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Are people actually insane?

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peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 09:32

Yesterday at my son's sports day a family brought an bully type dog onto the field in amongst the kids activities. Am I mad in thinking this is just twatish behaviour. Not all kids like dogs and they had it amongst everything, put me totally on edge.

I'm now at my daughters ballet class and sat in the wait room full of babies and toddlers and a dad has brought what I am sure is an XL bully in this room. It's tugging on the lead wanting to get off and is getting increasingly agitated.

What would you do? Are some people total fucking morons or aibu?

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Devilsmommy · 22/06/2024 10:35

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 09:44

No it wasn't.

If it's an XL and isn't muzzled call the police

aLFIESMA · 22/06/2024 10:35

In my experience (dog owner so walking every day) I almost never come across these big bully breeds on river, meadow or woodland walks. Only ever see them in town.
To be clear the walks I am referring to surround my town and are accessible at many points. One of the reasons my little dog gave me for wanting to move here!

Mammma91 · 22/06/2024 10:34

YANBU. Not the place to take your dog, some kids are proper terrified of dogs for various reasons. Irresponsible dog owners.

AirportObs · 22/06/2024 10:33

Over Easter I was in a local park to my mum’s house (a housing estate). We were all in the playground surrounded by a fence. A lady walked up with a young XL. She didn’t enter the park. The dog was not on a lead. She was on her phone and the dog was wondering almost pacing outside the fenced area. I called my husband who had gone back to my mum’s to use the toilet and said loudly there is an XL bully off lead here, don’t want down. The lady obviously heard me and walked over to the dog put it on its lead and she walked off. We waiting behind the fence , my husband did come down and then called us out once he could see the dog was gone.

we were all petrified. My brother in law how is a GP (he was back at the house and we had taken his kids out) said he hates parks as he has had so many kids in with complications from dog bites.

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:33

@Prettypengu when I say fighting, the first dog was pinning the other dog to the ground and growling so intensely the men seemed concerned so pulled them off each other. I just freaked out and left immediately. I wanted to get in my car.

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liveforsummer · 22/06/2024 10:32

BrutusMcDogface · 22/06/2024 09:34

Fucking hell! No, you are not being unreasonable. How were the parents allowed to bring the dog to sports day? My local authority bans all dogs from school grounds.

My DC's sports day is held on a public park. Lots of city schools don't have their own playing fields. There are increasing numbers of badly behaved big dogs though. V annoying and OP not being unreasonable

Oldsu · 22/06/2024 10:31

VolvoFan · 22/06/2024 09:51

Like dog, like owner. Other dogs are fine. I like huskies.

@VolvoFan Really?? a Husky attacked one of my Pugs ripped his eye out

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:30

Pluto46 · 22/06/2024 10:09

Are people actually insane?.........to believe this made up nonsense

apparently

Why would I make this up? I am fucking RAGING!

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peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:29

Iamtarticus · 22/06/2024 10:09

Is this in the UK?

Yes we are in a 'nice' town not too far away from where that poor baby was killed last week.

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Prettypengu · 22/06/2024 10:28

Is the school field for sports day actually owned by the school or a field they use?

My daughters primary schools sports day is in the local rec which the school don’t own and is where everyone walks their dogs so no way to avoid dogs on sports day.

Does the hall where the ballet class is allow dogs ? If so then they can bring the dog, if not then it shouldn’t be in there.

Both my sons and daughters school have a school dog though that’s in reception (both are labs).

Prettypengu · 22/06/2024 10:23

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:04

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO FUCKING BELIVE THIS! ANOTHER CUNT HAS BROUGHT ANOTHER DOG INTO THE GATED PLAY PARK!

the lessons have finished and there is a small swing are and slide that have a gate on it. These two cunt dads are now allowing these dogs to fight each other. I've just grabbed my daughter and left and will email now. I am raging

They shouldn’t be in a gated park if it says no dogs but I highly doubt the dogs are ‘fighting’ each other and the owners are doing nothing. They are probably playing together.

Misthios · 22/06/2024 10:17

CharlotteBog · 22/06/2024 10:16

Dogs do not belong at school sports day or ballet class (apart from assistance dogs obviously).

Why is the person in charge not asking them to leave?

This is part of the problem though, many entitled dog owners will just say their animal is a support dog and people are too afraid of being discriminatory that they will not challenge that.

