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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:17

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:12

ok.
Doesn’t make them right. Doesn’t make any of this right.

The attitudes on this thread are disgusting.

You find it disgusting that people want to protect children from irreversible medical harm and retain spaces where women have privacy from men? I find that a really odd use of the word disgusting.

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:17

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

OMG, puberty blockers work when they are stopped to allow puberty to take place at the ‘normal’ age. Seriously, can you do some proper research before making these nonsensical statements

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 21:48

What we will be ashamed of is that children were ever told you can be born in the wrong body and were ever put on puberty blockers. It is a medical scandal.

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

Springwatch123 · 22/06/2024 22:13

@Runor

”But transwomen are men. As soon as we cannot exclude transwomen from female spaces etc, we cannot exclude any men. This makes things worse for women”

Exactly!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 22:12

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:10

Not at all but when I hear the phrase “ a party which holds the female half of the population in complete contempt.” I automatically think of the party in power who have systematically made life harder for women

Why aren't Labour the party of women's rights?

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:10

There is a chance I misunderstood your post

It was perfectly clear. Other people pointed out your self own too.

ok.
Doesn’t make them right. Doesn’t make any of this right.

The attitudes on this thread are disgusting.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 22:11

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:53

That’s not entirely true. Many women’s sports were set up because men wouldn’t allow women to play. It’s not to protect women, it’s to protect men’s egos.

Why are men never told to be kind? Great question. Why are women told to carry keys, cover their drinks, don’t walk alone. Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women. We are busy in-fighting instead. It’s easier to gloss over the societal problem of MEN and get angry at a minority group.

But the minority group in question are men.

We agree that men are the problem.

Why should a small group of men be exempt from that principle just because they say they are not men?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 22:10

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:05

There is a chance I misunderstood your post before you went back to edit the typos.

Your point is that your brother shouldn’t be allowed in women’s spaces in case he is a predator?

I didn't edit anything. The original is there. My brother shouldn’t be allowed in women’s spaces because he is a man. And women can’t tell the baddies from the goodies, despite me being confident he’s a goodie as I know him. As best anyone can know another person.

Other women don’t know. So they all have to stay out.

If you can’t get that by now I can’t help you.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:10

There is a chance I misunderstood your post

It was perfectly clear. Other people pointed out your self own too.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:10

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 21:44

You do know that most of us have said we're politically homeless over this and have potentially no party to vote for. Are you making the lazy assumption that not voting Labour = voting Tory?

Not at all but when I hear the phrase “ a party which holds the female half of the population in complete contempt.” I automatically think of the party in power who have systematically made life harder for women

Springwatch123 · 22/06/2024 22:08

@Raquelos

”I think, for me, the problem is more fundamental even than the issue of women's rights. It's the absolute lack of trust that the Labour front bench won't roll over for the next vocal minority that manages to gain a foothold as they did on this,”

I agree with this also.

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:07

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:57

I’d like to see the issue dealt with a little nuance not just “ban trans women from everything”.

I’d like the men in power to address men’s attitudes and behaviour towards women. Including their own.

Can you say how this nuance works in practise?

Where might men have access v where they would not

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:07

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:57

I’d like to see the issue dealt with a little nuance not just “ban trans women from everything”.

I’d like the men in power to address men’s attitudes and behaviour towards women. Including their own.

We'd all like male 'attitudes' towards women 'addressed'. What is equally important is that women's hard-won protections are not eroded by trans identified men who retain their male patterns of violence and sexual offending.

lemonstolemonade · 22/06/2024 22:05

@SergeantDawkins

Women's sports are not there to protect male egos, that is just total and utter tripe. Other than equestrianism, women generally lose out to men in mixed sex competition and single sex competitions are about fairness and female safety.

