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To think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

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k2493 · 20/06/2024 23:17

AIBU to think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

We have been having issues with our neighbours and how entitled they appear to be for years now. i.e please stop allowing your guests to park where they block our driveway.

We have asked the agent but we keep getting told try to have a discussion.

Well I finally had enough and politely asked must you constantly allow your guests to block our driveway? It's making our life very difficult. The response straight away was Do you own your property? Nope. Well we do.

What the actual? I am genuinely confused. Does it really matter in this day and age whether you rent or own? DH says he's a twat because it should have nothing to do with money but if he wants to play that game, we pay 1.5 times more in rent than he does for his mortgage so he needs to get a life.

Also I appreciate there have been some bad tenants in the past but there's a lot of us good ones and I appreciate not all home owners are this bias but surely this is bang out of order lording it over and thinking it's there god given right because they own and we don't. I work with clients needing housing all the time so I know how severe the housing shortage is at the moment. Surely anyone who is keeping a roof over there head at the moment is doing a great job mortgage, tenant or otherwise. Why do we deserve less respect because we are renting.

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stayathomer · 20/06/2024 23:41

They’re just idiots really- I used to hate hearing that, we’d be chatting to people and they’d say ‘the people in number 6 are renters, you can tell anyway by the state of the house’ and I’d say ‘oh we actually rent too’ and they’d backtrack. It’s so weird that people think that renters don’t look after a house given that most of them would have been renting before they bought!!!

FourOfDiamonds · 20/06/2024 23:36

Our whole village is like this. The house next door to us is the only rented house in the village and other villagers have said stuff to me like 'they don't count, they're just a renter', refused to add them to the village WhatsApp group or invite them to any village events. It's so bizarre and mean! We are friendly with the girl who rents and she said she'd noticed people being rude to her

Sasqwatch · 20/06/2024 23:36

we pay 1.5 times more in rent than he does for his mortgage so he needs to get a life.

Uhm I’m not sure that is a cause for celebration or oneupmanship 🤔

Beautifulbythebay · 20/06/2024 23:34

Our neighbour over the back knocked at 8pm one Friday night to tell us a tree surgeon was coming out 8 30 Monday morning to cut our tree as it blocked her light.. No chance to contact our ll. The tree had a protection order on it...
I videoed some butcher attacking the tree sat on our fencing /half on his ladder.... At 9 I got through to the council. All the while her ranting I was just a tenant so none of my business... Council drip came out and said never mind it would grow back.. Second rate people here are tenants apparently..

FOJN · 20/06/2024 23:32

I believe it's illegal for them to obstruct your driveway. If you are renting you have the same right wrt to being able to access your drive as you would if you owned the house.

Your neighbours are dicks. Tell them it's illegal and they need to stop doing it and if they take no notice then ask your agent what they plan to do to make sure you have full use of the amenities you're paying for.

I wonder if a neighbour dispute where the neighbours are blocking access to the drive might impact the rentability of the property if you chose to move.

Wishitsnows · 20/06/2024 23:32

You probably pay more per month than they do!

FlamingoFloss · 20/06/2024 23:32

What an absolute twat!! I rented for years and now we own with a mortgage - not once have a I considered myself or anyone else better or less than anyone else regardless of if renting or owning! That thought is just absolutely ludicrous!
he does not own your home - you pay for it and have a right to park unobstructed. I’d get back onto your agent. So sorry you have a knob like this for a neighbour

Everythingiscalmfornow · 20/06/2024 23:29

So you are basically being told by your neighbours that you are second class citizens because you rent your home and they own theirs?
An absolutely disgusting attitude.
Of course no one should be blocking your driveway. Owning or renting has no bearing on your rights as regards this.
What horrible snobs your neighbours are. You shouldn't let idiotic people like that put you down. You are as good as them. Better in fact because their attitude shows them up for what they are.

k2493 · 20/06/2024 23:28

LettuceTruss Thankyou. I thought it was just me.

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GoneFishingToday · 20/06/2024 23:27

Sadly OP it seems that your neighbour is a twat of the highest order! I hate people like this, it's just so unnecessary. We own our house outright, but it would never occur to me to point that out to anyone, just to make a point that I think I'm better than they are. Can you possibly play him at his own game, and make parking for his house/guests difficult? I bet everything he has is bought on credit!!

Stripeysocks1981 · 20/06/2024 23:25

They sound like absolute wankers. Being homeowners doesn’t mean they own the fucking street. Hate people like this!

dudsville · 20/06/2024 23:24

Home ownership isn't what makes them jerks, it's about their personality.

LettuceTruss · 20/06/2024 23:22

We had neighbours like this when we were renting. Two lots actually. One told her daughter not to play with my DC - “the tenants’ kids, they can’t afford to buy their own home.” They were like yours - blocked our driveway, refused to take in parcels. It worked both ways. We never returned any balls that came over the fence. I’d never met people like this before.

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