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To think there should be plus size outdoor furniture?

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ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:16

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Or is there some and I’m missing it? I’ve been searching online for ages but not found anything.

Trigger In an effort not to discriminate - my weight gain is because of medical issues. Endocrine tumour, steroids, PCOS just to name a few. I lost lots of weight through starving myself to fit the norm & it piled on so any comments regarding weight please be mindful*

I broke a chair (the mesh type one) and basically feel mortified. My bum & ego are bruised 😂
I can’t go in direct sun/daylight, so the evenings myself & DC like to have supper and time outside whilst it’s cooler. I don’t want to have to stop that just because, well basically I’m fat.

OP posts:
JaggySplinter · 21/06/2024 14:40

I find the comments on this type of thread really depressing.

OP - yes to all the recommendations of 2 seaters and sofas. Be comfy outside. Your body is just as worthy of comfortable seating as anyone else.

All the fat shaming! If you've never found it hard to maintain a healthy weight you literally have no idea. If you've never had issues around food (and over eating until obesity is often an eating disorder) then you have no idea. People don't do it for fun. Obesity caused by UPF and inactivity is a societal problem not a lack of personal responsibility.

Windymoore · 21/06/2024 14:32

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

God point: and feel free to keep it to poke uit into someone who meets the criteria: op has made it perfectly clear what her's is due to.

Sparklfairy · 21/06/2024 14:27

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

OP isn't asking 'the world' to adapt. She's asking to also be accommodated, same as everyone else.

I'm sorry for your health issues OP, but I'm even more sorry that you knew in advance you'd get 'lose weight, problem solved' comments if you didn't add the disclaimer. Ironically, you're still getting them, just not aimed at you specifically!

I'm not overweight so have no skin in this game, but it's quite sad reading an underlying attitude from some posters of 'if you're fat, you don't deserve to sit down outside'.

LifeExperience · 21/06/2024 14:18

ByNavyOtter · 21/06/2024 13:43

Op, bless you. I'm a size 6 and I broke two mesh chairs. They're shit quality hence them being so cheap in basically all supermarkets entry ways! Don't assume everything is your weight and dig yourself out about it. Weight wise, get a walking pad. I do about 20k steps a day and most of them on my walking pad. I work long hours but I figured I'm better being uncomfortable for an hour and a half a day than the rest of my life. Don't touch your diet for 30 days. Let your walking pad and walking show you what it can do. I have an overweight friend who will never take this advice and instead stops and starts really unhealthy restrictive diets constantly rather than just invest the time. I used to think there was no way I could walk that much everyday but overtime it becomes a habit, you have to just make it more important than anything else. Re the plus sized furniture, it's a pain but I'd actually reccomend focusing on getting healthy and fitting regular sized furniture than spending money to accommodate something that isn't making you feel good. Make do with what you have for this year and vow to yourself to get healthy in a consistent and realistic way for next summer. Good luck!

OP did not ask for weight loss advice.

Keepingongoing · 21/06/2024 14:03

@ByNavyOtter i think you mean well but the OP didn’t ask for weight loss advice. And, It’s completely wrong to assume that what works for you as a size 6, will work for her. Losing weight when you are overweight or obese is vastly different to maintaining your weight when you’re not overweight.

Why shouldn’t OP have a comfortable chair to sit in this summer?

StamppotAndGravy · 21/06/2024 14:00

The IKEA Namarro sofa sets seem pretty robust. They can certainly survive outside neglected for years! If you've got more money to spend, Fermob chairs survive the general public in Parisian parks so should survive you. They have wider models and ones without arms.

Wordsmithery · 21/06/2024 13:56

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

And here come the fat shamers. Didn't take long for the judgements to start.
Being overweight is complex. Overeating amd being sedentary are of course huge factors. But there are others, too. Like genetics, metabolism, mental health, age. Some people lose weight once and that's it, for life. Others yo-yo for years, and then there are those who just can't get started on weight loss at all.
This is supposed to he a supportive network. Please can we just support?

comeondover · 21/06/2024 13:53

KarenOH · 21/06/2024 13:39

This. The idea of fat people being equal to them invalidates the whole system.

