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To think there should be plus size outdoor furniture?

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ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:16

(Post edited by MNHQ)
Or is there some and I’m missing it? I’ve been searching online for ages but not found anything.

Trigger In an effort not to discriminate - my weight gain is because of medical issues. Endocrine tumour, steroids, PCOS just to name a few. I lost lots of weight through starving myself to fit the norm & it piled on so any comments regarding weight please be mindful*

I broke a chair (the mesh type one) and basically feel mortified. My bum & ego are bruised 😂
I can’t go in direct sun/daylight, so the evenings myself & DC like to have supper and time outside whilst it’s cooler. I don’t want to have to stop that just because, well basically I’m fat.

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RandomUsernameHere · 21/06/2024 12:16

I'd go for a good quality wooden bench. Don't feel bad about the broken chair, furniture left outside can degrade so it becomes really weak, it may well have broken regardless of your weight.

Porridgeislife · 21/06/2024 12:15

Please don’t feel you have to justify why you’re living with obesity. The reasons are complex and very rarely due just personal lifestyle choices.

I think if you spent a bit more on a high quality furniture like Maze you would be okay. Outdoor furniture is usually a bit more generously sized, at least ours is.

You probably need to go in store to sit on the chairs and make sure you’ve got space and they feel sturdy. Every deserves comfy seating in their own home.

TheArtfulWriter · 21/06/2024 12:13

Items marketed as 'outdoor furniture' are often light, for putting away. And the cheap ones can be quite flimsy! Given our shitty weather they're not build robustly for constant use.

YABU to expect 'plus sized' furniture with these features. Any reinforcement will make them heavier.

There are loads of other options. Sofas, heavier furniture that isn't 'outdoor' , but with a protective cover.

There are also custom furniture makers who can build to order.

The issue probably isn't your weight but money.

Comedycook · 21/06/2024 12:07

I have seen really quite robust garden furniture...looks more like furniture for indoors often but is actually garden furniture. It's usually pretty expensive like most things which are better quality. I think the cheapo rattan sets are generally more flimsy feeling

Kittea · 21/06/2024 12:07

You know PCOS doesn’t cause weight gain? They go hand in hand, both caused by the same root cause = insulin resistance.

PCOS is known as type 4 diabetes (type 3 being dementia).

Get yourself low carb and save your money on what would no doubt be a massively overpriced piece of furniture!

CrotchetyQuaver · 21/06/2024 12:05

I think if you choose carefully you might be ok. I would look for a good quality metal chair with some weight to it which should mean it's got the extra strength you need it to have. Then a seat cushion for comfort. You probably need to see it in person rather than trust the internet photos.

Looking at my Kettler set, the plastic wickerwork is stronger than it looks, one of my DD is a big girl, I don't know how heavy but she must be 100kg plus. It's coped fine with her. But that was expensive at over £2k, depends on your budget really.

KarenOH · 21/06/2024 12:05

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

No one is asking the world to adapt, it's checking that the capitalist society we live in provides chairs for larger folks. Spoiler - they do!

What loss is it to you? None. Wind your bloody neck in.

sharpspade · 21/06/2024 12:04

Buy a properly made wooden bench, and get comfy cushions for it. The sort of bench you see in parks. They get a lot of use and seem to last years with regular painting or varnishing.

KarenOH · 21/06/2024 12:03

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:16

(Post edited by MNHQ)
Or is there some and I’m missing it? I’ve been searching online for ages but not found anything.

Trigger In an effort not to discriminate - my weight gain is because of medical issues. Endocrine tumour, steroids, PCOS just to name a few. I lost lots of weight through starving myself to fit the norm & it piled on so any comments regarding weight please be mindful*

I broke a chair (the mesh type one) and basically feel mortified. My bum & ego are bruised 😂
I can’t go in direct sun/daylight, so the evenings myself & DC like to have supper and time outside whilst it’s cooler. I don’t want to have to stop that just because, well basically I’m fat.

My advice is to go and try some chairs out in actual shops - we got a lovely study table and chairs from Homebase years ago and its still in great condition - I am 22 stone for reference.

