Is this inappropriate? Family photo.

^this. OP, why are you getting insulted on someone else's behalf? Plenty of other bereaved parents have explained why this is ok. Sad as it is, life goes on

Exactly this, when my friend lost her child, she asked everyone to hug their loved ones close and tell them they’re loved because you never know when it will be the last time. Maybe this photo was a situation like that and her friend had her blessing.

Sorry for your loss, but might also have been for not wanting to upset you with their posts.

It's still something people don't talk openly about and don't know how to react.

Quite! the fact she chose to answer that post as opposed to the other 7 speaks volumes.

I can see where you are coming from, but not sure I agree completely.

If it was close family, then that would be massively insensitive.

But beyond close family, then I think it's fine. As others have said, if I had just lost a child I am not sure I would be that bothered about keeping up with other people's lives or Facebook posts and I certainly wouldn't want them having to second guess whether I was having a good day or bad day, as I guess that could go in for months.

I agree OP, she sounds selfish and uncaring.

What has it got to do with you?

You have overdosed on ellipses.

It can be anything that triggers upset after losing a child,Ive saw it in my wife she lost her first boy when he was three.she always said she still had ds 2 unfortunately she lost him as well.Time has passed now birthdays Xmas dates of their deaths are particularly hard and you never forget and we still talk about them and that helps in my wife's case.

The saddest thing about this thread is the number of people who have had the tragic loss of a child. My sister lost her lovely daughter at age 5 and so I’ve witnessed the absolute devastation that has been…. My heart goes out to all who know that pain….

My point is there are some people who intentionally rub people's noses in it. It's up to us to not look and protect ourselves.
When I eventually went back on fb I discovered lots of people had removed me as a friend too. Prob thought I'd been ignoring their posts and took offence. When all I was doing was protecting myself.

This would hurt me but I would blame myself for even logging in to fb and putting myself through that.
I had a late loss and stayed off fb for about 2 years after.
The day after I was told baby had no heartbeat a "friend' sent me a message on snapchat with sympathies. The next day she sent me videos of her rubbing her bump. I never looked at her snapchat again and she eventually deleted me from it. People are dicks.

I too understand where you are coming from and think you are a good friend to be sensitive on her behalf.

You really don't know the background to posting the photo and what conversations she may have had with her best friend. Unless the poster of the photo has had form for not being a good friend, I wouldn't be so quick to judge.

I get what you are saying. But when would it be ok to post a photo? A month later ? A year later? Would that then be saying - it’s ok she’s over it by now? Presumably if it her best friend then she has been a support and has shown her friend that she cares, so a fb photo is irrelevant fluff.

Ah now that isn’t fair. She’s not said anything to these people and she’s asking a question on an anonymous forum.

op, i agree with a pp who said that people are wrapped up in social media and don’t think.

id try to not think about it

Sorry for your loss.

Exactly that.

After my children died there were times I loved seeing photos and people being happy, and there were times I felt resentful, in the times I felt resentful I didn't go online, and I certainly wouldn't have went online and taken offence at people doing normal people stuff.

Or perhaps IF the person who had lost their child was going to be upset they would avoid Social Media for a while. However this bereaved parent liked the picture. Someone else was being offended on their behalf. Ridiculous.

To add to my previous post, an older friend of mind actually lost her son on Mothers day.. Imagine the pain.. oh I don't think you'd know how to empathise for a stranger

Sorry I misread your original post. But I still disagree that it’s an insensitive move. Not sure that your tone on here is doing you any favours tbh.

I'm sorry for your friend's loss.

Someone changing a Facebook photo is probably not going to register in her grief.

I would focus on supporting the friend and ignore what photos other people post on social media.

just my opinion, you don't have to follow it

and I don't know about you, but I don't stop people on the street to tell them about my personal life

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I thought you were making a sensitive point OP. Until you started being rude and sarcastic to people who disagreed with you. You asked for opinions and didn’t like turn when they suffered from your. Be humble and take other people’s views on board.

You are being completely ridiculous