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To think there should be plus size outdoor furniture?

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ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:16

(Post edited by MNHQ)
Or is there some and I’m missing it? I’ve been searching online for ages but not found anything.

Trigger In an effort not to discriminate - my weight gain is because of medical issues. Endocrine tumour, steroids, PCOS just to name a few. I lost lots of weight through starving myself to fit the norm & it piled on so any comments regarding weight please be mindful*

I broke a chair (the mesh type one) and basically feel mortified. My bum & ego are bruised 😂
I can’t go in direct sun/daylight, so the evenings myself & DC like to have supper and time outside whilst it’s cooler. I don’t want to have to stop that just because, well basically I’m fat.

OP posts:
ThemysteriousH · 23/06/2024 23:16

TheArtfulWriter · 23/06/2024 21:43

I posted recommendations too but the OP didn't reply!
She also hasn't clarified what she means by 'garden furniture' whether it needs to be foldable, can be left outside, also budget. And what exactly she's been Googling. But she;s replied to all the mean comments...

Ignore all these pricks OP and let's return to actual garden furniture

I’m so so so sorry. I got too hyper focused on the mean ones, which I shouldn’t have!

So looking for a chair that is easy to assemble and lightweight. I’ve got the an ikea one and camping one posted on here.

Also looking on Facebook marketplace for some kind of wicker (can’t remember the word!) as I’d be useless at assembling.

Apologies again, I’ve found your comment and it was really helpful :)

OP posts:
TheArtfulWriter · 23/06/2024 21:43

soupfiend · 22/06/2024 10:44

Only 2 posts setting out some actual recommendations

I used to be 20 stone (more actually) and Ive lost 10 stone. Thats with an underactive thyroid and PCOS.

However my biggest fear when big was furniture, so I did months of tedious research before buying anything.

So as someone has mentioned, Lafuma do XL funiture. This is what we now have, its too big for me now and do be aware it is quite big and heavy.

Look for things that have a weight limit of 125kg or 150kg, most garden furniture, home furniture, bikes even have weight limits of 100kg, sometimes less!

Its not just the weight limit, its also the width, as others have said your legs and arms cut in, if they're too narrow.

Anything wooden would be strong and sturdy but the disadvantage is that you cant fold away easily/cover easily/move round the garden easily.

Do some googling OP and you will find what you need, although its more expensive too

I posted recommendations too but the OP didn't reply!
She also hasn't clarified what she means by 'garden furniture' whether it needs to be foldable, can be left outside, also budget. And what exactly she's been Googling. But she;s replied to all the mean comments...

Ignore all these pricks OP and let's return to actual garden furniture

ThemysteriousH · 23/06/2024 12:53

ChickenNugget86 · 23/06/2024 11:32

Hi @ThemysteriousH I'm plus size myself. Basically a poor diet after my mum died suddenly. Didn't look after my self. Used food as a comfort. So for my entire 20s I've been 19/20 stone. I get paranoid about furniture holding my weight. Had quite a few near misses!
I've got some lovely garden furniture from a shop called jysk. It holds my weight and is good to be kept outside. Had it for over 7 years no issues and still looks good. Thankfully since becoming a mum myself my weight has gone down to 16 stone mark. Still overweight but feeling better than I was.
Hope you can find something suitable.

Hi!

Bless you, it’s horrible we have to feel we need to explain the reason for being plus size in this day and age 🥺 especially on a forum predominantly women.

I will check that out now! Thank you so much ☺️

OP posts:
ChickenNugget86 · 23/06/2024 11:32

Hi @ThemysteriousH I'm plus size myself. Basically a poor diet after my mum died suddenly. Didn't look after my self. Used food as a comfort. So for my entire 20s I've been 19/20 stone. I get paranoid about furniture holding my weight. Had quite a few near misses!
I've got some lovely garden furniture from a shop called jysk. It holds my weight and is good to be kept outside. Had it for over 7 years no issues and still looks good. Thankfully since becoming a mum myself my weight has gone down to 16 stone mark. Still overweight but feeling better than I was.
Hope you can find something suitable.

Keepingongoing · 22/06/2024 17:05

ThemysteriousH · 22/06/2024 10:27

What about my endocrine tumour that regulates many of my body functions? Having to live with not being in control of simple things.
Can you even imagine what it’s like to gain weight even though I count my calories? All whilst trying not to go back to starving myself.
Many medics involved in my care talk about my weight gain. I’ve many other conditions too.
The looks of disgust & comments I get from people make me so insecure.

Even if it wasn’t caused by that, there’s many reasons people are overweight such as trauma, mental health. Just because someone is outside the normal BMI they shouldn’t be berated.

I genuinely applaud those who can keep their weight under control and envy them secretly.
But please be mindful. I’d like to think humans treat each other equally!

Well said.