CharlotteBog · 22/06/2024 10:16

Dogs do not belong at school sports day or ballet class (apart from assistance dogs obviously).

Why is the person in charge not asking them to leave?

Choochoo21 · 22/06/2024 10:14

I love dogs and I have my own.
I also love XL bullies.

But dogs do not need to attend these sorts of events.

There is nothing in it for these dogs and they would rather have an actual walk and socialise than sit and watch a bunch of kids.

I’m shocked that no leader of these groups told them that no dogs were allowed.

I assume they weren’t XL bullies but that’s irrelevant, even a poodle should be banned from these sorts of events.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/06/2024 10:14

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 09:41

I somehow am relaxed around small dogs. But I'm sure they could cause a nasty bite. But this dog is muscular and huge. If it turned, someone would be dead in a minute.

YOU are but my 9 yr old would still be on my lap / outside / hysterical if a small dog came at him. You're point was "not all kids like dogs" so that applies to all.

I don't want an XL bully there, a lab, a cockapoo. Nothing. And school would absolutely have been on this immediately

soupfiend · 22/06/2024 10:13

Misthios · 22/06/2024 09:44

Have you met the kind of people who own these animals?

You politely say "excuse me, please could you wait outside with the dog" and you get a mouthful of sweary abuse. People are not prepared to get into confrontation with a person who has a big, scary animal with them. I wouldn't.

This

A mixture of aggressive entitlement with people being scared (quite understandably) to challenge.

No doubt someone will claim its their 'support dog' and put some stupid halter on it with 'support dog' written on it, so thta they can drag it round the shops all day without challenge

IAlwaysTellTheTruthEvenWhenILie · 22/06/2024 10:11

Ugh I would've left. I don't trust those dogs.

Cattery · 22/06/2024 10:10

Some people are just moronic cunts and no one’s telling THEM what to do.

fannyschmeller · 22/06/2024 10:10

They are just twats. They want to be challenged and called out so they can repeat the same old 'owners not breeds' twaddle over and over again.
Someone on my local Facebook page asked if it was acceptable to take an XL bully on a bus recently. Obviously the comments were full of 'of course it is hun they can't stop you' and anyone who dared to offer a different perspective was insulted, ridiculed and called ignorant. Let's be honest, it's a certain type of person who generally owns these dogs and they are usually confrontational, selfish chavs.

SevernWonders · 22/06/2024 10:10

Misthios · 22/06/2024 09:42

because it's their furbaby, a member of the family just like granny, soft as butter, a nanny dog, misunderstood, it's the deed not the breed, bad owners not evil dogs, you wouldn't expect granny to wait in the car/outside would you so Fluffy is no different. 🙄

When you have cafes, restaurants, shops and museums allowing people to enter with their animals, this is the natural consequence of that. The thickos who have a large, dangerous animal see absolutely nothing wrong with taking it to the school sports or to pick up a child from a dance class.

Excellent post, sums it up perfectly.

Iamtarticus · 22/06/2024 10:09

Is this in the UK?

Pluto46 · 22/06/2024 10:09

Are people actually insane?.........to believe this made up nonsense

apparently

Misthios · 22/06/2024 10:08

Thinking back to when DD did ballet in a scout hall, the classes went on in the main room and parents waited outside if it was dry, in a sort of hallway when it was wet. The teacher could not see who was waiting until the class ended and she opened the doors. In that sort of situation it would be down to another parent with no "authority" to tackle the parent who felt it was appropriate to bring a dog and not everyone wants to put themselves in that position.

I think we can all agree that dog owners have got 100 times more entitled over the last 5 years.

TomatoSandwiches · 22/06/2024 10:07

There are lots of stupid, entitled, anti social people around unfortunately.
I have no problem pointing out their shitty behaviour and often get a mouthful of abuse back but 9/10 times they leave or stop doing whatever it is.

People need to collectively address individuals like this but no one wants to take that risk, which I understand but also find frustrating, that's how they get away with their nonsense.

VeronicaBeccabunga · 22/06/2024 10:06

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:04

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO FUCKING BELIVE THIS! ANOTHER CUNT HAS BROUGHT ANOTHER DOG INTO THE GATED PLAY PARK!

the lessons have finished and there is a small swing are and slide that have a gate on it. These two cunt dads are now allowing these dogs to fight each other. I've just grabbed my daughter and left and will email now. I am raging

I'm horrified.
If it's safe can you get a photo?
I'd call the police.

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