Is this inappropriate? Family photo.

Life goes on. And your friend probably isn't spending much time on facebook at the moment.

Oh me oh my….

Just waiting for the deletion message

Good grief, what are you on about. Firstly a photo of someone else’s kid isn’t going to remind her of what she’s lost, what a horrific thing to write, she’s not bloody forgotten. And hiding your kids is a ludicrous suggestion.

honestly I’d get this deleted, it’s so bad.

I think you are over thinking this.

How do you know these two people haven't talked about it before the picture was posted? how do you know that this best friend hasn't been the rock who has helped this woman during the most awful time of her life? how do you know the grieving mother hasn't taken comfort from photos of her dear friend and her family because she's been like a sister to her for years and years?

I just have a feeling that the OP isn't terribly keen on the woman who posted the picture.........

I agree with this. Getting these vibes too.

As ever, often people who condemn other people turn out to not be so nice themselves.

Please don’t take offence to this OP but I think seeing as you are not the one who has just lost their child and the best friend of the person who has just lost their child you should stay out of it and keep your judgements to yourself.

If bereaved friend has liked the photo then why would your mind jump to insensitive

I just have a feeling that the OP isn't terribly keen on the woman who posted the picture.........

I've never lost a child, but I almost lost my daughter when she was very young. While she was in hospital and we weren't sure if she was going to live or die, seeing other people's lives going on as normal actually brought me a great deal of comfort.

I can't say if your bereaved friend would feel the same way, grief is such a personal experience, however it is absolutely not your place to be deciding how she should feel, or getting offended on her behalf. One assumes if she's liked the post that she's ok with it. To be honest I can't imagine she's feeling much of anything about other people's family photos two weeks after the death of her child.

I’m waiting for it 😂

How long before Op comes back say she spoke to her bereaved friend and she is actually devastated about the photo?

I think you’re getting a hard time OP and I can see why this would potentially be viewed as unsympathetic if she is a close friend of the lady who lost her child. You’re obviously not causing drama by asking a question on Mumsnet!

10 days is very close to such a tragic event. I don’t know what the “right” timescale should be though. If something like this happened to a close friend of mine I would feel it inappropriate to put up such a picture - although like other people have said she probably can’t be going through any more pain so a picture is unlikely to make a lot of difference anyway. Personally I feel it is insensitive.

Woah…

The matching outfits would make me 🤔bit tacky but the photo of a happy family won't make a jot of difference.
Don't be offended on someone else's behalf if they are outwardly okay with something, unless they ask you to be.

If your friend is feeling up to looking on FB, then she knows what to expect on there.

I agree with this. FB doesn't have a 'bereaved' filter.

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OP, it was you who said "just reminding her of what she’s now lost."

I advise you to stop thinking about this, you are not coming across well.

I think the op was being thoughtful

I understand what you are saying but as others who have sadly been in the situation of you friend inform you this isn’t the case it really just doesn’t matter at all the pain is to overwhelming

i would ask for this to be taken down as it’s turned nasty when it really shouldn’t have

The friend posted a picture of her own family.

The bereaved parent liked the photo.

At what point are other people who know the family suffering the loss of a child allowed to do things they normally do, OP? Is there an etiquette cut off date. Would 14 days as opposed to 10 be fine.

If a picture of a friend's family had triggered them they wouldn't have liked the picture or they might have scrolled past or not even looked at social media.

I don't know. I might find seeing the photo painful. I don't know if I would feel that the other friend shouldn't have posted it, though. You can find something very painful and also not feel that it shouldn't be there.

I think I’d hate more if everyone went silent and didn’t share their lives but people are different so I don’t know what your friend thinks. Life is hard

My friend lost a child.

1. It's not up to you to dictate how she handles her grief- the fact she liked it clearly means she wasnt upset by it so you getting angry on her behalf is both pointless and unnecessary. You also have no idea what conversations they may have had in private
2. When you are grief stricken, you see reminders on a DAILY basis- even going to the corner shop you will see someone with a child who is about the same age and it will be a knife in your heart so its impossible to avoid - same with tv programmes or the news.
3. We are all responsible for our own feelings. Your friend may rightly decide to come off social media if she finds it painful as family pics on SM are literally everywhere so they are unavoidable. This one friend not posting will make zero difference as she'll see a million other family pics on other people's profiles
4. How much time do you feel is appropriate?- a month, a year, two years?- really not for you to decide this
5. To me, this sounds like you want to attack this person and give them a smack down for your own reasons rather than it being altruistic on behalf of your friend.

I think if the bereaved parent isn’t bothered about it then just leave it, sometimes people do things that perhaps don’t seem kind or thoughtful to others but are fine with the people involved, no point you being offended for her. This is also why I am not on sm anymore fb especially the drama that creates and hassle it seems to cause, life is much more peaceful without it