Towerofsong · 22/06/2024 10:58

www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/skarpoe-armchair-outdoor-white-70234185/

www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/naemmaroe-lounge-chair-outdoor-light-brown-stained-40510306/

Check these out, I remember seeing them in IKEA and they looked pretty large. The measurements say they are good up to 110kg

soupfiend · 22/06/2024 10:44

Only 2 posts setting out some actual recommendations

I used to be 20 stone (more actually) and Ive lost 10 stone. Thats with an underactive thyroid and PCOS.

However my biggest fear when big was furniture, so I did months of tedious research before buying anything.

So as someone has mentioned, Lafuma do XL funiture. This is what we now have, its too big for me now and do be aware it is quite big and heavy.

Look for things that have a weight limit of 125kg or 150kg, most garden furniture, home furniture, bikes even have weight limits of 100kg, sometimes less!

Its not just the weight limit, its also the width, as others have said your legs and arms cut in, if they're too narrow.

Anything wooden would be strong and sturdy but the disadvantage is that you cant fold away easily/cover easily/move round the garden easily.

Do some googling OP and you will find what you need, although its more expensive too

ThemysteriousH · 22/06/2024 10:40

PCController2 · 21/06/2024 17:13

Totally genuine question. Do the hormones, steroids etc. make you put on weight directly (e.g. by signalling your body to store more food as fat), or do they hugely increases one's appetite to a point that almost no one would be able to avoid eating more?

I can’t explain it, so the steroids generally make patients feel more hungry, but also can create something called “moon face”.
The moon face is very noticeable on me. It’s become really round (& chins!)

Typically someone “healthy” on my diet etc would lose weight quicker & vastly more, but my metabolism is very low.

I don’t know too much about it all as weight is a sensitive topic due to my past issues with food so it’s not something really talked about at my appointments, I’m just reassured really that it’s nothing that I’m doing. I do food diaries etc and it effects me emotionally.
It is something on my list to look into when things settle.

Thank you for asking, it’s refreshing that someone wants to know the reasoning. I apologise I don’t have more knowledge about it but another poster may do :)

(* I hope others don’t see this as me bashing overweight people who don’t have medical issues, I empathise either way as I know and feel the stigma)

OP posts:
Sunshineandrainbow · 22/06/2024 10:34

I have a la fuma XL chair, have had it 10 years and recently replaced just the seat bit. It stays outside all year and is is fab condition.
Expensive but well worth it.
I am size 24

If not look at a lovely chunky wooden bench.

ThemysteriousH · 22/06/2024 10:30

Thank you for your responses all.

Sorry I haven’t managed to reply individually to everyone.
I seem to bite at the negative ones, whilst I should be thanking the positive ones.
We all deserve furniture regardless of weight or circumstances- thank you for those who’ve spoke up about that.
I’m not one for conflict tbh and going to ignore judgy comments going forward.

Apologies to anyone this has upset, it wasn’t my intention.

OP posts:
ThemysteriousH · 22/06/2024 10:27

Kittea · 21/06/2024 12:07

You know PCOS doesn’t cause weight gain? They go hand in hand, both caused by the same root cause = insulin resistance.

PCOS is known as type 4 diabetes (type 3 being dementia).

Get yourself low carb and save your money on what would no doubt be a massively overpriced piece of furniture!

What about my endocrine tumour that regulates many of my body functions? Having to live with not being in control of simple things.
Can you even imagine what it’s like to gain weight even though I count my calories? All whilst trying not to go back to starving myself.
Many medics involved in my care talk about my weight gain. I’ve many other conditions too.
The looks of disgust & comments I get from people make me so insecure.

Even if it wasn’t caused by that, there’s many reasons people are overweight such as trauma, mental health. Just because someone is outside the normal BMI they shouldn’t be berated.

I genuinely applaud those who can keep their weight under control and envy them secretly.
But please be mindful. I’d like to think humans treat each other equally!

OP posts:
Shizzlestix · 21/06/2024 19:24

We have mesh folding chairs, they’re quite big and never quailed under my nearly 24st, (lots less now) had them years. They were from Homebase. Alternatively, nice wooden bench? Stick cushions on top for comfort.

JaceLancs · 21/06/2024 19:17

We are a fairly sturdy family although trying to be less so!
ikea aluminium garden furniture is amazing - bought a set in first Covid lock down still looks brand new

Mabelface · 21/06/2024 19:15

Bloody hell, there's some right nasty people on here!

boredm · 21/06/2024 18:59

Badassnameforadojo · 21/06/2024 11:18

Your issue may be medical but let’s be honest, that’s a small number of people who can use that reason. The majority are just fat because they eat too much and are sedentary. I think it’s dangerous to start shaping the world around severely overweight people.

I don't really agree with this. Yes it's about eating more, but before I went on medication it would have been impossible for me to get fat, I couldn't do it if I tried

namechange92571 · 21/06/2024 18:57

@PCController2 in my case I can literally eat exactly the same food and I lose weight when I'm not taking hormones.
I was off them for just over two weeks and lost 14lbs in that time.
I meal prep and it was the same batches of food. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I also have ASD so I have a slightly odd relationship with food and eat the same things on repeat.
My blood sugars when on the hormones go really odd too. So I will repeatedly have low blood sugars. This stops within a couple of days of coming off the meds.
So it seems like my body is actively storing calories when I'm on the hormones. My consultant said when I started seeing him that the only realistic goal whilst on the hormones is maintaining weight and not losing ☹️

I'm on them for 4 more years yet ☹️

PCController2 · 21/06/2024 17:13

namechange92571 · 21/06/2024 14:55

Oh do pipe down!!!

