Mumsnet is full of funsuckers?

Everyone I know celebrates their birthday but on here so many posters think it's silly and childish.

Not only did me and DH go away for 2 days at the beginning of this week for my birthday, we are today going out for the day for our wedding anniversary! According to mumsnet it is normal to not even remember your anniversary but even if you do you don't celebrate it because that means you are insecure in your relationship

I find football boring, depends whose wedding it is, depends where the day trip is, dislike socialising with colleagues outside work unless it's someone I like in a " friend" context. I answer the door usually, unless I can see from my window that it's someone who wants to pester me. I'm not the most over the top, fun person ever but just because I don't like certain things doesn't mean I don't like other things. And most people aren't either 100% miserable or 100 % fun all of the time, outside things have an effect on us.

Some people need to suck drama out of every single situation or make it about them, and live in a constant state of feeling judged then in turn judging others it is the new fidget spinner

I agree with you op

I sontbknow if its mumsn key board warriors but somany people here are so negative. No wonder they have friwndahip , relationship friend issues no wonder they stop being invited. It must be awful to be married to someone that doesn't want to share days out with you with

Weddings I really look forward to when I get the invite... Then they become increasingly more of a ball ache the closer the date gets... Peaking the day of....then when I'm there I really enjoy it 😁

I often meet my ' tribe' on here if it's a 'I hate hot weather ' one ! Most people I know like it boiling hot and think I am weird.
I think we are just all different with what we like it don't like.

Well, I like football (love tennis though) and I haven't been to enough weddings to decide whether or not I like them. I dislike daytrips because it usually means a lot of driving or being stuck in a car as a passenger. Going out with colleagues depends on the colleagues, tbh. So, I'm open to most things you've mentioned, OP. No fun-sucking here.😅

I like weddings and depending on the form it takes, I like socialising with colleagues. I also have no issues with the cream teas someone mention upthread and I always answer my door bell. I do however hate football and take care to avoid those who centre the rest of their lives around it. The people who do that may not like some of the things I do for fun. They don't have to- we're all different and that's what stops us being a dull herd of sheep.

Mn has a much larger than average proportion of people who struggle with friendships and entirely ordinary day to day social situations for whatever reason. Which makes it understandable that there’s also a disproportionate percentage on here who hate being invited out to anything, are horrified by the doorbell, and get into their pyjamas as soon as they get in from work.

I wouldn't say funsuckers - as others have said, ideas about what is fun are very individual.

There does however seem to be a large number of self-diagnosed "introverts" who don't like seeing people, don't open the door, resent social interactions with colleagues/family, struggle on the school run, have no friends, don't like the light nights as they prefer snuggling on the sofa etc etc etc.

I like it best when everyone has fucked off and I have the whole day to myself.

Those who complain that they have only been invited to the evening do of a wedding. That would be a gift for me. All.the fun and none of of the drudge of hanging around for hours for photos, speeches etc

You answer the door bell? Mumsnet definition of weirdo.

Don't forget one of the biggest crimes....baby showers

Mumsnet is not full of anything.

Mumsnet is visited by millions of different people.wothbtheor own ideas of fun and likes and dislikes. There is no hive mind and no one opinion.

The overarching feeling I get from other posters is:

"Everything I do is right and if people disagree they're wrong / trolls"

We all like different things of course. But perhaps predictably so, online communities do seem to attract introverts, people who don’t like going out, and the ‘I prefer dogs to people’ types. Very different to people I meet in real life.

What's the point of watching football if you're not interested in it? Or going to weddings if you're not close to the couple? I don't know anyone who's going to marry and wouldn't expect, or want, an invitation if I did. Weddings don't count as fun for me, rather a tedious, expensive waste of time I could be spending doing something enjoyable.

People who don’t like day trips, weddings, going out with work, watching the football, answering the door?

Day trips: love them - though they are limited by the dog these days
Weddings: not for me - too expensive and I feel self conscious dressed up these days
Going out with work: I work from home, but do enjoy the yearly get together we do. I used to work in a swanky London office and enjoyed those nights out, back when I was young enough to be out until the wee hours, get home, shower, get two hours sleep and then get up and go back into work
Watching the footie: I can take or leave it, I tend to hang around the TV towards the end of big tournements, if we make it that far
Answering the door: about half a dozen times a day - too many deliveries not to

That's the thing - some people will like all those things, some only some and some none. That's variety for you.

Eh? I find watching football and going out with work colleagues tedious AF. Doesnt mean I dont do other fun things I like.

This is silly isnt it- just because people dont like the exact same things as you doesnt mean they cant have "fun" in other ways.

You do get that everyone is different surely?.........

Football is a massive buzzkill for me because it dominates everything and you're expected to like it

But some buzzkill types think because they don't like something, it is objectively rubbish, and anyone who does like it is stupid.

This is the problem really. There are a fair few posters who actively look down on hobbies/interests that they don't like and deem them unworthy. I give them extra points in my head if they've never even tried the thing- it's a very toddler-like attitude to have, I think. Fair enough to acknowledge that you're reasonably sure you wouldn't enjoy something, but to dismiss it as unworthy makes you look like a twat, really.

shearwater2 - ''but some buzzkill types think because they don't like something, it is objectively rubbish, and anyone who does like it is stupid.''

But the OP of the thread has labelled anyone who doesn't like what they like ''funsuckers''.

I love all of those except football

Day trips, weddings, going out with work and watching the football aren't really the same as having a friend ring up or come round 🤔

I find i enjoy 'big' stuff less and less as i get older. There's the expense and the organisation - i've been there and done it so many times the shine's worn off.

However i like a mate round for a while for a chin wag, or pop to theirs.