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Caught Cleaner clipping her Nails in our Bathroom..

269 replies

Naliny · 21/06/2024 13:42

…with my nail clipper.

AIBU to fire her over this?

(Also - have never done an AIBU before and can’t figure out how to do the poll).

OP posts:
CelesteCunningham · 21/06/2024 14:26

TheArtfulWriter · 21/06/2024 14:21

Firing her might be an overreaction but your second paragraph highlights the issue beautifully.
A professional shouldn't decide to 'sort something quickly' using someone else's personal items. Equally, having had lots of cleaners over the years nobody has felt the need to clip their nails. If they're so long that they cause an issue with cleaning, they shouldn't have been left that long in the first place.

You don't work cleaning and then 'suddenly realise' your nails are too long LOL.

Again, up to the OP how much she values the babysitting etc but clipping nails isn't something reasonable to expect.

Edited

Cleaning is exactly the kind of work that can make you realise your nails are too long. Confused

Pinkywoo · 21/06/2024 14:25

eurochick · 21/06/2024 14:08

A huge number of people have fungal nail infections. Clippers are not for sharing. It's not remotely comparable to using a tissue to blow your nose.

Exactly what I was thinking.

bloodyeffinnora · 21/06/2024 14:23

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 21/06/2024 14:15

I know. Perhaps she hates cleaning other people’s shit off toilets, I know what’s worse. Jesus.

🤣🤣🤣

gamerchick · 21/06/2024 14:22

Good enough to scrub your skids off the toilet but not good enough to use nail clippers? Stick them in some Milton or something and have a word with her.

YourArtfulPlayer · 21/06/2024 14:22

Personally, I'd find it a bit yuk, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. Not if they have helped out in emergencies and were generally good to me and my family.

I would however have a word about the cleaning not being up to your standards. Doesn't need to be a big deal, more of does she feel she has enough time to do the cleaning to the standard you want. Does she need a list with your expectations set out as a guide. etc.

Don't give too much energy to something as simple to resolve as this.

TheArtfulWriter · 21/06/2024 14:21

CelesteCunningham · 21/06/2024 14:17

It's a nail clippers, not a razor. It's not like she left bodily fluids all over it. It won't have taken long either - not like she was doing a facial with your expensive products.

She probably can't find her own and was snagging her nails as she cleaned, saw yours and decided to just sort it quickly.

You like her, you've known her for years, you trust her with your kids. Firing her would be wildly overreacting.

Firing her might be an overreaction but your second paragraph highlights the issue beautifully.
A professional shouldn't decide to 'sort something quickly' using someone else's personal items. Equally, having had lots of cleaners over the years nobody has felt the need to clip their nails. If they're so long that they cause an issue with cleaning, they shouldn't have been left that long in the first place.

You don't work cleaning and then 'suddenly realise' your nails are too long LOL.

Again, up to the OP how much she values the babysitting etc but clipping nails isn't something reasonable to expect.

ComtesseDeSpair · 21/06/2024 14:21

It’s nails. We all have them and yours aren’t any different to hers. I expect they were bothering her whilst she was cleaning / dirt from cleaning your house was getting under them, so she took care of the problem. Just wash the clippers if you’re that concerned. It seems like a real non issue.

oakleaffy · 21/06/2024 14:21

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 21/06/2024 14:15

I know. Perhaps she hates cleaning other people’s shit off toilets, I know what’s worse. Jesus.

Hopefully people wouldn't leave a toilet dirty for someone else to clean.. {In a domestic house at least}

When we were young, mum had a cleaner, and everything had to be clean and tidy before Cleaner arrived...or else!

Definitely no poo to clean off loos.

DisappearingGirl · 21/06/2024 14:21

I'm amazed people are bothered by this! I often end up clipping my nails mid-clean as I realise they are getting in the way. Granted that's in my own house. But I can't imagine being bothered that someone stopped for 3 mins to clip their nails, or that they borrowed a clipper. But I seem to be in the minority!

pinkdelight · 21/06/2024 14:21

pictoosh · 21/06/2024 14:20

So she's fine to clean your toilet for you but not to use your nail clippers?

Seems a preposterous reason to fire someone to me.

