To reply to school mum on group chat?

The majority of the children should be able to do the homework with minimal support or assistance. If this isn't the case then something needs to be said to the school.

I'm sure she's great at doing her DDs homework 😂🤦‍♀️.

I'd be making some humorous comment about my child and homework rather than trying to match a bragger. Mine is intelligent but restricted due to SEND. Getting them to do any homework was always horrific. I've always delighted in telling the braggers than mine is totally the opposite of theirs - they have nothing to compare it to.

Ours are late teens now and I saw Bragging Mum at an event. She was delighting in telling me about her child and what they were doing (Y13). I told her mine was at the OU. I didn't mention it was a Level 3 course 😂. The look on her face was worth the 17 years of bragging...

YABU in that homework is the child’s responsibility, teachers don’t want to see your work. Plus at primary it’s optional so if it’s too complex just don’t do it.

OMG, that’s terrible!

Aww I hated primary home work. In the end I just stopped doing it. None of it was stuff that could have been done by a child independently . You'd still have to sort through the recycling, get the paints out, cover the table with newspaper, buy big pads of paper etc etc. family time is precious and as my kids didn't like school, I resented family time being taken up with it. So I'd definitely be team 'grumble'.

But, look there's always one that either gloats or genuinely it's not an issue for. At least her posts are predictable. Provide a bit of entertainment as I imagine you all think, oh what's gloaty going to come up with. Just let it go. In the grand scheme of things she's not being nasty or putting anyone down.

I have a neighbour who’s exactly the same, very very smug, and it’s a quality I really dislike in people, so I get how annoying this is.
My neighbour likes to boast on Facebook about how perfect her kids and husband are and what a perfect mum she is. It’s all bullshit! The image she portrays is that she’s got a doting husband, kids are sweet angels, house is immaculate. Reality is her husband is shagging one of the other neighbours, her kids are rude and are left to roam the streets whilst she sleeps on the sofa, she’s lost her 2 year old a couple of times, and the house is a shit tip.
My point is we’re all struggling in our own ways and often those who gloat the most are the ones who are actually struggling the most.
So as annoying as it is, probably best to just roll your eyes and scroll by, if you speak up you just end up looking like you’re jealous.

She sounds like a pain in the arse but really not worth getting into a big thing over. Just roll your eyes and scroll on.

Ignore it. If you reply you will end up spending hours thinking over your message and whether you said the right thing and checking to see if anybody responded or liked it. That won’t make you feel good.

Ignore her, there is always one dickhead school mum on the group chat.

Honestly do you need to ask whether or not you should get into a pointless chat on a What's App group. Just mute.

She’s clearly tone deaf or a bit of an oddball. Ignore her. Do not edify her ridiculous post with a comment.I expect at some point everyone will work her out and have a bit of a quiet giggle at her comments.

It’s not worth it! Just ignore the message/mute the group.

We’ve had homework battles for years and many tears from DS and us so I get it I really do but it’s not worth worrying about.

That… you sound pretty jaleous about it all. Or at least, if you write back « good for you »…that is how it will read. You will also successfully ostracised a mum that potentially could help out IF you’d want to, with homework and all… No doubt other mom will think to get her DDs to befriend with theirs…

maybe she isn’t the only one that didn’t read well the room?

I agree, boasting isn’t nice if not true…but if she is happily doing it all and succeed, you would sound petty to put her down for it.

Because she’s full of herself and very annoying.

I agree with @Livelaughlurgy Maybe she felt it was getting a bit too much like a pack mentality of complaints by people who weren't doing the obvious thing of talking to the teacher about their child struggling with homework. Complaining to other parents doesn't solve the problem and just feeds a building atmosphere of negativity. There are probably a few parents who are fairly neutral and their kids just get on with the homework (or don't and their parents just aren't interested in sharing other parents' opinions by participating in the WA group).

The PP who said it's the same as someone with money saying people who can't pay the bills should just get a better job, it's not. There is no simple, obvious solution to being unable to afford to feed and clothe your kids because there are so many competing factors to think about. Parents whose kids are struggling to complete homework independently should contact the school about it. Complaining to other parents might feel good but doesn't solve anything. The parent OP is complaining about might be suggesting things which are unworkable for other parents, doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to speak at all. Nothing she has said seems offensive, just perhaps not useful. If what you are doing isn't resulting in homework being done, and her suggestions are impractical, seek advice from others including the teacher or quit complaining.

Can i ask what the is being set? Not being goady, am genuinely interested (am a primary teacher)

Wow, she really is tone deaf

I can understand her frustration. If the homework was consistently too much for my child I'd be going to the teacher not the WhatsApp group. I might the odd time say X is really struggling with the homework tonight- is anyone else? Just to gauge it. But most of the time I can tell if he's having an off day or if it's beyond him. And I'd go straight to the source.

It drives me mad parents looking for a safety in numbers and a mob on the WhatsApp group. Especially because you have 6 or 7 vocal moms who assume silence is consensus and it feels like everyone is thinking one way and in reality the other 20 are actually fine.

You're all chatting in a group chat, except it's about how you're struggling to pay bills with increasing costs. One person, instead of saying nothing because it doesn't apply to them, pipes up with 'well I'm not struggling at all! Honestly people just need to get better jobs, it's our responsibility to pay for things.'

That's not expressing a different opinion, that being a smug twat.

I'd want to do a 🥇

😂

I wouldn’t reply. If you feel you absolutely have to say something, don’t go in to all that detail. Just say “fair enough, that’s not the case for most people though”.

Because it is, or can be. Depending on who you’re replying to.

Having just quizzed my DC, it’s meant sarcastically. It’s how I use it anyway.

Just ignore the gloating. Really nothing to be gained from engaging.

Talk to the school. Lots of parents much prefer straight maths and english homework. The parents can see the value in it. Ask if they can make the project-y work less practical or more optional or something

I think the thumbs up being seen as passive aggressive is a younger generation thing……compared to me being gen x. I read that most gen z and maybe even millennials see it as rude. And I cringe a bit as when I’m busy at work and someone has emailed me something which doesn’t really need a response I thumbs up their email….and they’re all gen z! 🙈. I’m just acknowledging that I’ve read it!