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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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Horseebooks · 22/06/2024 23:07

I just think it’s so fucking sad that instead of working on stopping horrible people doing horrible things to women, we’re out here fighting about toilets. 99.9% of bad things done to women are done by men (and most of those by a man they know), and people think the solution is to just make sure we have places we can fucking HIDE?

FOJN · 22/06/2024 23:03

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 22:56

My husband does most of our ironing (limited to school uniform really). He was also a SAHP. Is he a <gasps> woman?!

I fear so. Did he iron his penis off or did it just fall off the moment he picked up the iron?

I wonder if a hand held steamer would be more masculine and prevent such tragedies.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 22/06/2024 23:03

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:47

Many people are talking about this in a way that seems to disregard their rights, feelings and existence.

You can sod right off with that nonsense!

Absolutely nobody is disregarding trans people’s rights, feelings or existence. They have the absolute right to present themselves however they please, the right to go about their day without being harassed or attacked or made to feel uncomfortable or anything else unpleasant happening to them. They have the exact same rights as any other group of people.

But they’re not having my rights to a single sex space. That is not up for grabs and you can come up with as many ill informed arguments as you like, and resort to insults when that doesn’t work. But all it boils down to is you telling women to sit down, shut up and move over. Not happening.

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 23:02

MuchasSmoochas · 22/06/2024 23:00

I’m definitely literal about chromosomes and gonads.

Is that the B side to Handbags and Gladrags?

lemonstolemonade · 22/06/2024 23:01

@SergeantDawkins

Genuine question - if saying trans women are men is awful, what about instead saying "male"? It's the truth.

I'm really only interested in female only spaces and sports where sex matters. If someone wants to be a "woman" where that has no potential effect on the female sex class I really don't care what they do.

It's a female rights thing, not about hating on those male people, but recognising that they will share characteristics with other male people (strength, male puberty advantages, plus a propensity to commit crime at the rate applicable to males).

I don't view all trans women as rapists in waiting in the same way that I don't think my brother is a rapist in waiting, but I still wouldn't support my brother being in a female prison if he were convicted of a crime or a female hospital ward even if he would find it far more pleasant because the dignity and safety of the women matters without exception for the "nice ones".

DialSquare · 22/06/2024 23:00

I iron and go to football matches. Does that make me non binary?

MuchasSmoochas · 22/06/2024 23:00

I’m definitely literal about chromosomes and gonads.

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 23:00

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:57

I expect that'll be quite the shock to him 😱

And to her mum too, no doubt!

I also have to break it to my kids that their bearded dad is now their mum. It might put a dampener on DD's birthday tomorrow! 😬

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:59

MrsClownland · 22/06/2024 22:59

Starmer could fix all this (or go a long way toward it) by making a clear unambiguous statement that he does not support self ID and that he does support single sex spaces and a show of support for Rosie Duffield would help to.

Yes. Not rocket science.

myduglovesbaltis · 22/06/2024 22:59

Sorry I mean Counsellor Clare. She is in a Chester Ward I mean.

MrsClownland · 22/06/2024 22:59

Starmer could fix all this (or go a long way toward it) by making a clear unambiguous statement that he does not support self ID and that he does support single sex spaces and a show of support for Rosie Duffield would help to.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:59

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:57

I expect that'll be quite the shock to him 😱

Lucky my mums not around….not sure how she’d take being a lesbian 🤔

probably in her stride to be fair 😀

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:59

Some people are so bloody literal. No wonder we can’t use any nuance to deal with this.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:58

MuchasSmoochas · 22/06/2024 22:55

@SergeantDawkins do you think ironing makes you “female” ?

Oh god it’s a stereotypical example.
some people are so literal 🤦🏻‍♀️

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:58

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:58

What?

Is all this posting just coming from regressive stereotypes

That's all there is!

hihelenhi · 22/06/2024 22:58

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:47

Many people are talking about this in a way that seems to disregard their rights, feelings and existence.

No we're not. We're saying they're male. Which they are. In every cell of their bodies. And, as I keep saying, the EVIDENCE is there that they have exactly the same criminal patterns as other men. Not women. That's extremely important when it comes to the reasons why we had to have single sex spaces in some circumstances.

I'm not sure why you keep trying to equate recognising this with the homophobia of old. (Well, I do. It's a forced teaming strategy as per Denton's document) Were you around at that time? I was. You are aware, yes, that there is no evidence that gay men were any more likely to be sex offenders than straight men? Especially against women. But that there IS quite a bit of evidence that (majority heterosexual) of men who identify as "trans women" ARE as much of a threat to women as men who don't identify as women. And claiming saying so is "bigotry" is slur, being used to good effect by extremely manipulative people, in order to shut down anyone pointing out the unpalatable truth.

Strange how you don't seem to care about disregarding women's rights, feelings and existence. Not to mention our safety and the entire history of us gaining our rights. It isn't a human right to identify as something you're not and then force everyone who is actually in the group you claim you are to agree that you're the same as them and they can't have anything to themselves. Particularly when the whole reason we had to have single sex spaces was because of the violent or sexually abusive behaviour of some men. From the evidence, the "trans women" who are most insistent that they should be given access to the spaces where we are vulnerable don't diverge from that. Their crime patterns do not match women's but men's. You really need to get that into your head.

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:58

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:53

No mammal irons their husband’s shirts either. Like I said, “woman” is a social construct.

What?

Is all this posting just coming from regressive stereotypes

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:57

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:55

And what are we to conclude from this - woman means a person who irons? 🫠

I have to assume this is an MRA taking the piss and go to bed, at this point.

MuchasSmoochas · 22/06/2024 22:57

You couldn’t make this up. I iron therefore I am a woman.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:57

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:56

Hurrah!

😀

NoWordForFluffy · 22/06/2024 22:57

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:55

And what are we to conclude from this - woman means a person who irons? 🫠

At least it's not circular for a change! 🤣

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:57

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:56

Ill let my dad know

I expect that'll be quite the shock to him 😱

SnakesAndArrows · 22/06/2024 22:57

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:42

Woman is a social construct.
Female is biological.

Absolutely not. Women are adult female humans. That is all.

Springwatch123 · 22/06/2024 22:57

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:55

And what are we to conclude from this - woman means a person who irons? 🫠

We must let JK Rowling know that she had it wrong all this time!