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Limerance, pursue or avoid?

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LimerantStateOfBouyancy · 21/06/2024 22:21

I've only had it three times in my life, now being the third. I know why it happens, it'll be my ADHD, dopamine chasing and all that jazz.

I cannot stop thinking about this bloke I cross paths with a few times a week 😐 we've exchanged pleasantries and friendly chat but I'm certain he has absolutely no idea. He gives me full blown fanny gallops.

It's basically a crush, but on steroids!

I think if I got it out my system, cough cough, that would help.

He's single.

Should I make my interest known or just avoid him until it passes?

NC because I'd sooner die than post this under my regular username and be recognised.

I'm definitely not looking for a relationship btw.

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Singleandproud · 21/06/2024 22:49

@Funkyfizz what makes you say that, it's in the DSM5 so as real as any other collections of behaviours grouped together and given a name. Obsessive behaviour is not good for the person experiencing it or the person at the other end of the attention.

Funkyfizz · 21/06/2024 22:46

No such thing as limerance.

MasterBeth · 21/06/2024 22:43

Should you pursue a single man you are attracted to? If you are single, why not?

Chessboardtable · 21/06/2024 22:41

If you’re both single I’d go for it

TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/06/2024 22:39

BobbyBiscuits · 21/06/2024 22:32

I'm sorry, idk what limerance is. But if you fancy him, just for a bit of fun, then go for it.
The worst that can happen is he's awful in bed and has a boring personality and you'll just live and learn from that anyway so no harm done.

You should probably Google it then?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 21/06/2024 22:39

So you just want sex with him?

I think I'd run a mile if I thought someone with limerence was pursuing me.

Singleandproud · 21/06/2024 22:35

Will you take no for an answer or continue to obsess?

Will getting it out the way by having a physical relationship get it out your system or will it lead to stalkeresque behaviour

I wouldn't be trying to start any sort of relationship or anything when dealing with limerance,it won't be true. It's like you've been temporarily hit with a love potion.

BobbyBiscuits · 21/06/2024 22:32

I'm sorry, idk what limerance is. But if you fancy him, just for a bit of fun, then go for it.
The worst that can happen is he's awful in bed and has a boring personality and you'll just live and learn from that anyway so no harm done.

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