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Is this school mum trying to intimidate me??

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WayUpHigh1 · 21/06/2024 00:03

This sounds really weird but I’ve had a few encounters with this school mum now and every time I’ve seen him it happens. Few times outside the school gates and one time in a shop near the school. She seems to be quite loud and ‘out there’. Anyway, she will just be walking normally and then when she sees me she will purposefully come towards me and into my path and block me walking and I have to go around and then she said ‘oh sorry’ with a laugh in her voice. First time it happened I just thought nothing of it but it keeps happening.

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Piwi1625 · 26/11/2024 10:56

WayUpHigh1 · 21/06/2024 00:03

This sounds really weird but I’ve had a few encounters with this school mum now and every time I’ve seen him it happens. Few times outside the school gates and one time in a shop near the school. She seems to be quite loud and ‘out there’. Anyway, she will just be walking normally and then when she sees me she will purposefully come towards me and into my path and block me walking and I have to go around and then she said ‘oh sorry’ with a laugh in her voice. First time it happened I just thought nothing of it but it keeps happening.

Ask her "are you OK?" Sarcastically, next time she crosses your path. She sounds like she never left school, one of those ones who liked to bully others to boost herself. She's probably jealous of you!

T1Dmama · 02/07/2024 16:37

OhHelloMiss · 21/06/2024 10:36

I'd just look at her and say 'oh look, here you are AGAIN! Are you ok??'

Just walk off

Either this or just stand your ground and politely with a huge smile say ‘excuse me’ and wait for her to move!

Notjoinedup · 30/06/2024 15:51

Stop and chat and then about two lines in, say, “Is really like to talk to you about Our Lord Jesus”.

That’ll do it.

Whostolemymojo · 30/06/2024 07:24

EnglishBluebell · 25/06/2024 16:11

A claim? OP is an individual, not a business. How is she going to claim?

You can sue individuals. But you’d need some decent funds to be able to do so…

Whostolemymojo · 30/06/2024 07:21

Codlingmoths · 25/06/2024 09:46

Stop, and chat- pretend you’ve assumed she did this because she is wanting to catch up. Smile, be really friendly and say hi how are you?? What are you up to? Lovely weather, have you plans for summer? I haven’t booked that far ahead but I do love the local walks .. with expectant pauses for her to reply.

This!!!
but without the expectant pauses. Just talk at her about random boring shite. Be a total chatty Cathy and waste her time every time she does it. If she walks away, walk beside her and just keep talking 😂 she will soon start avoiding you.

Pherian · 30/06/2024 02:40

ChockysChimichanga · 21/06/2024 06:12

Is she 12?

I have a 12 year old, this is too immature even for him.

IamMoodyBlue · 29/06/2024 20:38

Sounds like bullying to me.
Rather than standing your ground, leaving it open for her to nastily claim that you* *are oobstructing her, maybe react theatrically. When she starts heading towards you, fling yourself flat agsinst the side of the footpath, against the wall or hedge, whatever, calling out,
" I've left you plenty of space to get by me!"
See what sort of reaction you get, then we'll figure out a response if she's daft enough to do it again.

Annanirvana · 29/06/2024 18:39

😂 I had the same thought about dancing, dance around her in circles and say "are you dancing? No? Are you asking? The answers NO" then do your best witchy cackle and walk away. She will think you're crackers and hopefully leave you alone.

Frances0911 · 29/06/2024 18:00

When you see her start to cross the road, can you cross the road so she doesn't pass you? Or is there a different route you can take?

purser25 · 28/06/2024 19:14

I wouldn't confront her or stir her up it would get worse as she wants to have a scene. Just act as if you aren't bothered even if you are.

Cloudtime · 28/06/2024 18:14

I wouldn’t pretend I was looking at my phone or anything like that. I’d walk exactly as I would have done if she wasn’t there and when she blocks me ask ‘why do you repeatedly walk up to me and try to block my path ?’
She’ll either deny and laugh it off or she’ll try and accuse you of being insane . Either way I doubt she’d do it again once she’s been called out for doing such a ridiculously childish thing .
does she do it when others are around or just when you and she have no friends with you?

Daisybuttercup12345 · 28/06/2024 12:45

Could she be a bully from your own schooldays and is dying for you to recognise her?

Poodleydoodley · 28/06/2024 12:36

Get her a white stick. Obviously has problems seeing large objects right in front of her.