Hormone issues causing weight gain are more common than you think! The amount of hormones doctors pump into those of us who are unlucky enough to have PCOS, endometriosis or endometrial cancer is shocking.
I was underweight before I started being pumped full of hormones because of issues with my periods in my teens.
I have had it confirmed by my doctors that the use of these hormones directly affected my getting cancer and that the hormones they then started pumping into me would make me bigger still.
It will no doubt become another NHS scandal about how many women have been failed.

Totally genuine question. Do the hormones, steroids etc. make you put on weight directly (e.g. by signalling your body to store more food as fat), or do they hugely increases one's appetite to a point that almost no one would be able to avoid eating more?

Sparklfairy · 21/06/2024 16:23

Skyrainlight · 21/06/2024 16:13

My dad is six foot four (not particularly over weight but a big guy) and has broken a few pieces of furniture. I've noticed that when he sits down he doesn't use his leg muscles to slowly lower himself he just kind of drops from a height and hits the chair below him which I think is much harder on the furniture. If I was you I would look for sturdy wood furniture, I think it will last much better.

I'm sorry, that made me smile Grin Just picturing it, I reckon if I was 6ft4 I'd be thinking it's a long way down and would take ages to lower myself carefully using leg muscles, I'd let gravity do its thing too! Wink

Skyrainlight · 21/06/2024 16:13

My dad is six foot four (not particularly over weight but a big guy) and has broken a few pieces of furniture. I've noticed that when he sits down he doesn't use his leg muscles to slowly lower himself he just kind of drops from a height and hits the chair below him which I think is much harder on the furniture. If I was you I would look for sturdy wood furniture, I think it will last much better.

AmelieTaylor · 21/06/2024 15:36

If you want a lightweight one, I bought one from Costco & they still had them in last week though not online.

its Director Chair style, very light but sturdy & feels 'safe' & comfortable. Wasn't expensive, about £35 I think.

Blackcats7 · 21/06/2024 15:06

Charles taylor garden furniture is very sturdy and actually has a larger chair with a high weight limit. You can buy direct or The Range and ebay sell some of the products. They look really nice too and last years. I have their arch and two seater benches.
Just ignore those giving unwanted opinions here.
Edited to add, just googled and Grand Chair has a 150kg weight limit.

namechange92571 · 21/06/2024 14:55

VolvoFan · 21/06/2024 11:42

I'm sorry about your medical issues, but the vast majority of people are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices. People weren't this big 30 years ago, people are eating too much and exercising much less than they used to. Corner cases such as yours do not warrant the world to adapt, otherwise it just gets normalised.

Oh do pipe down!!!

Hormone issues causing weight gain are more common than you think! The amount of hormones doctors pump into those of us who are unlucky enough to have PCOS, endometriosis or endometrial cancer is shocking.
I was underweight before I started being pumped full of hormones because of issues with my periods in my teens.
I have had it confirmed by my doctors that the use of these hormones directly affected my getting cancer and that the hormones they then started pumping into me would make me bigger still.
It will no doubt become another NHS scandal about how many women have been failed.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/06/2024 14:43

I think it's just knowing the right search terms, Greaterorlesser, I wouldn't have thought to use 'bariatric', but you're right.

Greaterorlesser · 21/06/2024 14:41

ThemysteriousH · 21/06/2024 11:16

(Post edited by MNHQ)
Or is there some and I’m missing it? I’ve been searching online for ages but not found anything.

Trigger In an effort not to discriminate - my weight gain is because of medical issues. Endocrine tumour, steroids, PCOS just to name a few. I lost lots of weight through starving myself to fit the norm & it piled on so any comments regarding weight please be mindful*

I broke a chair (the mesh type one) and basically feel mortified. My bum & ego are bruised 😂
I can’t go in direct sun/daylight, so the evenings myself & DC like to have supper and time outside whilst it’s cooler. I don’t want to have to stop that just because, well basically I’m fat.

It absolutely does exist. Just Google bariatric garden furniture. Lots of companies sell such items.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/06/2024 14:41

Windymoore · 21/06/2024 14:32

God point: and feel free to keep it to poke uit into someone who meets the criteria: op has made it perfectly clear what her's is due to.

And expect any twattish comments about somebody else's weight to be robustly batted back. What is it with the arrogance of some posters who a) think OP or anybody else needs unasked for weight loss advice from them and b) think that their ill-considered and cruel comments should be accepted without comment?

This thread really wasn't about weight at all, it's about having furniture that is sturdy so that larger people are not having to constantly 'risk assess' whether they can sit down or not.