Is this inappropriate? Family photo.

I was thinking the same about you OP.
You are seeking offence where none exists.

If your friend is feeling up to looking on FB, then she knows what to expect on there. She also knows that her friends profile picture is not to do with her, it isn't a dig rubbing in how happy her family are, it is just a new profile pic.

As your friend liked it, I think you can rest assured that her best friend has been a good friend to her, not someone insensitive or showing off their life. You have this single snapshot, because your relationship is not as close as theirs, you are not seeing the picture in the context of support, phone calls, hugs, tears etc - it is a total non event for a friendship carried out mainly off line.

This is nothing to do with you, stop stirring the pot.

For all you know, the bereaved friend and best friend might have talked about the importance of making memories with your children and savouring the time you have with them.

Mind your own business.

To be fair your Op is snarky.

You are judging someone for something you think someone else might be upset about, even though there’s no proof they are upset.

Plenty of bereaved people do not want everyone else second guessing what they do in their own space in case it upsets them. Seeing people happy can something that momentarily lifts you.

What is, in your opinion, the right amount of waiting time before you share any family photos, if you know someone who is grieving?

Not your offence to be had. Don’t worry about it.

You're the one trying to start an argument with everyone!

You have taken it upon yourself to get annoyed about this; to tell others they are “snarky” if they disagree. It’s so performative.

Let your friend decide for herself if she’s upset.

I can see where you’re coming from but I don’t think the friend has necessarily done anything wrong. How long was she meant to go without changing her profile pic to one of her family? One month, 6 months, 1 year?

Has your friend said that she is upset by the photo or do you think that she should be?

I see where you are coming from too. I would not have uploaded something like that either and I am a bereaved parent. I did also leave FB after my daughter died as things like this did upset me and I had to do this to look after myself.

Yes life does go on but for me, I was hyper sensitive and just needed to remove myself from things that would upset me. The death of your child is impossible to truly comprehend I think until you have walked that path.

You're being ridiculous.

When someone experiences a tragedy, other people's lives don't stop. What do you expect your friend's best friend to do? Pretend her own children don't exist or hide them away for the rest of their lives?

I have a friend who lost a child a few days after he was born. She is, and always will be, acutely aware of what she has lost - just as much now, 11 years later, as she was just after the death.

If her eldest son was still alive, he'd be starting secondary school in September and yes, when she sees photos of other people's kids standing by the front door on their first day, she will inevitably think 'That would have been my son if he'd lived' and she will feel sad. But she will also feel happy to see her friends' kids growing up and she will like the pictures. She doesn't resent other people for having something she doesn't have.

I am pretty sure that your friend wouldn't be looking at social media if she didn't want to see pictures of other people being happy right now.

Well I'd say it was extremely insensitive. I'm often surprised by how often perfectly 'nice' people seem immune to the pain of others, even when those others are quite close. Facebook is a nightmare in this respect - best delete it.

Your not starting drama, I understand what you are saying. I personally wouldn't have uploaded a picture but that's just me. I would think this is insensitive as well but we all have different thoughts and feelings about such a sensitive subject. I'm sure her friend who has lost her child wouldn't have liked the photo if she felt it was wrong. As a few people have said who have been in this position, they didn't want people walking on eggshells. We are all different.

I understand where you’re coming from OP as that would be my initial thoughts, however having read these replies by posters who have sadly lost children, it seems that it wouldn’t be viewed as insensitive.

There are two ways of looking at it. I can completely understand the pp response who says she’d prefer to see a happy family pic than to hear people moaning about small stuff. That’s completely understandable.

The best friend has another role to play - being there for her friend in whatever capacity that takes. Her own private social media has no bearing on this. The bereaved woman can choose to stay off the internet (she would probably do well to) if she is likely to be triggered. Tbh, two weeks in, she is going to be emotionally stuffed regardless. That is NORMAL.
I lost my beloved gran just before Mother's Day. Should my mum and I have banned everyone we know from putting pictures of their mums/grans online? Or buying them cards/flowers when we didn't even yet have a grave to put flowers on?

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses on this thread xx

I was literally about to post this

Not your place to take offence

People can still post pictures of their own families.

I think it’s fine and you’re overthinking it.

It’s not reminding her of what has been lost, it’s the opposite, it is saying that the child will never be forgotten. If the bereaved parent has liked it (and presumably also feels that it is a signal that the loss isn’t going to be overlooked) then that tells you all that you need to know I think.

I see what you are saying but you don't know that the two of them didn't have a conversation and the posting of the photo encouraged.

Your friend 'liked' it. She wouldn't have done that if she had an issue.

Not your offence to be had.

I think it's a little insensitive of her friend and wouldn't have done it myself.