Cheating is cheating but is it all the same?

Same here and Id argue you do need some level of emotional connection, even only slight, in order to engage in sex, whether that be mutual or full. I always wonder how FWB transition in the moment from just friends one moment to getting it on the next.

pretty much this, some people can switch off the emotions and just use others as tools so to speak

I’ve never personally had sex with anyone I didn’t feel emotionally connected to. But am aware that for many people, both men and women, sex is a purely physical act quite devoid of feeling. Almost like mutual masturbation, I suppose.

i think for some people when its just physical, its basically passion in the moment, but if its more psychologyical with feelings etc people find that more omg

In both cases, one partner is getting sexual gratification outside of the relationship, which is morally wrong. I could not forgive either.

Id love to explore that idea as I just cant get my head round it. Is the act of penetrative sex to some people barely any different to people shaking hands!? "Its just sex" people say, as if the physical act means nothing.

from reading different threads on here the majority think if its just physical then its not as bad compared with the full emotionally attached affairs

It's all fking cheating id dump the dirty sleazy pig..

It's all cheating in my book

I think its the same from the perspective of the one cheating and the one being cheated on.

From the perspective of the cam girl (I know someone who did it for a while purely for the cash) they can't stand the men that do it. She thought they were vile and totally took the piss out of them. Got to the point where it made her skin crawl too much. So it's different in that way to a woman who is attracted to the spouse and willingly chooses the man to have an affair with.

Can't separate sexual and emotional as ive never understood meaningless sex as just something people do, like the FWB stuff too.

Cam girl stuff is basically just interactive porn, nothing more.

Thought provoking response, but maybe the emotional side of cheating would hurt more... but purely sexual surely means the mindset is more selfish. When emotionally invested in someone else judgement is more clouded... not to say its right. When the focus is sex? Maybe that's worse. I don't know.

Sexual acts are bad, an emotional connection is worse.

I’m unsure I could forgive either, but I know I would take an emotional connection far harder than one off sexual contact.

Emotional connection takes time, requires deliberate choice to develop and sustain.

Agreed. They're both different scenarios, but I'd find both equally hard to forgive.

I don’t think the question is really whether it’s the same or different, but rather where your limits are. I would leave over either, regardless of whether one hurt me more.

For me sex is sex, an emotional connection would be a lot harder