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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 08:59

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 08:52

Well, you re just spouting the usual scare story Tory line.

Labours actual stated policy is that they want to simplify the process, which is identical to the Tories policy, but Labour will have a consultation, after which there may be changes or they wont be.

So why are you making up things and saying a GRC will be issued after a Zoom call, how can we have a reasoned argument when people lie?

Did Wayne Couzins have a GRC? so the danger to women comes from men, a lack of public services and very poor law enforcement.

Have you read the Labour policy?

They want to get rid of the panel and have a single doctor approve GRC applications. This doctor will be a specialist in 'gender', highly likely to be practising an 'affirmative ' approach.

It will be the effective introduction of self ID.

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:58

Did Wayne Couzins have a GRC? so the danger to women comes from men, a lack of public services and very poor law enforcement.

Yes, the danger comes from men. Letting them change legal sex more easily and therefore free reign in women's spaces - how on earth could that be positive for women's safety?

SnakesAndArrows · 23/06/2024 08:58

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 08:55

So we shouldn't have the ambition to improve things?

The issues you raise have come after 14 years of the tories yet you want another 5 years of these people?

You purport to be in favour of women's rights????

I don’t want another second of Tory rule. I have never voted for them in my 40 years of being able to vote.

I still think Labour are, at best, hopelessly muddled on women’s rights, and agree with everything JKR said.

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:56

Labours actual stated policy is that they want to simplify the process, which is identical to the Tories policy, but Labour will have a consultation, after which there may be changes or they wont be.

So why are you making up things and saying a GRC will be issued after a Zoom call, how can we have a reasoned argument when people lie?

Labour's policy is that a GRC can be signed off by one GP. That's not lying.

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 08:55

So we shouldn't have the ambition to improve things?

The issues you raise have come after 14 years of the tories yet you want another 5 years of these people?

You purport to be in favour of women's rights????

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 08:52

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:09

This seems like a very confused post.

So you agree that GRCs are easy to get? Under Labour they will become even easier. Any man who likes will be able to change his 'legal sex' with the sign off of one GP.

So that's all it takes. Quick zoom with a friendly Doctor and women's spaces will be there for the taking for any man who wants them.

Well, you re just spouting the usual scare story Tory line.

Labours actual stated policy is that they want to simplify the process, which is identical to the Tories policy, but Labour will have a consultation, after which there may be changes or they wont be.

So why are you making up things and saying a GRC will be issued after a Zoom call, how can we have a reasoned argument when people lie?

Did Wayne Couzins have a GRC? so the danger to women comes from men, a lack of public services and very poor law enforcement.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/06/2024 08:44

CassieMaddox · 22/06/2024 22:55

They are. What other party is pledging to halve violence against women and girls? What other party has a plan to deal with the rape backlog?

Honestly. You don't want to vote for them, fine, your choice. But don't just make shit up.

Who is "the party of women's rights"? Reform? The Tories? Don't make me laugh. Packed to the rafters with actual men who hate women. Take money off misogynists. Praise misogynists.

It's pretty laughable at this point to be pointing to Labour as the problem 😂

No they aren't.

They think that women who want a word for themselves or any single sex spaces are horrible bigots and dinosaurs who hoard rights.

As for dealing with the backlog of rape cases, I'll believe it when I see it. You can't just magic up extra money, courtrooms and judges. Then where will they put these convicted rapists? Women's prisons?

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:44

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 08:35

Do you mind men in female sports?

Or men in women's prisons?

DataScraperResistanceArmy · 23/06/2024 08:44

@thefireplace

We as a society aren't providing single sex care and the Tories Brexit fuck up has led to many men from SE Asia coming here to do care work.

was that a sneaky attempt at getting someone to indulge in some racism so you can prove that Sturgeon was right when she said “there are people who have opposed this bill that cloak themselves in women's rights to make it acceptable, but just as they're transphobic you'll also find that they're deeply misogynist, often homophobic, possibly some of them racist as well.”

You don't work at Aston uni by any chance?

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 08:35

LakieLady · 23/06/2024 08:27

I'm not GC and I don't give a toss which toilet or changing room a transwoman uses.

I do care about the near criminal neglect of our public services, the poverty that is getting worse every year, rising homelessness and the lack of affordable housing though, so I will be tactically voting LD as that gives the best chance of ousting the woefully useless oxygen thief that is my Tory MP.

Do you mind men in female sports?