Well put

TinklySnail · 21/06/2024 13:48

Wooden furniture would be better for you. More expensive but will last longer and not break your body or your ego ❤️

ByNavyOtter · 21/06/2024 13:43

Op, bless you. I'm a size 6 and I broke two mesh chairs. They're shit quality hence them being so cheap in basically all supermarkets entry ways! Don't assume everything is your weight and dig yourself out about it. Weight wise, get a walking pad. I do about 20k steps a day and most of them on my walking pad. I work long hours but I figured I'm better being uncomfortable for an hour and a half a day than the rest of my life. Don't touch your diet for 30 days. Let your walking pad and walking show you what it can do. I have an overweight friend who will never take this advice and instead stops and starts really unhealthy restrictive diets constantly rather than just invest the time. I used to think there was no way I could walk that much everyday but overtime it becomes a habit, you have to just make it more important than anything else. Re the plus sized furniture, it's a pain but I'd actually reccomend focusing on getting healthy and fitting regular sized furniture than spending money to accommodate something that isn't making you feel good. Make do with what you have for this year and vow to yourself to get healthy in a consistent and realistic way for next summer. Good luck!

ManyATrueWord · 21/06/2024 13:42

God, you're horrendous. The OP even tried to preempt you by sharing she had medical conditions to cause weight gain. Yet you still had to jump in basically saying it's all people's own fault.

11% of women have lipoedema
13% of women have PCOS
25% of women have serious sexual trauma
8% of women have subclinical hypothyroidism
That still leaves all the other medical causes of getting fat, like lymphoedema.

@VolvoFan You're just plain wrong.

KarenOH · 21/06/2024 13:39

Comedycook · 21/06/2024 12:56

Op...do remember that a great number of women are incredibly proud of being slim. It's their greatest achievement.... sometimes they don't feel like society gives them enough recognition for this so they feel the need to berate others.

This. The idea of fat people being equal to them invalidates the whole system.

WhereYouLeftIt · 21/06/2024 13:36

@ThemysteriousH are you wanting a chair that is lightweight and moved from location to location in your garden (following the sun or following the shade) or is it likely to be kept in the one place (by a table, say) and so it doesn't have to be easy to move? If it's going to be pretty static, I'd consider going for a wooden chair. They are far sturdier and often far wider in the seat that the aluminium folding/lightweight chairs sold everywhere.

Garden centres often have several styles in stock, at our food festival a local man often turns up selling teak garden furniture for pretty reasonable prices too. Dunelm, Ikea, Robert Dyas, Habitat - all these sorts of places do garden chairs/sets. A bit more expensive, maybe £60+ against the £20 we paid for folding chairs we take to places, but worth it.

Ones I like the look of are:

https://www.dunelm.com/product/phoenix-acacia-chair-1000183731

https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/naemmaroe-lounge-chair-outdoor-light-brown-stained-40510306/

Phoenix Acacia Chair | Dunelm

Crafted beautifully from acacia wood, this rattan garden chair is ideal for sitting a relaxing in the sun. With a durable, strong, and water-resistant design, this chair is rustic, practical, and stylish.

https://www.dunelm.com/product/phoenix-acacia-chair-1000183731

KimberleyClark · 21/06/2024 13:32

sprigatito · 21/06/2024 12:01

As showcased on this thread, a lot of people think fat people deserve to be humiliated and hurt by crashing through furniture, because it serves them right for being greedy. Making furniture to accommodate them spoils the fun.

It’s amazing how many videos of people falling over on Facebook are of fat people. Really awful.

Comedycook · 21/06/2024 12:56

Op...do remember that a great number of women are incredibly proud of being slim. It's their greatest achievement.... sometimes they don't feel like society gives them enough recognition for this so they feel the need to berate others.

