Is this inappropriate? Family photo.

@condecco seems to be getting a hard time here unnecessarily. Her thoughts and heart were in the right place and she was thinking of her friend's welfare so many of the comments on here are just rude.

I too would have thought it was insensitive, but after reading the posts on here from people who have tragically lost children, it seems that it wouldn’t be viewed as insensitive.

You are a good thoughtful friend, OP.

Stop trying to start drama. You don’t forget you’ve lost a child. It will hardly remind her. Wind your neck in and concentrate on your own life.

Ridiculous.
The friend who lost the child liked the photo so it can't have upset her that much.
It's a tragic thing to happen and the grief will come in waves, for the rest of her life. She's going to be confronted every day with images of families etc. You can't police that and you can't and shouldn't stop friends posting photos of their families because it might upset someone.
At any one point in time, someone on your facebook friends is going to be experiencing a loss. I found it hard when my Dad died to see other people posting photos of them with their Dad so I just stayed off facebook when I was going through the worst of it. And other times when I didn't feel as bad I liked people's photos as I would normally and even though I was sad to have lost my Dad I was and am still always glad to see that other people have theirs and are doing nice things with them.

Yup. But she scraped the barrel this time..

You say that they are best friends (you are just a friend) so how do you not know that they didn't talk about this in advance? As best friends they may have supported one another throughout the illness and actually discussed before anything was posted

No life goes on. You can't expect the world to stop turning.

I say that as a parent whose lost 3 sons.

I think it's better to have people behave as they would normally.

Not tiptoe around or, even worse, avoid completely.
Not lost a child, but have had horrible bereavement.
Also, my thoughts to those who have lost a child x

Come off it. Fair enough if it were the day of the death or the day after you might have a point

One of the hardest things about grief is that for everyone else life goes on.

Your friend’s friend hasn’t done anything wrong, but your friend wouldn’t be wrong for feeling like she had.

Given that your friend has liked the photo, she sounds like a kind and considerate person and you shouldn’t take issue with this other friend on her behalf - that would only cause unnecessary stress for all parties. Forget about it.

It's terribly sad but requesting or hoping for others to stop sharing family photos during mourning isn't really feasible.
Unfortunately life goes on. I hope they get loads of support from all their friends and family, and from counsellors if needed.

Get a grip.

I think this is insensitive though.I am aware that no on is going to "forget" losing their much loved child.However a little tact and kindness is called for here. Maybe just posting online you have had a good holiday and keeping it brief,No photos!

I can't begin to imagine the loss of a child. But I am fairly certain if I did, I wouldn't be anywhere near facebook or social media in general for a long time afterwards. Ten days in, I'm sure I'd still be in the darkest hole. I doubt your friend has seen the post, and obviously there's no need to tell her about it. Just be there to support her as best anyone can.

She lost the child and she isn’t offended so why are you? It means nothing.

It may depend on the age of the child. I couldn’t look at babies after our baby died for long time. Family photos may be ok but maybe those transition ones to new schools, 18ths bring it home again. 2 weeks in I was still in shock and not really able to think. However supportive people are you do have to find your own way with grief. A wave of it can hit you anywhere and anytime and there’s not always people around. Just be there for your friend and let her find her own way through the utter shitness of it all.

There are few things as tedious as person A getting upset/offended/outraged on behalf of person B when person B has not asked them to.

Do you think this friend has updated her photo on purpose to upset her other friend?

I remember when a friend lost his father, it was close to father's day and I said to another friend I felt insensitive mentioning my father around him again.
She said "He will understand, we can't not talk about our dad's again".
This is in the same vein, I think.

People posting or not posting picture of their children will not make the pain any more or less real.
Sending to your friend, I'm so sorry for her loss x

When my DD died, I was more bothered by the people who crossed the street to avoid me than anything anyone posted on Facebook.
I'm sure her friend has been supportive in many ways and there's no getting away from the fact that other people still have their children whilst you've lost yours.

The fact your bereaved friend "liked" the picture tells you all you need to know really OP, which you'd realise if you didn't have such an obvious axe to grind with her best friend.

This. It was Father’s Day a few days ago. And I pretty much guarantee that almost every one of her fb friends/acquaintances were posting MULTIPLE photos of their families doing lovely things for Father’s Day. If seeing other peoples alive children on social media is triggering for her, then she’d have avoided it altogether. Friends pretending their children no longer exist in case it ‘reminds her’ is not helping in any shape or form

In my experience this is one of the things that people think might be insensitive but actually isn’t. The bereaved friend knows you all have happy families and talking about them and appreciating them and loving them is completely fine. It doesn’t impact on her own loss of her own child.

I can't speak for any other bereaved parents, but I definitely found people like the op the worst after my children died.

That bloody look when somebody said something and they thought I may get offended by, which then just puts everyone on eggshells, and means all the interactions I had were awkward and strained, which made me feel even more lonely and more of an outcast.

That judgement of others also extended to me, if I laughed, I was judged with the old "oh your so brave, I would never be able to laugh again if my child died".

So tedious.

Being a grief vampire isn’t something to be proud of OP.

Actually OP I agree it's insensitive. I just wouldn't want to post a happy family photo so soon after if it was someone close to me.
Not saying it would make the loss harder. It's just such a lack of thought