What think you?

I’m widowed.
I would do exactly the same in his shoes. The property I have was bought jointly with DC’s father. It absolutely should go to them on my death, not someone who has paid nothing into it.

He could easily dump you for a much younger woman before he pops it.

Where is your security then?

You could die first, there are no guarantees.
6months in and thinking of inheritance stinks of gold digger.

Your colleague is unreasonable. I wonder if he's a bit jealous?

What your partner has proposed is reasonable.

I think that's very normal. My in laws got together and married in their 60's, living in FIL house. His will stated that the house went to his sons, but his wife had time to live in there (not lifetime though as she had her own property that she rented)

I've known a few second time marriages/married later in life and I believe all had the same arrangement

Your 55.
Where are your assets?

He could be very attractive to lots of women including much younger ones if he was going to give all his money away.

Good for him to look after his son.

You go and earn your own security girl.

He's 💯 in the right. His assets should pass to his son in this scenario.

If you had been part of his life for 30 years and contributing to paying the house then I'd be miffed but not if you haven't.

Get over yourself and accept whilst not romantic you're not entitled to it.

Tbh I wouldn't even bother getting married.

I'm unclear why you think you should inherit a house from a man you've dated for a few months, rather than his own child who he has loved for many decades. You are 55, why have you not saved up for your own home and future pension? He is being more than reasonable to offer up a right to stay and his pension to pay you off for the "relationship", you need to be a lot less greedy here.

Entirely sensible- I want my estate to go to my kids too, thats completely normal. As for the "it's not romantic" thing- I bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was you who had all the assets.

Absolutely nothing wrong with what he's proposing. And as to the "not being romantic" 🙄. You're in your 50/60s...you're not teenagers with some idealistic notion of forever. He's being practical and sensible and yes, for a six month relationship, very generous.

It’s what any responsible parent aged 69 contemplating marriage after a brief relationship would do. OP, it’s not his problem if you have no assets. And why on earth would you be discussing your future husband’s will with a colleague?

You’re obviously perfectly entitled to end the relationship if having a pension and a free place to live for life aren’t enough compensation for your personal ‘assets’.

You think you should get everything?

Sounds right to me. After such a short relationship I think he’s being very generous.

I think he is being upfront with you, which is to his credit. I can understand why he would want to leave his house to his son and making the legal provision for you to live in it till your death seems fair, given that you haven't contributed to its purchase. There is less chance of this being contested than if he were to leave you the house on his death, in my opinion.

It's up to you whether you want to agree to this arrangement (should marriage be what you both want) and knowing the house will ultimately go to the son means you have time to make your own arrangements if there are people you want to leave things to in your will.

Do you own a house of your own?

What is it you think? Do you think you should get to keep the house you've paid nothing towards? That's ridiculous.

Having somewhere to live for the rest of your life for free is a great deal. But if you don't want that or the pension, tell him not to put you in his will.

I think it’s just a will that would be in place but if you’re married it automatically goes to you. The will would set the arrangement in place nicely. What assets do you actually have - what is normal as you say?

I think it’s fairly normal for him to want the house to go to his son with you having the right to live there until you pass too. Why would you think you’re entitled to the house?