Bsgpuss · 27/06/2024 20:19

That's very intimidating. Have you spoken to other mothers about this. Maybe speak to head of school to see if they have a problem. You could report her to the police. They may make a visit to her and give her a warning. You must feel very uncomfortable. I hope things improve for you.

NippyCrab · 27/06/2024 18:29

@WayUpHigh1 did you have an encounter with her this week?

Penguinfeet24 · 27/06/2024 17:03

Honestly? Walk directly into her. So not move round her. She wants to play silly games she'll win a silly prize.

Mamasharp97 · 27/06/2024 08:57

I’d stop walking and stand in front of her until she walks round. And look at her deadpan as she walks round. You’re not playing her game and she’ll know it

Aim4Lesscortisol · 27/06/2024 07:18

Go carefully - I am sorry to give you another thing to worry about but my Dad "told off" a school mum over something when I was a kid and that Mum then encouraged her daughter to bully me - see if you can spot from a distance which child (ren) she picks up, are any of them in your childs class ? These things can sometimes start with something innocent our child has done like sat down at their childs lunch spot or started playing with their childs best friend - I feel for you, hope you can thaw her out somehow

decionsdecisions62 · 27/06/2024 05:22

She sounds unhinged. Don't engage with her whatsoever. She will get bored and move on.

Garlicker · 27/06/2024 02:55

IncompleteSenten · 25/06/2024 12:34

Or open your arms wide, close your eyes and pucker your lips.

😂😂😂

RecklessGoddess · 27/06/2024 02:46

FlaubertSyndrome · 21/06/2024 10:40

Trying to intimidate you sounds less likely than poor vision, bad spatial awareness, or just one of those people who never gets the sidestep dance on the pavement right. I mean, why would she be trying to intimidate you? Have you ever had a conversation with her? Or do you live in a world where strangers randomly try to assert dominance over other parents on the school run by playing 'Who steps aside?' chicken?

Actually, you'd be surprised what some women are like. I have been on the receiving end of hatred from a few women, for absolutely no reason whatsoever. They knew absolutely nothing about me, yet went out of their way to cause me as much gruef as possible!

Mamanyt · 27/06/2024 00:40

WayUpHigh1 · 21/06/2024 11:03

Sorry, meant to say her. I’d think it was one of the other things but she’s walking fine just straight but as soon as she sees me coming she heads towards my path and she seems to find it funny when I have to move round her. I know it sounds strange but it really does seem like she does it on purpose

I will admit that I'm just done with those games. I'd most probably look her in the eye, and say, "No you aren't. You do this every time you see me. Now, move out of my way."

Avoidingsleep · 26/06/2024 22:44

My first thoughts are as others have said.

But, my second thoughts want to know if she could be neuro diverse and trying to ‘bump into you’ to make a friend.

you need to work out if it comes from a place of maliciousness, or wanting a sense of belonging.

Lollybaz · 26/06/2024 21:33

I would simply ask if she's been to Specsavers lately as she clearly needs it seeing as it's not the first time!

SerafinasGoose · 26/06/2024 21:28

Lisajane47 · 25/06/2024 15:46

Please be careful, this happened to me when my son was in primary, so.i stood my ground, this all ended in court, she waited for me at school then hit me straight in the face, breaking my nose and eye socket, we both got hurled in court because I hit her back, she got community hrs.

It wasn't a nice experience and knocked my self esteem, which took me ages to get back.

That's horrific. What the hell is wrong with some people?

I'm no coward and am well able to handle confrontation if it comes to it, but people like this are a liability. The idea of being embroiled in a street brawl, irrespective of circumstances, is mortifying. And no matter how unfair this may seem, what people will see is two women brawling, not who is the perpetrator and who the victim.This was a serious assault @Lisajane47 and I don't in any way blame you for hitting back in self-defence: I'd likely do the same, but would be as devastated as you sound that someone had managed to make me descend to this sort of level.

As to OP's situation, much as I'd hate someone to feel they've intimidated me, this isn't about who wins the stand-off. If at all possible this is someone to avoid like the plague. Rather than waiting until she's at a distance where she can barge into you, it's best to remain aware of where she is and keep as great a distance between you as possible. Ensure you can see her coming from a mile away and that you can get away before she can close the gap. Or change your route: anything not to have to encounter this loony. If she escalates, I'd seek non-emergency police advice about harrassment.

I know how tiresome it will be to have to keep a constant awareness of someone's presence merely to maintain your personal space and boundaries. But people like this tend to have the nasty capability of really ruining someone's day.

Sorry you've had to experience this.

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