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To think these are typical meal times/bed times in the UK

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Verybritishtimings · 22/06/2024 18:57

Breakfast - between 6 and 8 (weekday/weekend dependant). Accept will be later if you have a long lie in - I have small kids so it doesn't happen.
Lunch - between 12-1.30
Dinner - generally between 6-8 - could be as early as 5 for small children.

Bedtime - between 9.30-midnight for adults under normal circumstances, no special events. Between 7-8.30 for youngish children.

I have a friend who constantly gaslights me about this. I'm crazy that my kids go to bed at 7 (they are ready for bed then and always wake before 7 regardless). I invite her round at 2pm and she brings HER OWN LUNCH because 'i eat so early and she couldn't possibly'. Is she trying to be every so continental or something?!

This is light hearted, don't care when people eat on their own time but my timings align with the majority of the population and the work/school day do they not?!

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TBOM · 22/06/2024 19:12

Your dinner and bedtimes are super early for me. Dinner around 8/8.30. Bed closer to 11.

Alli88 · 22/06/2024 19:11

Not for us or anyone I know. We never do lunch and my children have never ever been in bed at 7pm, much closer to 10/10.30, the same time as us. I'd hate my kids to be stuck in bed that early.

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Verybritishtimings · 22/06/2024 19:10

Procrastinates · 22/06/2024 19:06

Your timings are absolutely normal. Given your broad range I'm left wondering what times she considers standard?

I think because she has pre school age kids and a non standard job she shifts everything a few hours later. Which is totally fine - good for her! But 10pm is not ludicrously early for me to go to bed, for example. I think she might get a shock when she has to get her kids up and breakfasted and off to school.

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Verybritishtimings · 22/06/2024 19:08

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 19:06

Gaslighting is rewriting events to suit your own agenda, and arguing that your version of what happened is the right one. It is not just disagreeing with somebody's opinion.

Isn't it also making someone question their reality? As if I'm been presuming I'm normal all this time, when really my family operates in some kind of parallel universe! That's really the vibe she gives off!

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Cottagecheeseisnotcheese · 22/06/2024 19:06

I'd have put lunch at 12-2 as some places have 12-1 as lunch hour others 1-2pm for lunch but for the rest I would suspect that 90% of the UK eat at those times 90% of the time

Brukli · 22/06/2024 19:06

Your timings for eating arent outlandish, but no way I have I ever eaten breakfast as early as 6am or lunch as early as 12pm. Dinner before 7pm only when my children were very young. So I’d say some (lots) of people might eat later than you.

No need for your friend to be bitchy about it. People are different.

Procrastinates · 22/06/2024 19:06

Your timings are absolutely normal. Given your broad range I'm left wondering what times she considers standard?

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 19:06

Gaslighting is rewriting events to suit your own agenda, and arguing that your version of what happened is the right one. It is not just disagreeing with somebody's opinion.

Topseyt123 · 22/06/2024 19:03

I'd say your timings are about right though I never bothered sticking to them much myself.

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Verybritishtimings · 22/06/2024 19:02

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 19:00

I don't think you understand what gaslighting is.

Your friend just disagrees with you. That's all.

No, I do. Perhaps I didn't express it well but she gives off the distinct impression that I am the odd one and my timings are weird. She's making me doubt myself. And the fact that she just couldn't possibly eat her lunch before she arrives at my house (to accommodate a social engagement) compounds it.

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TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 19:01

Your times are about right though.

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 19:00

I don't think you understand what gaslighting is.

Your friend just disagrees with you. That's all.

PoopingAllTheWay · 22/06/2024 18:58

Yep, your rough times are correct