LakieLady · 23/06/2024 08:27

I'm not GC and I don't give a toss which toilet or changing room a transwoman uses.

I do care about the near criminal neglect of our public services, the poverty that is getting worse every year, rising homelessness and the lack of affordable housing though, so I will be tactically voting LD as that gives the best chance of ousting the woefully useless oxygen thief that is my Tory MP.

SnakesAndArrows · 23/06/2024 08:21

RufustheFactualReindeer · 23/06/2024 00:00

No

it is simultaneously really important and not important at all

Men’s rights are really important and women’s rights are not important at all. Plus ça change…

AlisonDonut · 23/06/2024 08:20

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:45

Care providers are absolute chancers and resources led (so short of staff) and I have no doubt that if self ID is passed, we will get the women (and possibly men) who are uncomfortable with carers of the opposite sex but who identify as trans doing intimate care

Nonsense.

Around 8000 men have a GRC and any man (or woman) wanting to abuse a vulnerable person can apply to work in care.

Men who want a GRC just have to apply, its a 96% success rate.

You are also going down the route that all Trans people are abusers, rapists, criminals etc etc

Scaremongering of the worst kind.

It isn't painting 'trans' people as anything.

It is asking why different rules apply for men if they say they are women than would be applied for men who don't.

TaraTories · 23/06/2024 08:13

Not been keeping up with the thread but I thought this would be a good place to share the Woman's Hour election debate - they had the candidates explain party positions in more detail at least https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/l0056ntv/election-2024-womans-hour-election-debate

Election 2024 - Woman's Hour Election Debate

Senior women from the seven main political parties in Great Britain take part in a debate.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/l0056ntv/election-2024-womans-hour-election-debate

SnakesAndArrows · 23/06/2024 08:12

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:39

We as a society aren't providing single sex care and the Tories Brexit fuck up has led to many men from SE Asia coming here to do care work.

TBH we aren't in many cases, not even providing care for the vulnerable for anyone.

Where are all the women supposed to come from?

Who has presided over the collapse in social care? clue - its not Labour.

This is not a question of social policy. It’s a very simple question. Let me put a scenario to you.

Ellie is 36 and has a spinal cord injury. She uses a wheelchair all of the time, lives alone and semi-independently, with carers visiting several times a day to help with her personal care. This means removing her clothing and her being in a very vulnerable position. Before her accident, she was raped by someone she thought was her friend.

Ellie requests that her care is undertaken by a woman, not a man, because she doesn’t want anyone with a penis anywhere near her while she’s unclothed. Does this make Ellie a bigot?

Ellie requests that her care not undertaken by a transwoman, because she doesn’t want anyone with a penis anywhere near her while she is unclothed. Does this make Ellie a bigot?

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:11

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 06:57

It's also the unfairness.

Transwomen say they don't want to use men's services and spaces because of safety, privacy, and dignity. So everyone says - fine, use women's spaces.

Women say they don't want to use spaces with men in them because of safety, privacy, and dignity. So everyone calls them bigots and transphobes.

How come some men get to say who they share spaces with, but women aren't allowed to?

Exactly. The double standards are absolutely outrageous. Especially as women are far more at risk from men than men are from other men.

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 08:09

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:45

Care providers are absolute chancers and resources led (so short of staff) and I have no doubt that if self ID is passed, we will get the women (and possibly men) who are uncomfortable with carers of the opposite sex but who identify as trans doing intimate care

Nonsense.

Around 8000 men have a GRC and any man (or woman) wanting to abuse a vulnerable person can apply to work in care.

Men who want a GRC just have to apply, its a 96% success rate.

You are also going down the route that all Trans people are abusers, rapists, criminals etc etc

Scaremongering of the worst kind.

Alternatively, 'gender' is creating opportunities for predators to abuse loopholes. See, for example, sex offenders using a GRC process to evade DBS checks.

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 08:09

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:45

Care providers are absolute chancers and resources led (so short of staff) and I have no doubt that if self ID is passed, we will get the women (and possibly men) who are uncomfortable with carers of the opposite sex but who identify as trans doing intimate care

Nonsense.

Around 8000 men have a GRC and any man (or woman) wanting to abuse a vulnerable person can apply to work in care.

Men who want a GRC just have to apply, its a 96% success rate.

You are also going down the route that all Trans people are abusers, rapists, criminals etc etc

Scaremongering of the worst kind.

This seems like a very confused post.

