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Why r some men so disgusting

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Andtheworldwentwhite · 21/06/2024 11:51

Twice in the last month have come across men pleasuring themselves in public.

one when I was walking the dog. And was facing the pond and having a go. And just now. Some man laying on the grass on the side of the road. Hand down his pants. Just laying their pleasuring him selves. What is it.

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EatTheGnome · 21/06/2024 19:37

Andtheworldwentwhite · 21/06/2024 19:24

A man walked past me on a car park the other day. Opened his trousers readjusted himself and carried on his way. My husband was gob smacked. I just said yup. Welcome to the wonderful world of men.

I will say I am aware this is not all men. My husband as an example is a wonderful man who I would not be without. But he is baffled at why men do this. Like. Are we are all supposed to turned on by this? Throw ourselves at them. Makes me feel sick.

No, it's power nd threat. Think about it, what would put you off lifting your top in the same area? The threat of being harmed. Those men don't experience that.

Andtheworldwentwhite · 21/06/2024 19:24

A man walked past me on a car park the other day. Opened his trousers readjusted himself and carried on his way. My husband was gob smacked. I just said yup. Welcome to the wonderful world of men.

I will say I am aware this is not all men. My husband as an example is a wonderful man who I would not be without. But he is baffled at why men do this. Like. Are we are all supposed to turned on by this? Throw ourselves at them. Makes me feel sick.

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AppleDumplingWithCustard · 21/06/2024 15:58

Does wanking in the Cotswolds make it a Mumsnet Posh Wank? 😂

AsMyGranWouldSay · 21/06/2024 15:37

I had this on the tube on the way to work one morning, must have been around 7.30...I was so young I just froze. He kept looking at me with this sleazy smile. Can still remember the fear.
Nowadays I'd loudly tell him to stop it and call the police.

Similar thing but worse. A good friend was taking the tube one afternoon and a guys wanked all over her. She was in a dress as it was summer. No-one did anything. One man handed her a hanky 🤨 She ran home crying stuck in that dress...

That was in the early 2000s and just two of many creepy experiences. With all the nasty porn so easily available now I can't help but think it's worse than ever.

But it is STILL a choice, they choose to do it for kicks. They are not these poor impulse-driven babies as someone suggested suggested earlier.

Raggydollz · 21/06/2024 15:24

I saw a parked work van once with two guys.. one guy stood outside the van just sorta looking awkward.. and.the second guy inside and obviously shaking his todger, could see his arm going... it was on a main road too and the van was kinda bouncing. It was so disgusting and I actually wondered if the guy actually said to his mate.. do you mind waiting outside while I have a wank... Men are gross!

wavingfuriously · 21/06/2024 15:23

CeasarS · 21/06/2024 15:12

I live somewhere generally considered a bit rough and dodgy and spend a lot of time in the woods on my own, but have never experienced this. It must be a posh people thing.

Yes think so🤣 I live in an affluent part of London , saw man sitting in jag spanking the donkey in v busy area recently 🤪 just parked there with tons of peeps walking past..

wavingfuriously · 21/06/2024 15:21

ByCupidStunt · 21/06/2024 11:54

Take a photo and report to police.

Or move to the Cotswolds. That sort of thing doesn't happen here.

😄

ApocalypseNowt · 21/06/2024 15:20

I've seen this too unfortunately. Once in a busy city square (I alerted some nearby BTP who were really good actually).

And we also have a Park flasher who is a regular topic of conversation on the local community FB group.

I'm up north but maybe the Cotswolds are doing some sort of flasher outreach programme Grin

Treaclewell · 21/06/2024 15:13

I have a friend who watches programmes about UFOs. The ancient astronaut theorists argue that aliens modified human DNA so that we evolved into better beings. I used to argue that it's amazing how much we share with chimps if that is the case. Not now. Evolved males spend all their time fondling their bits? Really? This is the best Homo sap can do?

CeasarS · 21/06/2024 15:12

I live somewhere generally considered a bit rough and dodgy and spend a lot of time in the woods on my own, but have never experienced this. It must be a posh people thing.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 21/06/2024 15:09

Beautifulbythebay · 21/06/2024 12:01

Omg a local man was caught wanking in a local frozen food supermarket!! Bloody grim.. Thankfully he was arrested...
But same man flashed at ds and his mates a few weeks ago.

Where is Mrs Bobbitt when you need her?

Should have taken careful aim with a frozen chicken

Hydrangealilac · 21/06/2024 15:06

Oh gosh, I’m happy to report that I’ve never ever seen anyone doing this. How vile.
I’d report.

pontipinemum · 21/06/2024 15:02

Manky!! Like really there is just no need what so ever. I have never come across that. Closest was in the T.A. out doing a field exercise we came across 'an amorous' teenage couple who tbf were in a woods and weren't expecting us 😂

Disturbia81 · 21/06/2024 14:58

whyhavetheygotsomany · 21/06/2024 14:50

I have noticed a trend recently with teenage boys walking along with their hand down their pants. Just horrible.

That's been forever. My brother and cousins and all their friends who grew up in 80s/90s always had their hands down their pants, as a young girl I was grossed out, as an adult.. still grossed out.
I think they're just in love with their bits, look how they love to photograph it

GreenTeaPea · 21/06/2024 14:51

FLOWER1982 · 21/06/2024 14:50

The world would be a better place without men.

Amen.

FLOWER1982 · 21/06/2024 14:50

The world would be a better place without men.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 21/06/2024 14:50

I have noticed a trend recently with teenage boys walking along with their hand down their pants. Just horrible.

TheShellBeach · 21/06/2024 14:49

Andtheworldwentwhite · 21/06/2024 14:12

The man by the lake had his trousers pulled down. The man today was right by car as I stopped at the traffic lights. So easy to see. It’s disgusting.

Edited

Exactly.

They choose where to do this in order to cause maximum distress.
They know that women and children will absolutely see them, and that is why they do it.

It has nothing to do with lacking impulse control. It is all about male power and dominance.

Masturbating in public is done in order to disgust and frighten women and children. It does often escalate to much more serious sexual offences.

For that reason, it should always be reported to the police.

OnAndOnAndonAgain · 21/06/2024 14:45

I've never seen this either thank fuck !

GingerPirate · 21/06/2024 14:45

Narcissisticflipflop · 21/06/2024 13:35

This happened to me whilst living in England, a shout of get tae fuck ya dirty fucking bastard in my loudest most pissed off Scottish accent certainly gave him cause to stop ferreting around in his chinos, dirty wee perv.

Whatever, but you are right!
😂

ASimpleLampoon · 21/06/2024 14:40

#NotAllCotswoldsMen 🤣😊😜

astarsheis · 21/06/2024 14:40

Was this in the UK?

ByCupidStunt · 21/06/2024 14:39

xILikeJamx · 21/06/2024 14:34

I'm 41 and have never seen anyone wanking in public - where do you people all live?!!

The Cotswolds, apparently

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 21/06/2024 14:39

Report to the police. They recognise it as a serious crime because men who do this often go on commit worst sexual offences

xILikeJamx · 21/06/2024 14:34

I'm 41 and have never seen anyone wanking in public - where do you people all live?!!

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