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Are people actually insane?

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peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 09:32

Yesterday at my son's sports day a family brought an bully type dog onto the field in amongst the kids activities. Am I mad in thinking this is just twatish behaviour. Not all kids like dogs and they had it amongst everything, put me totally on edge.

I'm now at my daughters ballet class and sat in the wait room full of babies and toddlers and a dad has brought what I am sure is an XL bully in this room. It's tugging on the lead wanting to get off and is getting increasingly agitated.

What would you do? Are some people total fucking morons or aibu?

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CellophaneFlower · 24/06/2024 10:03

Sunmoonstars9 · 24/06/2024 09:53

The 7 month old baby girl mauled to death on Sunday had been attacked by a Belgian Malonois. It's not recorded as a dangerous breed which proves it's not only dangerous breeds which can turn on adults and children. I've nothing against dogs I just dont think they should be left alone in a room with young children.

Very few dogs are classed as dangerous breeds, when they absolutely should be. It's all about potential, and a malinois definitely has this.

Mt61 · 24/06/2024 09:55

Hasn’t there been a few granny’s eaten alive with type of dogs just recently?
Sound like a rough family- with mindset to match 😩

Sunmoonstars9 · 24/06/2024 09:53

CellophaneFlower · 24/06/2024 09:38

I get what you're saying, I can only hope that people in the future will steer clear of breeds that look similar to XLs in case they're mistaken for one. If you're a genuine dog owner, surely you wouldn't risk having your dog taken away or knowing you'll probably need to muzzle it, especially if other dogs are added to the banned list.

Of the 12 dogs that have killed since 2023 (not sure if the latest death has been added yet) I think it's 9 that are bull breeds. 1 is a cane corso, which is another breed that doesn't need to be on our streets. That obviously doesn't include the people that were 'fortunate' enough to escape with life changing injuries either.

Out of the hundreds of dog breeds available, nobody needs to be choosing ones that PROBABLY won't, but very easily COULD, kill them or even worse, an innocent member of the public.

Edited

The 7 month old baby girl mauled to death on Sunday had been attacked by a Belgian Malonois. It's not recorded as a dangerous breed which proves it's not only dangerous breeds which can turn on adults and children. I've nothing against dogs I just dont think they should be left alone in a room with young children.

CellophaneFlower · 24/06/2024 09:38

Oldsu · 24/06/2024 00:19

@CellophaneFlower Many people had these dogs well before the ban was introduced, and yes its true the general public will mistake a similar looking dog for an xl like the OP obviously has, but its a different matter when the police also cannot tell, when they seize dogs who do not fit the descriptors put them to sleep without assessing them or take so long to assess them that dogs suffer and die in Kennels. To be honest DEFRA was told this would happen this is from the notes taken at the time of the meeting

We heard about the huge strain which will be placed on the police, courts customs, vets and rescue staff when the ban comes in. It will have a massive negative impact on all areas which are already under strain

This was also said.
Of great concern was the RSPCA stating they have pulled away from assisting government in defining breed criteria for the XL Bully, they state that the direction the government are taking will encompass many similar looking dogs of other breeds!

I get what you're saying, I can only hope that people in the future will steer clear of breeds that look similar to XLs in case they're mistaken for one. If you're a genuine dog owner, surely you wouldn't risk having your dog taken away or knowing you'll probably need to muzzle it, especially if other dogs are added to the banned list.

Of the 12 dogs that have killed since 2023 (not sure if the latest death has been added yet) I think it's 9 that are bull breeds. 1 is a cane corso, which is another breed that doesn't need to be on our streets. That obviously doesn't include the people that were 'fortunate' enough to escape with life changing injuries either.

Out of the hundreds of dog breeds available, nobody needs to be choosing ones that PROBABLY won't, but very easily COULD, kill them or even worse, an innocent member of the public.

Sunmoonstars9 · 24/06/2024 09:02

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:29

Yes we are in a 'nice' town not too far away from where that poor baby was killed last week.

A few days ago a 7 month old baby girl killed in Coventry by family dog recorded as not a dangerous breed. Yet another tragedy of this type. I know many won't agree but I don't think a baby should be left alone in a room with any dog.

Misthios · 24/06/2024 07:47

i’d email the school to ask how a dog was on the school grounds in the first place (we have to sign in for sports day, staff everywhere).

This is not a thing in Scotland, you can just open the gate and walk into the playground. Yes getting into the actual building you have to be buzzed in through the front door but the playground is a free for all. When it's sports day, parents, grandparents, siblings and anyone else who wants to arrives and walks in.

Ukrainebaby23 · 24/06/2024 07:20

peopleareinsane · 23/06/2024 10:58

@Oldsu yes, that is why I say a bully type dog. Haven't got a clue what kind of dog. But it was massive, muscular and I didn't like it being in that environment.

