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To think I did nothing wrong?

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starostaa · 21/06/2024 15:17

Friend introduced me to two of her friends around 6 years ago and we’ve done loads of things as a four since then, I’d consider them friends and not “friend of a friend”.

I had a spare ticket to a gig last week and I invited one of them as I didn’t want to go alone and I knew she liked that music.

Original friend has messaged to say she’s upset. She doesn’t even like the band (don’t think she dislikes them but) and said I should have asked her first.

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Arlanymor · 21/06/2024 15:26

I never understand why people gatekeep friendships. You’re a friend of this newer friend in your own right and you know she likes the music, it’s that simple. Your other friend is being unreasonable unfortunately. She’s not lost anything by you going to the gig with someone else. Might be different if it was her favourite band or if you had turned down spending some pre-arranged time with her in order to go with the gig with someone else. But you didn’t and she needs to be less jealous.

Gingerbread34 · 21/06/2024 15:24

No you haven't done anything wrong. Especially not after 6 years! If you'd only known them a few months or so then I'd get it, but she sounds jealous that her friends are now your friends too without the need for her to always be there.

PeppermintPorpoise · 21/06/2024 15:23

After 6 years?! No. YANBU. If you had just met them then sure but if you've all been hanging around for 6 years then I dont think you've done anything wrong.

evencloser · 21/06/2024 15:21

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KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 21/06/2024 15:20

I can see why she’s upset to be honest, I think I would be.

TooLateForRoses · 21/06/2024 15:18

Shes jealous