Almost no one actually thinks trans women are the same as biological women. It's thoroughly weird that you don't seem to believe in biological differences, or their significance, but you seem to believe in a magic woman feeling that all women share. My sex is just a fact about me - it's an important fact, but frankly it really isn't a feeling. If I only needed to say I identified as a man to access the benefits of maleness, such as being given more respect in meetings and a pay rise, I'd do it in a heartbeat and you could point to the fact that I hate shopping, would happily wear trousers or shorts for the rest of my life and like football and darts, as evidence of my "male essence". It's just regressive gender bollocks if it's not about material biological reality.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:05

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:47

Sorry what? @SergeantDawkins

This was my post below to show YOU CAN’T TELL. I said I was CONFIDENT, not CERTAIN they were not predators. Because women have no way of telling or can be certain. And in a subsequent post confirmed why said potential predator brother shouldn’t be in any women’s spaces despite this fact that I am again, confident and not certain he poses no risk, as his presence might make other women uncomfortable.

The fact that this point went way over your head was the most embarrassing own goal and was exactly my point.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 14:22
So you agree the issue is violent men. Not trans women.

How does one tell the difference? My partner, brother and late father to name a few I'm confident pose/d no threat to women. How do other women tell?

Does trying to present in a 'feminine way' automatically make them harmless?

There is a chance I misunderstood your post before you went back to edit the typos.

Your point is that your brother shouldn’t be allowed in women’s spaces in case he is a predator?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:05

I’d like to see the issue dealt with a little nuance not just “ban trans women from everything”.

No one thinks they should be banned from everything, just things that are for women. All the nuance needed.

illinivich · 22/06/2024 22:02

Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women.

And nothing sums up mens attitude to women more then when they believe they can be us.

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:01

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:53

That’s not entirely true. Many women’s sports were set up because men wouldn’t allow women to play. It’s not to protect women, it’s to protect men’s egos.

Why are men never told to be kind? Great question. Why are women told to carry keys, cover their drinks, don’t walk alone. Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women. We are busy in-fighting instead. It’s easier to gloss over the societal problem of MEN and get angry at a minority group.

Transwomen are men.

ilovesooty · 22/06/2024 22:01

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:55

Well you do you. I couldn’t think of a more waste of my time popping up on threads to continually diminish women or reduce their experiences , or continually tell them ‘you’re wrong! And hate transpeople.

I have a different point of view to you. If you choose to interpret my posts as you've stated that doesn't mean I have no right to say that my priorities differ from yours. I'm sure you wouldn't want to silence women who disagree with you.

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:00

And as for sports - most were designed to test the extreme of male ability, there aren’t many where women can genuinely compete with men

Runor · 22/06/2024 21:57

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:53

That’s not entirely true. Many women’s sports were set up because men wouldn’t allow women to play. It’s not to protect women, it’s to protect men’s egos.

Why are men never told to be kind? Great question. Why are women told to carry keys, cover their drinks, don’t walk alone. Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women. We are busy in-fighting instead. It’s easier to gloss over the societal problem of MEN and get angry at a minority group.

But transwomen are men. As soon as we cannot exclude transwomen from female spaces etc, we cannot exclude any men. This makes things worse for women

Uunderthinker what a great idea, thankyou!

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:57

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 21:47

@SergeantDawkins you haven’t said what it is you’d like to see

Do you want men in all female spaces and sports?

I’d like to see the issue dealt with a little nuance not just “ban trans women from everything”.

I’d like the men in power to address men’s attitudes and behaviour towards women. Including their own.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 21:56

Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women.

Many of which are embodied in the "trans rights" movement's attitudes to women.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 21:55

ilovesooty · 22/06/2024 21:52

I haven't started any threads. However I think I'm free to engage if I'd like to.

Well you do you. I couldn’t think of a more waste of my time popping up on threads to continually diminish women or reduce their experiences , or continually tell them ‘you’re wrong! And hate transpeople.

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 21:53

Runor · 22/06/2024 21:50

Nobody wants to make being trans illegal. Some spaces, services and sports were developed specifically to be single-sex in order to protect women’s safety, privacy and dignity. Those things are all still needed. Transwomen should be able to safely use men’s facilities (why are men never told to be kind?) or campaign for third spaces. These things were designed as single-sex for a reason. People cannot change sex

I'm male but happy to "go in pairs" to the (male) toilet like many women do, if that made any TW friends/colleagues I was with feel safer.