I've had dogs most of my life, but not currently am owner. I couldn't tell you the difference between a bully xl, bully lab x , large staffy type, I've never particularly liked that type of breed though I've met lovely Staffies, I've also met really angry ones.

Yes, if I couldn't safely intervene by physically removing a dog I wouldn't want it near my toddler. Despite me teaching him, we don't touch doggies etc he's still fascinated and loves to get up close to them.

Dogs in a playpark/ballet class/sports day, totally out of order.

WhatsUpNowThen · 24/06/2024 05:56

its heart-breaking, dogs who come back fearful and not the happy dogs they were before being seized, but hey this is Mumsnet so many would not care its a big scary dog and should be killed anyway

Well maybe it would be wise not to get a huge muscular dog in the first place.

WhatsUpNowThen · 24/06/2024 05:52

Your sure? Considering even vets aren’t, fuck me they should’ve had you on the panel shouldn’t they! Contact defra asap

Makes no difference if it was or not. Dogs shouldn't be there.

Ilovecleaning · 24/06/2024 05:31

Cooper77 · 22/06/2024 14:37

God, some people really are beyond belief. Ever since the XL bullies hit the news, I've seen them everywhere. It just shows the cretinous mentality of so many people. I think a big part of it is attention-seeking. There is a guy near me who owns three massive husky dogs. He struts around the neighbourhood with his shirt off waving to people and trying to start conversations. He's clearly just an attention-seeking twat. I've never spoken to him, but I'll lay money he's the kind of man who disagrees with everything you say, just for the sake of it. You know the type.

You see this all the time. I mean people who will do anything to make themselves the centre of attention. What's the worst thing you could bring to a field filled with small, vulnerable, quick-moving children? Well, a massive, vicious dog. So that's what they do. Why? Well, because everyone will be looking at them. Same goes for those idiots who drive around in cars with screeching, souped-up engines, or modified exhausts that crackle and explode. What happens when you drive around in a car like that? Everyone looks at you of course. And people like that would rather get attention for the wrong things than no attention at all.

There's nothing worse than people with low IQs but massive egos. On the one hand, no one listens to them (because they're ignorant and boring and rude), but on the other, they have huge egos and so want attention. If they can't get your attention through what they say, they'll get it through what they do. One way or another you're going to look at them. The idiot who brought that dog to the sports day is no different to an obnoxious child who keeps showing off or won't stop crying even though nothing is wrong.

There’s nothing worse than people with low IQs but massive egos.

So true. At best, they are a PITA, like a big buzzy fly you want to bat away. At worst, they are dangerous and unpredictable.
DH has a relative who falls into the first category. The only way I can deal with them is to avoid them or agree with them then walk away.

WhatsUpNowThen · 24/06/2024 05:28

but you say you witnessed a dog fight in a children's play area and you just walked away?

Not unbelievable at all. I'd hotfoot it away as well. Not hang around on my phone.

WhatsUpNowThen · 24/06/2024 05:23

Unfortunately this is the problem with media hysteria. People don't know what breed the dogs are but have decided it must be one of the types in the headlines because they think it looks a bit like it. That would not be the criteria used to determine a bull type or XL. For all we know they could be not remotely bully type dogs

Makes no difference. They're still in a kids playground. They shouldn't be.

decionsdecisions62 · 24/06/2024 05:15

People who own those kind of dogs usually don't give a flying who cares what about them. If they did have a drop of self awareness they wouldn't acquire the dog in the first place.

I hear a key opponent of the regulations on bully dogs has been mauled to death by her own bully dog recently.

lonelywater · 24/06/2024 01:40

to answer the OP's question "Are people insane"? Five minutes on twitter tells you that not only are they certifiable, but there are fucking legions of them.

Halloumidays · 24/06/2024 00:37

I’m a dog owner and I’m outraged on your behalf. My dog is an elderly rescue dog with health conditions which makes him vulnerable and I keep him on a lead permanently mainly for his own safety but also because he might snap at another dog and I can’t/won’t take that risk. I’ve also noticed the horrible entitlement of other owners, and we’ve had many near misses because of stupid and entitled owners. What I do though is report EVERYTHING and it works, because the authorities need evidence to act and the more people who report the better.
I would absolutely try and encourage others to do the same and in the play park situation approach other parents to support you if this happens again. We have a dog warden but also have enforcement officers who will patrol these areas and enforce the law. Because ultimately both the sports day and park incident are almost certainly against the law, especially if they were not under control but many areas also have a public protection order. I imagine that’s definitely the case with the play park. Ring the council and report. It does help, I promise!