So you agree that GRCs are easy to get? Under Labour they will become even easier. Any man who likes will be able to change his 'legal sex' with the sign off of one GP.

So that's all it takes. Quick zoom with a friendly Doctor and women's spaces will be there for the taking for any man who wants them.

SnakesAndArrows · 23/06/2024 08:02

Horseebooks · 23/06/2024 00:28

I meant I loathe the ideology that if you just build a wall around women (especially good virtuous women) and don’t let anyone near them then bad things won’t happen to them. People have been trying that for centuries and it’s gross

If you think that’s what we want or think you have been massively misinformed. Do you understand the concepts of safeguarding and risk minimisation?

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:45

Care providers are absolute chancers and resources led (so short of staff) and I have no doubt that if self ID is passed, we will get the women (and possibly men) who are uncomfortable with carers of the opposite sex but who identify as trans doing intimate care

Nonsense.

Around 8000 men have a GRC and any man (or woman) wanting to abuse a vulnerable person can apply to work in care.

Men who want a GRC just have to apply, its a 96% success rate.

You are also going down the route that all Trans people are abusers, rapists, criminals etc etc

Scaremongering of the worst kind.

thefireplace · 23/06/2024 07:39

WomensRightsRenegade · 23/06/2024 00:08

Disingenuous as fuck. What you mean is you don’t want to hear any inconvenient truths.

What are the expert qualifications required to understand that severely disabled women and girls (and the elderly) deserve the right to same sex intimate care?

We as a society aren't providing single sex care and the Tories Brexit fuck up has led to many men from SE Asia coming here to do care work.

TBH we aren't in many cases, not even providing care for the vulnerable for anyone.

Where are all the women supposed to come from?

Who has presided over the collapse in social care? clue - its not Labour.

myduglovesbaltis · 23/06/2024 07:22

@SergeantDawkins Well I can answer about care . For the past twenty or even twenty five years, most care models have followed person centred care as opposed to the medical model of the past.Everything that has arose since has came from this. Plainly put , it's about treating people as individuals and not objects like used to happen ( routine bed baths, getting all older people up at a set time every day , put to bed at night same time etc ). It's needs led versus resourses led and is a challenge under current times but it's the basic blooming principles of caring for people and when we force a someone of either sex to be washed or support to the toilet by someone of the opposite sex against their will, we really have failed that person's care needs. As for not having someone available, yes that can happen very rarely but a planning is a wonderful thing and there does tend to be people who will help in emergencies I have found. Care providers are absolute chancers and resources led (so short of staff) and I have no doubt that if self ID is passed, we will get the women (and possibly men) who are uncomfortable with carers of the opposite sex but who identify as trans doing intimate care . They will not complain because they don't want to be seen as difficult and they don't want to hurt the person's feelings (why would you?) and that isn't right. It's about those who need care's dignity, safety & privacy.

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 07:18

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 06:57

It's also the unfairness.

Transwomen say they don't want to use men's services and spaces because of safety, privacy, and dignity. So everyone says - fine, use women's spaces.

Women say they don't want to use spaces with men in them because of safety, privacy, and dignity. So everyone calls them bigots and transphobes.

How come some men get to say who they share spaces with, but women aren't allowed to?

Women are ignored, men not

Maybe @SergeantDawkins can say why I think there was a post on ‘lived experience’ earlier

Why when reading posts from women do they prioritise men?

DataScraperResistanceArmy · 23/06/2024 07:18

PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 21:29

@DrNickedMaCorpus I'm talking about hundreds of women and girls I hear speak in real life and have first hand experience of. It's all we have that's real isn't it? People on the Internet aren't always representing their lived experience honestly, but this I know is real.

Women who disagree with me are probably lying?
Is that you Eden?

Underthinker · 23/06/2024 07:16

@CassieMaddox
Double standards. Believe Sunak (despite the fact he's head of a party full of liars). Don't believe Starmer.

It's pure lefty hating, not to do with womens rights at all.

Not lefty hating. I still just about call myself a lefty. For me one reason I trust Starmer less on this is because he is in a materially different position to Sunak. Labour relies on a activist base where a large faction are fully TWAW and see this as a big issue. Sunak doesn't have that same pressure from his members or voters. Starmer always needs to triangulate some position that doesn't alienate TRAs while also not appearing crazy to the general public or tanking the GC element of Labour even more. You might see the results of this as a balanced compromise but I see them as a shifty and illogical fudge.

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