s trying to. Men are the problem. Not trans women.

Men do not need to pretend to be trans to attack us. They are the most privileged in our society. The can come and go as they please. Men have attacked women in toilets, hospitals, shopping centres, their homes before and will do again. They don’t need to put on different clothes to get close to women. But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

Sorry what? @SergeantDawkins

This was my post below to show YOU CAN’T TELL. I said I was CONFIDENT, not CERTAIN they were not predators. Because women have no way of telling or can be certain. And in a subsequent post confirmed why said potential predator brother shouldn’t be in any women’s spaces despite this fact that I am again, confident and not certain he poses no risk, as his presence might make other women uncomfortable.

The fact that this point went way over your head was the most embarrassing own goal and was exactly my point.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 14:22
So you agree the issue is violent men. Not trans women.

How does one tell the difference? My partner, brother and late father to name a few I'm confident pose/d no threat to women. How do other women tell?

Does trying to present in a 'feminine way' automatically make them harmless?

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 21:47

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:45

No but it did. People used to think it carried a risk! You are being so naive and ignorant of the past. We know now that gay men aren’t perverts and peados but they actually did think that. It was illegal, they used to be imprisoned!

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

@SergeantDawkins you haven’t said what it is you’d like to see

Do you want men in all female spaces and sports?

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:45

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:25

Seriously, how many points can over your head? It's the same as saying I know plenty of lovely men (and I do) but I realise that men as a sex class are more of a risk to women. Being gay doesn't carry the same risk. You are now just posting in bad faith.

No but it did. People used to think it carried a risk! You are being so naive and ignorant of the past. We know now that gay men aren’t perverts and peados but they actually did think that. It was illegal, they used to be imprisoned!

We will be so embarrassed and ashamed of discussions like these one day.

Runor · 22/06/2024 21:45

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:43

You know they’ve spent over a decade making life harder for women though don’t you

And yet not as much harder as for women in Canada, Australia, or even Scotland

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 21:44

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:43

You know they’ve spent over a decade making life harder for women though don’t you

You do know that most of us have said we're politically homeless over this and have potentially no party to vote for. Are you making the lazy assumption that not voting Labour = voting Tory?

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:43

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 21:27

You know I'm not referring to the Tories.

You know they’ve spent over a decade making life harder for women though don’t you

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 21:42

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 21:35

I'll ask you again as we ran out of space on the last one: were you OK with people being single issue voters on stopping Brexit in the last election?

Ive asked this on threads before

is it ok for me to not vote for the tories on a single issue (i have many issues with them but there is one thing in particular)

is it ok for someone to not vote for a party because they believe they are racist, or homophobic or anti semetic or transphobic (or all at once like reform)

hihelenhi · 22/06/2024 21:41

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:37

Although I see your point, and believe what happened to that poster was obviously dreadful, she did volunteer that information in order to make a point about what I said, that you’d never know if your brother was a pervert. This was said in response to another poster who said she knew her brother and father were not a threat to women. My point was you can’t know that, and it has nothing to do with their trans-ness or lack of. This poster’s comment although very awful does not make the point she’s trying to. Men are the problem. Not trans women.

Men do not need to pretend to be trans to attack us. They are the most privileged in our society. The can come and go as they please. Men have attacked women in toilets, hospitals, shopping centres, their homes before and will do again. They don’t need to put on different clothes to get close to women. But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

But when men identify as trans women they can and DO get to access spaces where women are and even get to punish them for not complying. And we're not allowed to question whether they're "really trans" or not. They're men, Dawkins. Why are you making some men untouchable and an exception to the rules when there is zero evidence they are any less risk than other men, and quite a bit suggesting they are more so (cross dressing, after all, is one of the most common paraphilias among sex offenders. With self ID there is not "tru trans" - anyone gets access on their say so).

Are you really this naive? I notice you don't seem to have answered previous questions about why it is that single sex spaces were fought for historically as a human rights issue for women and girls?

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 21:41

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:37

Although I see your point, and believe what happened to that poster was obviously dreadful, she did volunteer that information in order to make a point about what I said, that you’d never know if your brother was a pervert. This was said in response to another poster who said she knew her brother and father were not a threat to women. My point was you can’t know that, and it has nothing to do with their trans-ness or lack of. This poster’s comment although very awful does not make the point she’s trying to. Men are the problem. Not trans women.

Men do not need to pretend to be trans to attack us. They are the most privileged in our society. The can come and go as they please. Men have attacked women in toilets, hospitals, shopping centres, their homes before and will do again. They don’t need to put on different clothes to get close to women. But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

Transwomen are men. Saying 'not all men' includes transwomen.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 21:40

But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

its said on many threads

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 21:39

while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

Probably because many women here don't actually make that distinction. "Not all men" covers all men.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 21:39

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:37

Although I see your point, and believe what happened to that poster was obviously dreadful, she did volunteer that information in order to make a point about what I said, that you’d never know if your brother was a pervert. This was said in response to another poster who said she knew her brother and father were not a threat to women. My point was you can’t know that, and it has nothing to do with their trans-ness or lack of. This poster’s comment although very awful does not make the point she’s trying to. Men are the problem. Not trans women.

Men do not need to pretend to be trans to attack us. They are the most privileged in our society. The can come and go as they please. Men have attacked women in toilets, hospitals, shopping centres, their homes before and will do again. They don’t need to put on different clothes to get close to women. But telling us that trans women are the risk is a good way to distract us from those facts while they claim “not all men” (they never say “not all trans women” I notice)

Go on then.

Explain what the difference is between a man and a trans woman, and how we can allow the latter into women's spaces whilst keeping all of the former out of them.

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 21:38

CassieMaddox · 22/06/2024 20:57

When Starmer says that he's called a liar.
When the Tories say it, its a fact 🤔

They've had 14 years to fix it, if they wanted to. They could have put repealing the GRA in their manifesto. They didn't.

I would love to hear Sunak held to the same standard as Starmer on this. Ain't gonna happen because a lot of the noise is about being "anti left" rather than pro women.

Sunak interviewed by Piers Morgan answered the "What is a woman?" question with "Adult human female".

Yes they are slow to get a grip on it, but I'd prefer someone to belatedly do the right thing over someone who is eager to do the wrong thing as soon as they can.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 21:38

YY @AccidentallyWesAnderson

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 21:37

Women can vote for whoever best addresses their concerns, whatever they may be

Absolutely.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:37

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 21:31

So ... if you think women on here are not real, somehow, why on earth are you trying to persuade us to vote for a particular party?!

A few posters like to do this, insisting ‘MN isn’t representative, ALL women don’t care, no one cares or is speaking about this stuff in real life’.

Yet here they are, starting threads on Mumsnet, engaging (ha) in discussion on all threads that mention women’s rights.

Why? Desperation to turn it as a trans issue.