Oldsu · 24/06/2024 00:19

CellophaneFlower · 23/06/2024 18:49

What's the answer then? If you own a dog that is similar looking to an XL, you have to accept they might be mistaken for one. Perhaps don't buy a massive muscular meat head mutt? Or are you saying we should just lift the ban and let these freaks of nature continue to breed despite the obvious increase in dog related deaths each year?

Top tip: Full stops make posts easier to read.

@CellophaneFlower Many people had these dogs well before the ban was introduced, and yes its true the general public will mistake a similar looking dog for an xl like the OP obviously has, but its a different matter when the police also cannot tell, when they seize dogs who do not fit the descriptors put them to sleep without assessing them or take so long to assess them that dogs suffer and die in Kennels. To be honest DEFRA was told this would happen this is from the notes taken at the time of the meeting

We heard about the huge strain which will be placed on the police, courts customs, vets and rescue staff when the ban comes in. It will have a massive negative impact on all areas which are already under strain

This was also said.
Of great concern was the RSPCA stating they have pulled away from assisting government in defining breed criteria for the XL Bully, they state that the direction the government are taking will encompass many similar looking dogs of other breeds!

DisabledDemon · 23/06/2024 20:33

@sleepyscientist As if the ridge back isn't a big enough give away 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well, quite - and a Ridgeback doesn't look anything like a bully. I can't imagine how anyone could mistake one for the other.

Allshallbewell2021 · 23/06/2024 20:23

A dog at sports day? At a ballet class?

Completely unacceptable - I have never ever seen this.

Whalesong · 23/06/2024 19:26

Isitautumnyet23 · 23/06/2024 18:16

Sorry cant read all the replies but i’d email the school to ask how a dog was on the school grounds in the first place (we have to sign in for sports day, staff everywhere). There’s no way you would get more than 30 seconds onto the school grounds without being seen by a staff member. I’d be asking very strongly that an email is immediately sent out to remind parents no dogs. There will be kids that are extremely anxious around dogs not to mention dog mess. School needs to make sure this never happens again.

A lot of schools in cities don't have their own sports fields but have a license to use areas in local parks. My children's primary did this. It's a hugely popular park for walking dogs and most are off the lead (which is allowed as long as they're under control), so there were always dogs milling about. And the school could have done nothing about it.

Us parents were invited to come along for a picnic beforehand and then watch the sports events. Many of us, including me, brought our dogs along. Ours was a small one and I usually let him wander around the edges for a bit (obviously keeping a close eye on him at all times - he had excellent recall and knew not to bother people who didn't invite him over for a stroke). As soon as people started getting food out I obviously kept him on a lead, and the same when watching the sports events (when taking part in mums' races I either handed the lead to a friend or tied it to a tree).

So I absolutely can believe that there was a dog at a school sports' day. It was obviously badly managed, but I have no doubt that it happened.

CellophaneFlower · 23/06/2024 19:12

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 23/06/2024 19:09

I think they were answering me. So think we are both guilty…. 😉

Ok, you've got me there 😂

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 23/06/2024 19:09

CellophaneFlower · 23/06/2024 18:57

I was asking the previous poster what they expected to happen. I do apologise, I didn't realise you were their voice.

I think they were answering me. So think we are both guilty…. 😉

AmelieTaylor · 23/06/2024 19:00

peopleareinsane · 22/06/2024 10:52

I said bully type dogs. I have no idea if they are or not. All I know is they are fucking terrifying muscular dogs.

Can you post a photo of the dogs?

CellophaneFlower · 23/06/2024 18:57

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 23/06/2024 18:52

No. You have to accept people don’t know any better. There is legislation in force now.
Here are extra full stops for you ………..

@Oldsu thank you for articulating that far better than I did.

Edited

I was asking the previous poster what they expected to happen. I do apologise, I didn't realise you were their voice.

BakedTattie · 23/06/2024 18:56

Opinionwontchangeluv · 23/06/2024 03:45

You aren't a breed expert and it clearly wasn't a bully. There are other bully breeds which exist on earth. Education is key.

However no I don't agree people should bring dogs period especially big dogs to things like you said. It's just anti social

‘It clearly wasn’t a bully’ - how do you know this clearly? Were you there? The op has said it was a bully type.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 23/06/2024 18:52

CellophaneFlower · 23/06/2024 18:49

What's the answer then? If you own a dog that is similar looking to an XL, you have to accept they might be mistaken for one. Perhaps don't buy a massive muscular meat head mutt? Or are you saying we should just lift the ban and let these freaks of nature continue to breed despite the obvious increase in dog related deaths each year?

Top tip: Full stops make posts easier to read.

No. You have to accept people don’t know any better. There is legislation in force now.
Here are extra full stops for you ………..

@Oldsu thank you for articulating that far better than I did.