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 12:50

Keepingongoing · 21/06/2024 12:49

Some astonishing comments on here, OP is asking for a chair she can sit in, not for the world to ‘reshape’ itself! Looking at you too @Badassnameforadojo

OP’s very understandable disclaimer about the weight gain being due to multiple medical conditions is then criticised for being ‘judgy’

@ThemysteriousH , I hope you find something comfortable and have some lovely time sitting out over the summer

Thank you so much, I’ve stepped away from the thread due to the comments. I appreciate this 🫶🏼

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Keepingongoing · 21/06/2024 12:49

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

Some astonishing comments on here, OP is asking for a chair she can sit in, not for the world to ‘reshape’ itself! Looking at you too @Badassnameforadojo

OP’s very understandable disclaimer about the weight gain being due to multiple medical conditions is then criticised for being ‘judgy’

@ThemysteriousH , I hope you find something comfortable and have some lovely time sitting out over the summer

comeondover · 21/06/2024 12:35

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

Yes, fat people should just stand, or sit on the floor. Why should they be able to use furniture like other people?

Cluborange666 · 21/06/2024 12:33

Jeeze, as a fellow fatty, not reading these comments is self care (some at least).

The woman asked about chairs, not diets, not pompous condemnation, chairs… Op I reckon plus size anything probably has a market (for here and the US anyway). Probably an online business opportunity. Equally, as more people buy Chinese products, I find the fit of all cheaper goods are not suitable for ‘traditionally built’ ladies like myself.

Btw, for the benefit of the ‘just eat less’ crowd, PCOS means you can starve and still be obese. It’s not as simple as overeating.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/06/2024 12:32

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:26

I completely agree and a few years ago I was a normal BMI and then obviously I had that blip not eating.
I’m on complan shakes on prescription because I struggle to eat.
I do see your point though and understand it.

Please don't feel that you need to validate the overly simple but objectionable views of some really lacking posters. Just as they feel that overweight people shouldn't be accommodated, I feel that morons shouldn't either.

I often think they're current or previous 'fatties' given the fury and vigour of their frankly silly witterings? Who knows? Who cares? You owe no explanation to anybody, OP.

Disturbia81 · 21/06/2024 12:28

I'm out and about a lot and I see lots of things that need to be made bigger to fit the modern population but I doubt they ever will be. Biggest one is bus seats. I see many people take up 1.5 seats and the other person is half in the aisle. Getting through the aisle on a full bus takes a lot of careful stepping around people.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/06/2024 12:24

SummerBarbecues · 21/06/2024 11:19

I am sure product designers are already designing things to accomodate the majority of their customers. I'm sure they have high weight limit than 50 years ago. I am short and I can tell you what a pain it is when supermarket put items on the top shelf. Or chairs are too high and my feet don't touch the ground.

This made me smile. I'm 5ft 6" but I find that a particular product at M&S that I buy every time I go but it's just that bit too high for me to reach. My solution was to go to the shelf with rolls of foil/baking paper on it, get on, go back to the product, use the roll to flick that off for me to catch - and replace kitchen foil as I go round the shop.

The last time I went I saw that this product had been moved to a shelf lower. Perhaps they saw and took pity on me? Either way, I wish they done it years ago.

TheArtfulWriter · 21/06/2024 12:22

Also OP - if money is an issue, depending on where you live, lots of people move and sell quality furniture for a low price. Look on Facebook Marketplace, Gumtree , Freecycle etc.

Current on FB marketplace within 30 miles of me there's a lot of garden benches, ex-pub furniture, and metal chairs.

Porridgeislife · 21/06/2024 12:18

Kittea · 21/06/2024 12:07

You know PCOS doesn’t cause weight gain? They go hand in hand, both caused by the same root cause = insulin resistance.

PCOS is known as type 4 diabetes (type 3 being dementia).

Get yourself low carb and save your money on what would no doubt be a massively overpriced piece of furniture!

Just because it worked for YOU doesn’t mean it works for EVERYONE.

This lady is also struggling with a lot more on the endocrine side than “just” PCOS.

FrankTheDog · 21/06/2024 12:16

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