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To think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

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k2493 · 20/06/2024 23:17

AIBU to think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

We have been having issues with our neighbours and how entitled they appear to be for years now. i.e please stop allowing your guests to park where they block our driveway.

We have asked the agent but we keep getting told try to have a discussion.

Well I finally had enough and politely asked must you constantly allow your guests to block our driveway? It's making our life very difficult. The response straight away was Do you own your property? Nope. Well we do.

What the actual? I am genuinely confused. Does it really matter in this day and age whether you rent or own? DH says he's a twat because it should have nothing to do with money but if he wants to play that game, we pay 1.5 times more in rent than he does for his mortgage so he needs to get a life.

Also I appreciate there have been some bad tenants in the past but there's a lot of us good ones and I appreciate not all home owners are this bias but surely this is bang out of order lording it over and thinking it's there god given right because they own and we don't. I work with clients needing housing all the time so I know how severe the housing shortage is at the moment. Surely anyone who is keeping a roof over there head at the moment is doing a great job mortgage, tenant or otherwise. Why do we deserve less respect because we are renting.

OP posts:
shittestusernameever · 21/06/2024 04:35

@OnTheRightSideOfGeography racism? What? 🙄

DenimHiker · 21/06/2024 03:34

How the hell do you know how much his mortgage payment is? Why do you even care?

ILoveToCleanSaidNooneEver · 21/06/2024 01:20

CassandraWebb · 21/06/2024 00:37

When I was renting our neighbours didn't even bother checking with me before cutting a beautiful tree down that was in our garden. It was in full blossom as well!

They just looked baffled when I asked why they didn't check.

They regretted it when I told the landlord and he started legal action and they had to pay nearly £10k to replace it.

(They cut it down because they didn't like blossom landing on their cars!)

This is beautiful karma 👏

ReadingSoManyThreads · 21/06/2024 01:17

These are the exact same twats who give other home owners grief because "I've lived here longer than you", so they think they bloody own the street. We have one of them.

Honestly, they're just dicks.

lilybronte · 21/06/2024 00:41

My old neighbour thought he was entitled to my back garden because he owned and he took advantage of the disabled man who lived there prior to us.

He even managed to connect his water to our pipes before we even moved in.

Glad to be out of there.

CassandraWebb · 21/06/2024 00:38

GoneFishingToday · 21/06/2024 00:29

Next time he's openly obnoxious to you OP, I'd be inclined to remind him that a dispute with his neighbours could make it VERY difficult for him if he ever wants to sell HIS home, (he'd have to declare a dispute with his neighbours on the sale paperwork) so he might just want to think about that, before he causes you problems in the future! Ignorant pig that he is!

Absolutely!!!

No sensible home owner gets into a dispute because they have to declare it when they sell.

CassandraWebb · 21/06/2024 00:37

When I was renting our neighbours didn't even bother checking with me before cutting a beautiful tree down that was in our garden. It was in full blossom as well!

They just looked baffled when I asked why they didn't check.

They regretted it when I told the landlord and he started legal action and they had to pay nearly £10k to replace it.

(They cut it down because they didn't like blossom landing on their cars!)

OnTheRightSideOfGeography · 21/06/2024 00:36

GoneFishingToday · 21/06/2024 00:29

Next time he's openly obnoxious to you OP, I'd be inclined to remind him that a dispute with his neighbours could make it VERY difficult for him if he ever wants to sell HIS home, (he'd have to declare a dispute with his neighbours on the sale paperwork) so he might just want to think about that, before he causes you problems in the future! Ignorant pig that he is!

I like it!

"Of course, WE have the privilege of renting, so this wouldn't be a problem for us; but I can see how homeowners would easily find themselves in a much less advantageous situation!"

OnTheRightSideOfGeography · 21/06/2024 00:34

Complaints made to the letting agent as our bins weren’t brought in on time

That seems to be a common thing that these loonies do when it comes to ridiculously trivial matters that they somehow take exception to: report you to your landlord/letting agent, like you're a toddler and they're your mum.

It's as bonkers as trying to report somebody who is buying with a mortgage to their mortgage lender because they haven't mowed their lawn quite as soon as you would like!

ILoveToCleanSaidNooneEver · 21/06/2024 00:31

GoneFishingToday · 21/06/2024 00:29

Next time he's openly obnoxious to you OP, I'd be inclined to remind him that a dispute with his neighbours could make it VERY difficult for him if he ever wants to sell HIS home, (he'd have to declare a dispute with his neighbours on the sale paperwork) so he might just want to think about that, before he causes you problems in the future! Ignorant pig that he is!

Genius

GoneFishingToday · 21/06/2024 00:29

Next time he's openly obnoxious to you OP, I'd be inclined to remind him that a dispute with his neighbours could make it VERY difficult for him if he ever wants to sell HIS home, (he'd have to declare a dispute with his neighbours on the sale paperwork) so he might just want to think about that, before he causes you problems in the future! Ignorant pig that he is!

Scarletttulips · 21/06/2024 00:24

We own, several neighbours rent. I can’t see a difference between us.

We all get on just fine.

I suppose some see it as not being as invested in the area, or use renting as a short term hop, rather than a long term home.

I have friends who rent and are more likely to be asked to leave because the LL wants to sell - it costs them a lot of time and money to keep moving. Awful really.

