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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:34

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:32

I’ve said plenty actually, but really it comes down to the fact that trans women are still people and this thread and the previous one is full of horrible bullying attitudes and sweeping statements and judgements. How long can one argue against fear and ignorance?

Absolutely no one is saying that TW aren't people

They arent women however. I know that, they know that, you know that. It's basic biological fact. I wonder why you're denying this? Why lie?

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:33

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:28

trans men or trans women?

it has everything to do with gay men when we are literally replicating the propaganda of 1980s about a new set of vulnerability people

Trans identified men are men who identify as transgender. You are calling them trans women.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:32

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:19

Dawkins, you say the attitudes on this thread are disgusting, while not being able to provide counter arguments to demonstrate this. I wonder why?!

I’ve said plenty actually, but really it comes down to the fact that trans women are still people and this thread and the previous one is full of horrible bullying attitudes and sweeping statements and judgements. How long can one argue against fear and ignorance?

Whothefuckdoesthat · 22/06/2024 22:31

PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 21:17

I am listening and I have not insulted anyone. I am just saying that through my job I see literally hundreds of women and girls and the concerns they discuss day to day are never about trans women. They are about difficulties getting gp appointments, or worrying about running out of money for food, or feeling unsupported with babies and toddlers. Trans women literally just don't come up in the list of top concerns of real women and girls I speak to.

Oh dear. You’re not skint, are you?

Out of interest, are these women you’re dealing with poor and/or working class? If so, are you seeing any connections between their circumstances, the concerns that they voice to you and the lack of any significant trans/non binary presence in their community?

It sounds like you’re taking their apparent lack of concern about women’s rights and single sex spaces as evidence that they don’t think it’s at all important, when these women are more concerned with getting through the week. Feeding their kids takes priority. They haven’t got time to be pontificating over gender identities, they’re more worried about paying the gas bill. But if you think they don’t care about single sex spaces when they need to, take them into that world (a middle class university campus, for instance) and watch what happens.

SnakesAndArrows · 22/06/2024 22:30

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

Well, firstly this is a licensed use, which use as a puberty blocker is not. And secondly there is some considerable concern about the long term effects even of this relatively short duration of licensed use.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:28

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 22:28

Not all transwomen.

😀

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:28

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:22

Trans identified men are men. A higher proportion of trans identified men are sexual predators than average (based on conviction stats for UK prisons). This is nothing to do with gay men.

trans men or trans women?

it has everything to do with gay men when we are literally replicating the propaganda of 1980s about a new set of vulnerability people

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 22:28

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:23

Do men say it? I’ve never seen or heard a man say that.

Not all transwomen.

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:27

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:12

ok.
Doesn’t make them right. Doesn’t make any of this right.

The attitudes on this thread are disgusting.

What's disgusting? Honestly, this is baffling. Can you point to what has been said that's 'disgusting'?

illinivich · 22/06/2024 22:26

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

You are wrong. There was lots of concern about their use. Some women who were prescribed PB as children have faced long term medical problems. Doctors talk about this with parents.

But when used for PP, the conditions is clear, and not self diagnosed, and the children are on the drugs for the shortest term possible, often only till the age of 8 or so. Their puberty is genuinely paused for a short while, not an attempt to stop completely.

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:26

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:22

Yes treating something with nuance definitely means trying to resolve all factors in a mumsnet post 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok emoji hour. Can you say anything about what you want?

You’ve posted many times on the two threads castigating women but you haven’t actually put anything forward. With all the posts this could have been some of that

If you give an example of how this nuance works maybe we can see what you mean

Or is it an impossibility in reality hence the avoidance plus emoji

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:24

FOJN · 22/06/2024 22:19

I'm assuming you've made that point because you think female representation in politics matters.

How would you feel if 50% of the shadow cabinet were transwomen and 50% were men? Do you still think that would represent equality for female representation in politics? The Labour Party (and the Libdems) do.

Lily Madigan was elected as women's officer in a constituency Labour Party even though he is male. Lily then proceeded to smear and bully women of the executive committee in an adjacent constituency when they raised objections to a man being able to stand as a women's officer.

Not heard any more from Madigan since the sexual assault allegations.

