To ask you to solve my life issues?

Would Ddog go for something like this?
https://piddlepatch.com/product/piddle-patch/?utm_source=google&utm_campaign=18281198376&utm_medium=ad&utm_content=&utm_term=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw7NmzBhBLEiwAxrHQ-bgh6fmFV0SaE-ZtWaKRDkiVryVre4Glq_YaB7QhXJ03vOiiwlwhBhoCoSAQAvD_BwE

Do you not have a balcony op?

We also have a shower but no bath, so I bought the biggest bucket I could find from a builder's merchant, and we bathe in that! DD2 was 6 when I bought the house and would scream blue murder if anyone came at her with a shower hose.

We don't have a garden attached to the house, but bought a small patch of land five minutes' walk away so that we would have somewhere to dry the laundry. This wouldn't have been possible when we lived in the UK, so it's probably not a practical suggestion for you. Maybe a heated airer would be good - I meant to get one last winter but I've never seen them for sale over here.

You sound like you're doing really well!

Are you able to post the floorplan of the flat as that always seems to get good ideas on how to use the space?

I'd not sell to rent, it's dead money and will be nearly impossible to get back in the housing ladder.

I'd look at cheaper areas, extending the term of the mortgage or any of the gov schemes around help to buy etc.

We used plastic tub instead of bath for DD for quite a while when she was a toddler. It was a plastic tub from B&Q, nothing fancy, I used it for soaking things as well.
Dont sell. Yes, a bedroom flat with child and dog is very tricky but selling won’t help and you went so far already.
I would think again about rehoming the dog but it might be bad decision for DD. She needs a friend.

I lived with my DS in a one bedroom when he was little after a breakup . I made the living room dual purpose so it became my bedroom at night so he could have his own. I had a single bed given to me that we turned into a sofa with big cushions.

Well done for leaving your abusive ex
It takes courage and determination to do that
Do not sell! You'll manage to adapt the space you have
First thought. Could you put something in the plug hole in the shower?
You could put a safety mat down and sit her in the tray?
Would she shower together with you?
You could make it fun with coloured soaps etc
Bed wise.. pull down bed in the lounge eventually, but she'll be fine for years
Under bed storage, shelves or wall mounted storage for DD
Persevere with ddog( I wouldn't rehome mine for anything)
adult incontinence bed pads are more absorbent and work out cheaper.
I would make some sort of raised bed for the courtyard topped with artificial grass, or even plant grass seed if possible and reward when it's used
You're doing so well and you're all DD needs

Could you ask your mortgage lender a short term switch from capital repayments to interest only just to help you out for a few months? Or extend the term to reduce the monthly repayments. I really wouldn't it sell it.

Firstly, well done on getting out, OP. It must feel overwhelmingly hard right now, but you did the right thing for you and your DD and you will survive.

In terms of a bath, I bought this to use in a tiny hospital shower for my 8 year old:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Intex-Play-Box-Pool-Colours/dp/B00C6A5OOO/ref=sr_1_3?crid=RD5WDPSSRMOE&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.v3pYr3PMX7ZhW3452WbFlyCnwtYtKycotS33124R4OnytuP5qZzy1v2MRiDHdnp-MXxtLrkhLw-J6iA_oEvy-vHI_1TJ__CSiilF_OivMqI351GUi56lHYoQgGDQFJw_9QPFscaVjXKap0UwlhqHQ-rdFgd9mz3BH_oj559LnOt7Bllqmjc2zJkFvaSfE2kNejJTNCmLtogj-64h-se4TlDwE6paT_2_SmG5wda5sL5ggU40sbu35CGqbd5ozqNfawHk6KksxR20ssIal0wBY988FflYOaKSutUkmyMtTIo.RcV-iBHBTeAA7tcSAlx_1Ho12RfFK7cw7qn9-xpGtrs&dib_tag=se&keywords=small+blow+up+square+plastic+pool&qid=1719074879&sprefix=small+blow+up+square+plastic+pool%2Caps%2C91&sr=8-3

It squishes up, so can fit in a remarkably small space when inflated. Also, you don't have to bathe your toddler in the bathroom at all. Put a towel or plastic tablecloth down on the living room floor and bathe her in an inflatable pool (or whatever you decide) there. It's a bit of a faff to empty (a jug and a bucket will be your friend here), but it doesn't take long.