LaughingCat · 21/06/2024 00:20

We own and I haven’t the foggiest clue whether my neighbours rent or own…and I care even less! They sound like twats and their home ownership is just the excuse they need to lord it. Sorry, OP, they sound like dreadful neighbours!

Listress · 21/06/2024 00:15

We rented while our new home was having extensive renovations done. Oh my goodness were my eyes well and truly opened! I’ll give you a brief rundown of the issues we had…

Complaints made to the letting agent as our bins weren’t brought in on time (I was at our property sorting my horses and managing the contractors) DH was working. Good Lord the bins weren’t brought in until after 6pm on bin days!

I was accused of “eyeing up” my neighbours husband through a fence while hanging my washing out. She warned me off her husband. I’d said hello to him twice in passing.

I put a 3 foot potted Christmas tree outside my front door, our neighbour came the door and complained the battery operated lights were shining in her window. The lights were powered by 2 x AA batteries.

We received a lawyers letter saying my car wasn’t taxed or insured. Both our cars were taxed and insured. We still laugh about that one.

We had cat shit thrown across the drive - we never owned cats at the time. I duly returned the cat shit - the neighbour wasn’t happy. What she didn’t realise was her throwing cat shit on our drive was captured on the ring door bell.

We were accused of our dogs running wild, my hearing dog never left my side. She just hated dogs. “Running Wild” was my dog being in the garden asleep.

She was batshit crazy and hated tenants.

We have a business and she badly needed help a year after we moved to our home we’d been renovating. It was 2.30 am and she was hysterical but being kind we helped her. I will never forget her face when she walked in and realised who’d been living next to her. That is the one and only time I’ve got up in the middle of the night to put make up on to look fresh 😂

Never ever let someone who owns their house let you feel like shit because your rent your home. A home is a home whether rented or owned.

The response straight away was Do you own your property? Nope. Well we do

Only a foul person would say this, it says more about her as a person than it does you @k2493.

Againname · 21/06/2024 00:15

Owning doesn't give him the right to be a twat.

We own and would never behave like your neighbour OP.

You say he has a mortgage. I'd be tempted to tell him "actually you don't own. Your lender does" except it's not worth the stress of doing that.

Sorry you have such a crap neighbour.

ILoveToCleanSaidNooneEver · 21/06/2024 00:09

Are they blocking your driveway by parking on the dropped kerb?

If so, I believe that is an offence. Whether you own the home or not

We had a new neighbour move in, and she invited several guests. Quite a few cars outside her house. One of her guests pulled up and parked about a metre over our dropped kerb, which meant my DH would not gain access to our driveway when he got home.

I went out, politely explained and her guest moved.

I own my house, but I don't think that is relevant when someone is blocking you from entering or exiting your own drive.

Riversideandrelax · 21/06/2024 00:07

Ponoka7 · 20/06/2024 23:59

You can look up an address and it will tell you what it last sold for. Mortgages are cheaper than rents, without doing that.

But you still don't know what mortgage someone needed to take out?

Renamed · 21/06/2024 00:07

Guy across the road is a jerk like this. Once there was loud yelling coming from a house in the street, people went outside, knocked, my DP called the police. Jerk said to him “they’re tenants”. Erm well so are we.

OnTheRightSideOfGeography · 21/06/2024 00:04

It's astonishing how many people seem to think that homeowners have more rights than those who rent. Moreover, those who also believe in an additional hierarchy of how long you've lived there, meaning that those who have been there for 40 years get first dibs on the parking, those who've only been there 15 years get the leftover scraps and the renters don't deserve anything at all.

I bet the people with these attitudes are also disproportionally nasty racists; so much so that, after they have managed to buy themselves a house in a 'naice white neighbourhood - with none of those undesirable immigrant sorts' (i.e. anybody who is non-white), they need to actively search for some other ridiculous petty 'reason' to stir up animosity based on some arbitrary characteristic that they just happen to 'win', based on their own stupid rules.

Ponoka7 · 20/06/2024 23:59

Sossijiz · 20/06/2024 23:50

How do you know what he pays for his mortgage? Have you been looking through his bin?

You can look up an address and it will tell you what it last sold for. Mortgages are cheaper than rents, without doing that.

Sossijiz · 20/06/2024 23:50

Sasqwatch · 20/06/2024 23:36

we pay 1.5 times more in rent than he does for his mortgage so he needs to get a life.

Uhm I’m not sure that is a cause for celebration or oneupmanship 🤔

How do you know what he pays for his mortgage? Have you been looking through his bin?

Milkand2sugarsplease · 20/06/2024 23:48

I hate it when someone talks about moving house and you hear "are you buying or just renting"? What's with the "just"? Buying works for some while renting works for others and essentially, whether you're paying a mortgage company or a landlord, you're paying a monthly fee to live in a pile of bricks....

sparkleowl · 20/06/2024 23:44

dudsville · 20/06/2024 23:24

Home ownership isn't what makes them jerks, it's about their personality.

Exactly

Gakpo · 20/06/2024 23:44

I guarantee that they’d be doing the same thing if you owned the house. Fundamentally, an arsehole, is an arsehole.

Cocacolo · 20/06/2024 23:41

im gobsmacked! Why on earth would people think less of people who rent?
how can they not be grateful for what they have - have they never experienced and kind of difficulty in life? Wow

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