Well quite!

pinkdelight · 21/06/2024 14:20

Bizarre that this would bother you so much. For me it'd not even register. I like my cleaner and it's only nail clippings. She's not taking a bath or anything. What's the big deal?

pictoosh · 21/06/2024 14:20

So she's fine to clean your toilet for you but not to use your nail clippers?

Seems a preposterous reason to fire someone to me.

cardibach · 21/06/2024 14:19

TomatoSandwiches · 21/06/2024 14:17

Everyone here has their own nail clippers and barbicide pot for brushes, this would make me feel unwell, YANBU.

Really? Every time I think I’ve got to the end of MNers mad hygiene behaviours something else crops up. Barbicide in your own home with your own equipment? Feeling unwell because someone’s nail touches something you might touch?

Gabbsters · 21/06/2024 14:19

Are you a bat, op? It seems amazing to me that you were able to work out that she was clipping her nails (and how many) through sound alone. And seems very surprising that she would relocate from bathroom to kids’ bedroom to do it. And do fingers and toes but then look sheepish about it.

I wonder whether she wanted to snip something (eg hair or thread caught somewhere), looked for scissors but only found the clippers. The story as it is just sounds so unlikely. Not great but more likely than her suddenly doing a mani/pedi for no reason.

Anyway, I certainly wouldn’t fire her over something you know so little about, and even if you knew she was cutting nails (which you don’t) I would assume she had a need. People on this site are incredibly quick to suggest firing cleaners- this job is part of her livelihood so probably best to treat it more seriously and want facts before you act.

Livinginaclock · 21/06/2024 14:19

That wouldn't even register, but then I make my cleaner a cuppa and catch up on all the gossip before she starts.

CookStrait · 21/06/2024 14:19

Watch her she’ll be wearing your knickers next.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 21/06/2024 14:17

Caravaggiouch · 21/06/2024 14:01

WTF? I’m amazed at these responses, I couldn’t care about this. It’s a nail clipper, she’s not wiping her arse with your toothbrush.

People here really hate cleaners. The recent thread about a cigarette end, horrible.

CelesteCunningham · 21/06/2024 14:17

It's a nail clippers, not a razor. It's not like she left bodily fluids all over it. It won't have taken long either - not like she was doing a facial with your expensive products.

She probably can't find her own and was snagging her nails as she cleaned, saw yours and decided to just sort it quickly.

You like her, you've known her for years, you trust her with your kids. Firing her would be wildly overreacting.

TomatoSandwiches · 21/06/2024 14:17

Everyone here has their own nail clippers and barbicide pot for brushes, this would make me feel unwell, YANBU.

vodkaredbullgirl · 21/06/2024 14:17

Sack her 😃or tell her not to do it again.

Replying24 · 21/06/2024 14:15

Naliny · 21/06/2024 14:12

Wow…. Bitter, much?

Absolutely you would make someone loose their job which would probably have a big effect on their life over a pair of nail clippers .

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 21/06/2024 14:15

ouch321 · 21/06/2024 13:59

I can't believe you're serious.
Would you fire her for blowing her nose with one of your tissues or having a drink of water using one of your glasses.
Man, people are horrible.

I know. Perhaps she hates cleaning other people’s shit off toilets, I know what’s worse. Jesus.

pikkumyy77 · 21/06/2024 14:15

Boundary crossing in a way that I would not like.

Everythingiscalmfornow · 21/06/2024 14:14

MooonDreamer · 21/06/2024 13:43

YANBU

How did she react?

honestly think if she is doing this she does not have boundaries and respect for your things

I agree with this.
It does make you wonder what other things she feels free to use or what she feels free to do.
At one point I actually worked as a cleaner in the home of someone who started off as the friend of a friend but who actually became my friend. I would never ever have presumed to use her personal things in this way. If I'd torn my nail yes I would have asked to use clippers but never have used them without asking.
If you are working in someone's home you have a great responsibility to not abuse the trust that is put in you.
I would certainly be talking to her about this. Letting her know you aren't happy. A warning that it wasn't acceptable.

TheArtfulWriter · 21/06/2024 14:14

OP you'll get a lot of virtue signalling, sniffy replies on here. But, unless you work in a nail saloon, it's never acceptable to be cutting your nails at work, unless they were damaged.

She's lovely babysits etc and seems to be getting quite comfortable. Enough to use your personal things without asking.

It's your decision - do you need her enough to overlook things like this, or do you want to keep it professional? If the latter I'd let her go.