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Date wanted me to buy her coke

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MixtapeEssential · 21/06/2024 09:04

I went on a second date with a woman, the first date had been good, no issues at all.

We arranged to go for a drink, she insisted on buying me a beer since I had picked up the the tab on our first date.

All was going well, we had a couple of afternoon drinks and strolled around chatting. After a little while, my date said she was hungry and shall we stop for something to eat. I told her I didn’t want to spoil my dinner but was happy to order a little starter and sit with her while she ate.

She picked a very smart place. While we were were waiting for our table, she told me she didn’t have any money but was it alright to sit and eat at the window table. I was a little suprised and put on the spot. I may have been alright with that at one point in time, but I was currently short on funds myself.

I told her quietly and discreetly let’s go for a walk, and explained that I had dinner waiting for me and preferred to eat there due to being short on funds, but that I knew a very good quality tasty food truck close by where she could pick up something. She declined.

We continued chatting nicely and strolling for a few minutes, at which point she sat down on a bench and asked me if I wanted to do some “gear”. I told her I wasn’t into that but she was welcome to if she really felt like it.
She got her phone out and began texting her “connection”, asking if that was alright. I told her sure, but I thought she didn’t have any money. She quietly put her phone away looking disappointed.

At this point I just wanted to go home, and told her so, she appeared very excited and said she wanted to come with me, I told her that wasn’t possible.

On the way to the station, we passed a really buzzing place and she wanted to go in for a quick drink.
Being thirsty myself at this point, I agreed, we waited at the door to be let in, at which point, she again said, but I have no money.

I hugged her goodbye and left.

Was I being unreasonable? Is this all quite common now? I have been out of the dating game for a while.

She was otherwise very nice, very attractive, and didn’t look like a drug addict at all, I know that lots of people use coke recreationally without being addicts.

OP posts:
LadyMuckRake · 21/06/2024 09:26

Blimey, no thanks, buying somebody a meal or a drink is very different from buying them drugs.

I can't believe she wheeled out a drug habit on the first date. But it's better now than discovering it when you're attached.

FOJN · 21/06/2024 09:25

Dodged a bullet. Have nothing further to do with this woman.

5128gap · 21/06/2024 09:23

In what world could you possibly think you were unreasonable? Of course it's fine to end dates with people who want you to fund them, push to go back to yours when you haven't invited them, and do recreational drugs. Women have to end dates with men for one or more of these reasons all the time.

Catsmere · 21/06/2024 09:17

She wanted you to buy illegal drugs for her - run a mile!

Fedupmumofadultsons · 21/06/2024 09:13

You have had a big huge lucky escape probably has no money because a serious drug user they don't all look likecrack addicts .chalk it up to experience and move on at least you knew before you actually fell for her