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People going to multiple Eras dates are selfish

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BlowDryRat · 21/06/2024 19:32

I'm not a Swiftie but DD is a fan and I signed up for the waiting list last year. No code, everything sold out so I assumed I wasn't going to get tickets. Yesterday, I got an email from Ticketmaster with a code for Wembley this weekend and managed to get 4 tickets. DD and friends are delighted.

Other friends are still desperately hoping for tickets, either this weekend or in August. I've seen lots of posts on MN and elsewhere by people in the same boat. Then I've seen other posters saying they, or someone they know, have been/are going multiple times. I just don't understand this mentality. You've seen it once, you know there are thousands of people hoping for that opportunity and not everyone will be able to go because there aren't enough tickets for everyone who wants one. Why take more than your fair share?

YABU - them's the breaks.
YANBU - it's selfish.

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peanutbuttertoasty · 23/06/2024 03:55

Jesus Christ it’s a pop concert, not the last lifeboat on the titanic. Get a grip!

people have lost their minds over this bland nonsense

MoreThanAllTheMilesCombined · 23/06/2024 03:42

goodkidsmaadhouse · 22/06/2024 07:51

Sorry, but that does seem a bit selfish. Why even go several times if you’re not a huge fan?

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Selfish. 🤣

Maybe, like me, she likes live music abc it’s just a good night out. Maybe she’s taking her kids, nieces, nephews, friends kids etc.

You need to get a grip.

MoreThanAllTheMilesCombined · 23/06/2024 03:36

I’ve seen Taylor twice on this tour. I’m not a massive fan but I quite like her and enjoy live music.

When my favourite artists tour, I often travel abroad to see them as well as see them here. I saw my favourite artist 4 times on one tour.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/06/2024 03:21

ll09sm · 23/06/2024 02:25

Nice? You want people to to not go to multiple concerts because you think it’s not nice?

This place is batshit crazy.

It’s when the mumsnet #bekind brigade meets reality 🤣

I have absolutely no skin in this game because if you put a gun to my head and said name TS song I don’t think I could come up with one… But everyone is entitled to do what they want to do… if that means seeing multiple shows then more power to them for getting tickets.

ll09sm · 23/06/2024 02:25

Nice? You want people to to not go to multiple concerts because you think it’s not nice?

This place is batshit crazy.

Kitkat1523 · 23/06/2024 00:52

andyourpointiswhat · 22/06/2024 10:32

I think it is selfish to buy more than you need of anything that there is a shortage of and lots of other people want “just because you can” but clearly lots of people disagree.

But nobody ‘needs’ Taylor swift tickets….they ‘want’ them…..so it’s absolutely fine…. Nobody is taking food from babies mouths 🙄

JollyHostess101 · 23/06/2024 00:47

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 21/06/2024 19:49

Labour should nationalise Taylor Swift. Starmer is missing a trick.

This has just made me spit out my wine in hysterics!!

OonaStubbs · 23/06/2024 00:42

I don't understand all the fuss about Taylor Swift. She's a good singer but why are people going crazy and spending mega-money to go and see her?

andyourpointiswhat · 22/06/2024 10:32

I think it is selfish to buy more than you need of anything that there is a shortage of and lots of other people want “just because you can” but clearly lots of people disagree.

TimeForTeaAndG · 22/06/2024 10:21

I want to know how people managed to get codes for multiple venues when some folk couldn't even get 1 code!

TimeForTeaAndG · 22/06/2024 10:20

StripedTomatoes · 21/06/2024 19:43

See also: people dragging along their (male) partners who couldn't give a toss
Americans flying over when they had multiple chances to see the tour in their own country

The number of times I've heard "I'm not really that much of a fan but my pal had tickets..."

The whole codes and waiting lists wouldn't have been bloody needed if people didn't just buy tickets for the sake of it!

Waystation · 22/06/2024 10:14

Pibrea · 21/06/2024 20:56

I’m with you, I know a woman in her 30s who’s been twice with the same group of friends. They did the whole friendship bracelet thing as well, bit weird in my opinion.

Not weird at all my DD early 30’s has been a fan since Taylor was country - so since her teens - she has/had tickets to six concerts 2 x Edinburgh 2x Wembley 1 x Cardiff and 1 in Warsaw - I will be going to Wembley (tomorrow) and I’m very much older - since when was it weird to enjoy something just because you are over 30…. (Not addressing the “being selfish” as I just think most fans would do multiple if they could get the tickets)

Gingerdancedbackwards · 22/06/2024 09:20

feellikeanalien · 21/06/2024 21:29

It's nothing new. I went to see the Osmonds in the 70s. They were doing an early and late concert on the day I saw them. The friend I went with had tickets for both performances. Superfans have always done this.

