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To worry that a court could order this?

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ctgeqp · 21/06/2024 06:50

Ex DP has recently got a job 5.5 hours drive away. Dd (2.5) has always lived with me and DP has seen her most weekends (never overnight, he’s never wanted that).

I am worried that he will suddenly decide he wants 50-50. Would he get this? Would dd have to travel every week? What if he didn’t get 50-50, would I have to drive 2.5 hours a week to enable her to meet him and see him?

for clarity, I absolutely want him in her life but have recently become worried about him suddenly wanting her to live with him

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HamBagelNoCheese · 21/06/2024 06:56

No man who has never shown any interest in having his child for more than a few hours at a time (ie no overnights) and who is willing to move 5.5 hours away from his child, is ever going to go to the time, effort or expense of going through court for custody.

BibbleandSqwauk · 21/06/2024 06:54

That can't possibly work once she reaches school age or if you have her in any childcare setting. I completely appreciate, more than some on here, that large geographic moves sometimes have to happen but, especially as she's been resident with you so far, it seems unlikely that a judge could order 50/50 and that's too far for anything more than EOW really.My ex travels to our area to see DC and stays locally.

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