Also, don't worry about sharing a room. Through necessity, I shared a room with my mother until I was 12. Whist I was happy to have my own room later, sharing never bothered me, as it was all I'd ever known. I live in a one bedroom flat now and again, through necessity, share a bedroom with my 8 year old. It's not an issue. If there comes a point when it looks like it's no longer working, address the matter then. Murphy beds have come on a lot, so may be worth considering later.

God I bloody love dogs, I hate people who dump them when they have newborns… But your case is so extreme, I honestly wouldn’t blame you. Sometimes you keep them until an owner is found.
Borrow my doggy is good, though if it’s a winter wee😕saying that your little one will walk soon if you can muddle through. I’d happily take the dog out for you, have you any neighbours that might offer? People were fighting to walk mine when I had DD.

Fold up bed? Bit annoying doing it every day though. DD is 8 and she sleeps with me (just saying).

My workplace love the too good to go bags for food- fruit, veg etc

Well done on ditching dirt bag partner OP, you are doing an awesome job you are strong, you got this.

You’ll meet someone when you least expect it, you sound lovely.

I am thinking about your lonliness.
When you say you have no free time, would you have free time with your child - if you know what I mean?
Wiser heads than mine might be able to work on that.

My son has only got a shower and he uses a doggy paddling pool for his girls (5 and 2). They fold up rather than having to inflate every time and he says they're stronger than the blow up paddling pools or the straight edge ones you get for humans

Completely understand where you’re coming from! Although he doesn’t need to know it was you. Maybe next tax year would be bad timing, but the years after might work. People get audited all the time, it’s standard. Why the hell should he get away with artificially underpaying cms and short-changing his own child (and why would he want to????!?!!??)

I think best way to look at your situation is that it's temporary so that way you don't get too overwhelmed.

It took guts to leave him so you should be proud of yourself. It will take time to settle.

You want to keep your dog so maybe see if there's any dog walkers around that are reasonable and might take pressure off of you.

Definitely get a plastic tub or bath for the shower it's perfect for a toddler and she might soon get use to a shower now and then (my boy was same and now loves them)

I don't blame you for wanting a drink but just be careful as it becomes habit and tbh it can worsen your mood the next day. And we've all probably seeked comfort from somewhere food or drink just look at healthier options.

Don't even worry about selling your flat or meeting a man you've just got out of an abusive relationship so focus on you two for now, there's someone out there for everyone theres no rush. And re to your living arrangements don't rush into something you may regret, renting isn't really safe atm.

Good luck op. Itll all work out in the end

We used one of those garden trugs until DC were 6/7. It used less water than the actual bath. We bought it because it was cheaper than a baby bath, but kept using it because it saved hot water. As the kids got older they liked that they could have deeper water than the real bath. I had to put my foot down about it when they were simply too large to fit in. And now I have to remind them how much they used to hate showers when I catch them just standing stock still under the hot water for months at a time like a lizard on a desert rock.

Don't sell the flat! When DD gets bigger, she can have the bedroom and you can have the living room. As your life continues to flourish, you may in future be able to move somewhere larger.

We had a little 'raised bed' made of four screwed together planks of wood that we grass seeded in our paved yard, the dog got used to going on that. Takes a bit of maintenance but nothing expensive and it works.

DS has baths in plastic storage boxes till he was 3 and a bit when we moved house to one with a bath. And when we moved again when he was 8 or 9 the same except it was the biggest I could find. The little ones are really cheap and perfect for a toddler.

Well done for getting away.

Have you registered for social housing ? It is a secure tenancy although I wouldn't go for less than a house if I owned my own flat

Could I shout out for vacuum bags?
Space saving for winter/summer duvets, your winter clothes (expect toddler will out grow in a season) they can slide into a drawer or under a bed, or even on top of kitchen units.

Could you move somewhere cheaper to buy and get a small house with a garden?

Those big flexi buckets work great to bath kids and don’t use much water either. I used to use one in the shower to quickly wash two small DC at the same time and DD would voluntarily bath in it rather than the big bath until she was about 7!