To think these are typical meal times/bed times in the UK

Your times are good for you.
Her are good for her.

My husband and I rarely had lunch at work. We didn't have time. A cuppa and an apple was all I had time for. My DH was lucky if he had coffee and a biscuit between operations and consultations.

Not everyone works 9 to 5. Many bring work home after their contracted hours.
Many can't WFH or work an office environment. Actually, many of us wouldn't want to!

One would assume it would be more of a social engagement if you invited her for lunch between 1 and 2.

Or if you could invite later for a cup of tea coffee at 2.30.

Her kids are in for a shock when they start school.

Arrive at 8.30 so need to be up early.

4/5 years olds’ lunch starts at 11.40 to accommodate all the years to eat, 10/11 years olds eat at 12.35.

Her children will be ravenous if they have to wait until late for dinner, and not to mention exhausted if they don’t get to bed early.

But then that probably explains why so many children get to our school without having had breakfast and spend all day yawning.

I couldn’t be arsed with any of this, my mealtimes have changed throughout my life to suit my circumstances, bringing children up, husband working away, working full time whilst bringing the family up, managing hobbies etc.

That’s why we’re all different. My normal won’t be yours.

Now at 58 with a DH working away all week, I eat brunch at 11 and tea (dinner) at 4.

DD think it’s hilarious that I eat tea at 4, go to bed at 8:30 and am awake and pottering at 4, she says I’m officially old. I don’t care, it’s lovely, only me to think about and it works for me and my life now.

Yep same here. Tried all that years ago with my eldest ones and they never slept later. If it's not broken there's no need to fix it, so always stuck to early to bed early to rise. At least I got guaranteed peace and quiet every evening.

Everyone in my friendship group/family also do a 7pm bedtime for babies/younger kids. Also means we are all free of an evening if we want to meet up!

I work full time, so I miss my kid a lot. All my friends are fine with my kid being there and I don't do "girls night out", clubbing or drinking sessions. Mainly dinners at home or at a restaurant. I do get some free time when my son is with his dad but I'm not really bothered about it.
I guess my lifestyle is not "standard".

Sounds about right to me. None of us eat breakfast but lunch is usually 12-1 and we rarely eat after 6pm.

The same applies to the OP Surely?

Children in a later running routine won't be though, unless they just have very low sleep needs, in which case bed at 7pm would just mean they are up at 5am or earlier. If a child needs 10 hours and you need 8 you will get two hours at some point, bedtimes don't make a difference.

I get up at 4.30 so always hungry I'm ready for a roast dinner by 11am.
We have always had brekkie between 6 and 7.30 lunch 12 at the latest even 11is more normal and tea by around 4pm.
I've always sorted of been on school hours with my body clock. Always got hanger if I haven't had food. But I'm not bothered for eating on an evening. Bed is ideally between 9 and 11pm but when my kids were at school we were all in bed for 8.30/9pm as we were all shattered and early risers.
I'm closer to OPs normality.

Pretty much!
I eat breakfast between 7.45-8.30
Lunch - 12-1.
dinner - I like to eat early around 6.
I don’t know how people eat late every night - that would do my digestion in!
Bed - 10-11. Later if I’ve eaten late.
DCs went to bed at 7 until they were 8 then it was 8 and went up until they could regulate their sleep, but at secondary it had to be 10 as they were up at 6.30.

When mine have gone to bed later if we’ve been out etc they still get up early 🤦🏼‍♀️

Who on earth needs time away from their DC in the evenings to chill out? What an absolutely outlandish freakish thing to do (which I have been doing for years or my sanity would be gone by now) 🤣

How do you know the bedtime of everyone you've ever met, that can't possibly be true can it?

Guess that's the difference. As mine went to bed later they were not up early and I had a good hour to myself then.

Totally agree - after being up since 6.30 with two children all day there’s no way I’m not putting them to bed when they’re tired at 7pm and enjoying a few hours peace and quiet to chill!

Blimey, knowing I was going to be putting mine to bed and I’d be able to chill out for a bit at 7-7.30pm was the only thing that got me through the early years.

”Don't understand adult time.” WTF?

Those are the times I'd consider normal too, though it's rare I'd eat breakfast as early as 6 unless I have an early start. I usually have breakfast around 7, lunch 12-12:30 and dinner between 6 and 7:30. Bed by 10pm.

Growing up we usually had dinner at 6, 6:30 at the latest. If my mum had to work late she left us a ready meal or prepared dinner as thought that 7:30 was late to eat. My mum never liked eating late (i.e. after about 7:30) unless on holiday.

I'd agree with you but couldn't get worked up about it...

I have breakfast about 8am
Lunch 12.30-1
Dinner around 6
Bed about 10!

We don’t very often go out for dinner together - one usually stays at home with the kids whilst the other goes out with friends!
A takeaway with friends isn’t unusual here - I am not going to keep my 1 and 4 year old up (who go to bed at 7!) to join us for a takeaway and wine with friends - that would be seen as very unusual here tbh! They go to bed and I get to enjoy some alone time with friends without my young children around…

We used to watch things like Coast, Time Team, Richard Hammond's Engineering connections, various history programmes.

@Icecreamcone100 - see those things wouldnt happen here. Children are always expecting to be out at dinner with friends, if both parents invited.
It wouldn’t occur to me to order a takeaway only for adults? It would be dinner, for everyone. why would I make children one meal, then order myself something different hours later?

But how can you not understand adult time? After a long day looking after children, surely you can understand why most parents want some child free time? I wouldn’t take my two young children out for a dinner with girl friends, nor do all my friends have children. A girls’ night in/out, a takeaway with my husband etc after a long day definitely is better without kids especially after you’ve spent all day with them!

Ds goes to bed around 8.30-9pm. He’s 4. He’s still up at 6am. 7pm bed and he’s awake from 3am. The only people I know with 7pm bedtimes have very placid children who sleep 12+ hours. If they only sleep 9 hrs it’s way to early.

We eat between 6.30-7pm.

Dh and I don’t watch tv on a regular basis, so not bothered at all about not having child free time to watch tv every evening.
We also aren’t in uk, but I don’t know any child that goes to bed at 7pm regularly unless ill.

What are they watching on TV though together? I want to watch things that are clearly not suitable for a child and enjoy using the evenings to do so, especially in winter when it’s dark and cold outside.