Mind you I think the Osmonds tickets were a bit cheaper!😁

And you got 7 of them!!

Westfacing · 22/06/2024 09:17

Maybe they applied to multiple venues at the beginning and their numbers came up more than once - the luck of the draw.

London 2012 Olympics - a very wealthy person I know applied for loads of events on the off-chance that something would come up, and could afford it if loads were successful.

The lucky git got the Men's 100 metres final - natch!

Gingerdancedbackwards · 22/06/2024 09:16

BlowDryRat · 21/06/2024 20:34

Ok, a better comparison would be sitting down to Sunday lunch at the ILs. ExBIL promptly piled 11 of the 12 available Yorkshire puddings onto his plate, leaving 1 to go between everyone else at the table. Nobody died for lack of a Yorkshire pudding, but BIL was still incredibly selfish.

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Not a comparison at all

beckybarefoot · 22/06/2024 09:16

seriously? its a gig! i do not doubt she will do many many more. it is what it is.

Gingerdancedbackwards · 22/06/2024 09:16

BlowDryRat · 21/06/2024 20:25

If all those fans who'd been already thought, "Actually, I've had a turn, I'll leave those tix for someone still waiting," then it wouldn't be a risk, would it? Being selfish because you're worried about someone else being as selfish as you is part of the problem.

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Is your world view that we should have rainbows ever day, fairies to help with the washing, 2.4 perfect children, and a whole village raising a barn?

Gingerdancedbackwards · 22/06/2024 09:09

BlowDryRat · 21/06/2024 19:32

I'm not a Swiftie but DD is a fan and I signed up for the waiting list last year. No code, everything sold out so I assumed I wasn't going to get tickets. Yesterday, I got an email from Ticketmaster with a code for Wembley this weekend and managed to get 4 tickets. DD and friends are delighted.

Other friends are still desperately hoping for tickets, either this weekend or in August. I've seen lots of posts on MN and elsewhere by people in the same boat. Then I've seen other posters saying they, or someone they know, have been/are going multiple times. I just don't understand this mentality. You've seen it once, you know there are thousands of people hoping for that opportunity and not everyone will be able to go because there aren't enough tickets for everyone who wants one. Why take more than your fair share?

YABU - them's the breaks.
YANBU - it's selfish.

You really think this is an issue?
So much 'unfairness' on so many levels in this world, and you think going to see an over-rated, carbon footprint making, singer more than once is selfish?
I went to see Dire Straights twice - same week, same venue. Back in the 80s
But I justify it because I only got to see David Essex once
YABVU

whenemmafallsinlove · 22/06/2024 09:07

I went to the Edinburgh show. I'd go again in a heartbeat if I could. It's fabulous and a lovely experience. And tbh if life was a bit more like the eras tour, positive, sparkly and safe! We'd all be better off.

Horseebooks · 22/06/2024 09:03

It’s cos they’re better fans than you, more dedicated, they probably all like Taylor more than you and Taylor knows that and thanks them all individually by name every night before she goes to bed

Pottedpalm · 22/06/2024 08:29

Swollenandgrouchy · 21/06/2024 19:41

I’d pay to not have to go.

😂

paasll · 22/06/2024 08:03

If people go multiple times, they must be mega fans. I don’t think it’s selfish at all. Tickets are offered, they bought them.

it’s not an “opportunity” to see a concert. It’s a fun night out. There are other fun things to do.

NeedWineNow · 22/06/2024 07:54

Oh dear god I think I’ve heard it all now. People are selfish because they want to go to a concert more than once?? People shouldn’t come from the States because they could have seen TS in their own country?

Get over yourselves and let people enjoy what they’ve paid for.

NasiDagang · 22/06/2024 07:53

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 21/06/2024 19:49

Labour should nationalise Taylor Swift. Starmer is missing a trick.

They should give out free tickets to the voters, would definitely win the general election.

goodkidsmaadhouse · 22/06/2024 07:51

TheWoofers · 21/06/2024 20:53

I’ve seen her once on this tour already and I’m going twice more with different people. I’m not even a huge fan. If people think it’s selfish, that’s ok.

Sorry, but that does seem a bit selfish. Why even go several times if you’re not a huge fan?

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