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:24

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:20

We said the same thing. They are used to delay puberty.

OK, to add on the bit I assumed was well known…. But puberty blockers cause a great deal of harm when their use is continued through puberty, because then puberty never properly happens. This means that full adult bone density is never achieved, full sexual development is never achieved, and parts of the brain never fully develop. This is not what I would want for any child.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/06/2024 22:23

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:18

Have you not read any of my posts? My entire point is that men are a risk, the problem is men’s attitudes to women, men’s behaviour and the patriarchy’s reluctance to do anything about it.
Trans women are not predators any more than gay men are. But we refuse to do anything about misogyny in our society and instead focus our outrage on minority out groups.

Yeah, and my mind boggles at your comprehension. Transwomen are as much potential predators as gay men, white men, straight men, men of differing races, and on we go.

Because of their one common denominator -
They. Are. Men.

That aren’t a sacred caste absolved of being able to cause harm because they deem themselves trans.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:23

SnakesAndArrows · 22/06/2024 21:49

They do say “not all transwomen” but you weren’t listening.

Do men say it? I’ve never seen or heard a man say that.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:22

Doesn’t make them right. Doesn’t make any of this right.

It doesn't make them right, because what people think doesn't have any bearing on what actually is right.

They are right though.

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:22

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:18

Have you not read any of my posts? My entire point is that men are a risk, the problem is men’s attitudes to women, men’s behaviour and the patriarchy’s reluctance to do anything about it.
Trans women are not predators any more than gay men are. But we refuse to do anything about misogyny in our society and instead focus our outrage on minority out groups.

Trans identified men are men. A higher proportion of trans identified men are sexual predators than average (based on conviction stats for UK prisons). This is nothing to do with gay men.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:22

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:07

Can you say how this nuance works in practise?

Where might men have access v where they would not

Yes treating something with nuance definitely means trying to resolve all factors in a mumsnet post 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:21

Trans women are not predators any more than gay men are.

And again, gay men aren't expecting to use women's spaces.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:20

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:17

OMG, puberty blockers work when they are stopped to allow puberty to take place at the ‘normal’ age. Seriously, can you do some proper research before making these nonsensical statements

I know 😩

honestly all of my friends who think i have no self control should see my posts in here. I am so restrained!

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:20

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:17

OMG, puberty blockers work when they are stopped to allow puberty to take place at the ‘normal’ age. Seriously, can you do some proper research before making these nonsensical statements

We said the same thing. They are used to delay puberty.

FOJN · 22/06/2024 22:19

PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:59

The shadow cabinet is 50% women. It's also looking 100% more capable than the Conservatives!

I'm assuming you've made that point because you think female representation in politics matters.

How would you feel if 50% of the shadow cabinet were transwomen and 50% were men? Do you still think that would represent equality for female representation in politics? The Labour Party (and the Libdems) do.

Lily Madigan was elected as women's officer in a constituency Labour Party even though he is male. Lily then proceeded to smear and bully women of the executive committee in an adjacent constituency when they raised objections to a man being able to stand as a women's officer.

Dymaxion · 22/06/2024 22:19

I do appreciate your point @PupInAPram that people are generally looking at a whole host of issues when deciding on who to vote for. The cost of living crisis has had a huge impact on many of the people I see through work as well.
I do wonder though at how much money has been spent over the years supporting this alleged fringe issue, which apparently only effects 0.1% of the population ? how much did it cost to fund the Tavistock clinic, would that money have been better spent supporting the majority of female autistic patients in other ways ? All the money spent in the NHS and Education ?
I do largely lay the blame at the door of the Conservatives on this, it was under their watch after all, but does that make it wrong to expect better from Labour ?

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:19

Dawkins, you say the attitudes on this thread are disgusting, while not being able to provide counter arguments to demonstrate this. I wonder why?!

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:18

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2024 21:49

But being male actually does pose a risk to women.

Are you suggesting that it doesn't?

Have you not read any of my posts? My entire point is that men are a risk, the problem is men’s attitudes to women, men’s behaviour and the patriarchy’s reluctance to do anything about it.
Trans women are not predators any more than gay men are. But we refuse to do anything about misogyny in our society and instead focus our outrage on minority out groups.