KarenOH · 21/06/2024 12:01

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

Oh do bore off.

sprigatito · 21/06/2024 12:01

As showcased on this thread, a lot of people think fat people deserve to be humiliated and hurt by crashing through furniture, because it serves them right for being greedy. Making furniture to accommodate them spoils the fun.

shearwater2 · 21/06/2024 11:59

I imagine there is a market for it, and if there is, it will happen.

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

I find comments like this bonkers. The world absolutely can and will adapt to people being bigger, and already has in many ways. It's just a fact of life now that 66% of adults are overweight and no amount of bitter judgey pants remarks to try and make you feel better about your own failings as a human being will change that.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/06/2024 11:59

Yes there should be furniture to accommodate larger people. Everybody needs to sit and excluding people by dint of their weight isn't right.

Market forces will drive this, if there is enough demand then the furniture will be made and sold; I can imagine a high demand for it.

I'm not getting into the bollocks of diet chat that's already started on this thread, it's utterly irrelevant however much posters here love to wang on and on about it. People need clothes to fit them and chairs suitable to sit on. Their bodies are their own business and this really isn't rocket science.

I hope your condition is brought under control, OP, sounds miserable for you.

TeenLifeMum · 21/06/2024 11:57

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

What a bonkers comment. Whatever the reason (and surely we are all aware it’s a complex issue), it you’re fat you still want to sit down!

Beachhutgirl · 21/06/2024 11:57

It may not be precisely what you had in mind, but I suggest you try a Google or amazon search for a heavy duty camping chair.

I'm size 24/26, and i have a carvapet one I bought for camping, but use in the garden as well , as its amazingly comfortable, and feels totally secure.

Someone even said I looked elegant sitting in it!

Hazelville · 21/06/2024 11:54

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

There is a lot of scientific research around UPF causing weight gain rather than people just overeating. There are a lot of complex reasons for people eating more UPF foods. It is more complex than people eating too much.

Comedycook · 21/06/2024 11:53

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

This is really unnecessary.

The op isn't responsible for the worlds obesity problem.

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

Comedycook · 21/06/2024 11:36

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

So what?

Op...you shouldn't have had to justify or explain your reasons for being plus size.

It's irrelevant

MigGirl · 21/06/2024 11:34

I'm sure you can, my SIL is very (how shallnI put this) obese. The IL'S have to buy special furniture to fit her very large frame. FIL has mentioned this in the past, that she has broken chairs. She even brings her own when they come to our house 🙈. So they must exist.

To be honest I feel like I'm getting a bit like that myself but like you OP it's due to medical issues I've had recently, not like my SIL you just eats half a cake at a time 😳.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 21/06/2024 11:32

Onlybeingnosey · 21/06/2024 11:21

We have a load of the metal bistro chairs similar to this
Aluminium Bistro Arm Chair (Minimum 4) | BiGDUG

They will pretty much hold anything

Yeah these don't work for fatties because the arms cut into your legs, as a fatties, I avoid these like the plague

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:30

longdistanceclaraclara · 21/06/2024 11:28

I'm bored so just googled op, there is lots available online

I have been for ages but not two seater, I’m probably away with the fairies!

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CocoapuffPuff · 21/06/2024 11:30

Does it have to be light to move around? I'd suggest a nice wooden bench or two. If you're really concerned, I bet a joiner could make you one to your own specs. Something that you can add lovely box cushions too, with memory foam inners. Easy to take off when not in use.

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:29

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/06/2024 11:28

Get an outdoor corner sofa? Plenty of room in the corner to lounge comfortably. Plastic wicker or whatever most of them are made out of is pretty sturdy.

Fwiw people who are fat because they just eat too much also deserve safe comfy furniture, your disclaimer sounds a bit judgy.

Ah I’m so sorry I didn’t even think of that, I think I was just sensitive to comments I would get, I’ll try edit it now, thank you

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MissMoneyFairy · 21/06/2024 11:29

Argos do a 2 seater rattan effect chair £39