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can I wear Birkenstocks to a wedding?

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bananasandhoney1 · 20/06/2024 22:25

Wedding is outdoors (or at least partially outdoors) on a farm, and the legal ceremony has already happened - this is the celebration of their marriage. They have sent out proper invites (if that matters). Not sure if it is too informal or not? I don't want to wear heels and I do not currently have any other flat shoes that go with my dress so would have to buy some tomorrow if the answer to my question is a resounding 'no'!

Thanks in advance

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TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/06/2024 22:46

Redshoeblueshoe · 20/06/2024 22:44

It's on a farm, seriously what do people want you to wear on your feet ?

A naice pair of sandals or wedges 😂

Honestly, OP, wear what you want and what is comfortable. No one whose opinion matters to you will give a shit what you have on your feet because they’ll be too busy chatting to you to notice. And do you really care about the opinion of the sort of people who’d judge you for this?

PoppyCherryDog · 20/06/2024 22:44

I wore mine to a wedding last year. Same as you describe, they were already married and they did a ceremony and party on her parents farm. The invite came with a “sinking stilettos” warning so I figured not to wear heels or anything too fancy.

Redshoeblueshoe · 20/06/2024 22:44

It's on a farm, seriously what do people want you to wear on your feet ?

DappledThings · 20/06/2024 22:43

YellowHairband · 20/06/2024 22:39

There’ll be lots saying you need heels and delicacy though

I don't think a lack of heels is an issue. I think Birkenstocks are too casual for a wedding, unless it is very informal.

It's on a farm and it isn't an actual wedding.

In what way are they too casual? They're sandals. Do they need to be shiny? Or have a particular strap? What are these arbitrary rules that determine the acceptable level of formality of a pair of shoes?

I have Seasalt sandals. Are they OK? They have narrower straps so does that make them formal enough?

Such a load of bollocks. And as I try to refrain from visiting Style and Beauty to laugh at the rules people ask about there I think it's entirely fair game to laugh at the nonsense on AIBU

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 20/06/2024 22:43

If it’s on a farm, in a barn, bell tents, outdoors type vibe: yes.

And anything else : also yes

As long as they aren’t ancient and scruffy

CheeseWisely · 20/06/2024 22:41

Could not tell you what any of our wedding guests had on their feet if my life depended on it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wear the Birkenstocks, it will make absolutely zero difference to anyone's day, and you'll certainly look less silly than the Woman trying to pick her way through a farmyard in stilettos.

YellowHairband · 20/06/2024 22:39

There’ll be lots saying you need heels and delicacy though

I don't think a lack of heels is an issue. I think Birkenstocks are too casual for a wedding, unless it is very informal.

Cattery · 20/06/2024 22:39

No! 😱

hattie43 · 20/06/2024 22:39

I live in mine in the summer but no I wouldn't wear them to a wedding

JulesJules · 20/06/2024 22:38

Yes

Tintackedsea · 20/06/2024 22:38

My pal wore some to my wedding. It mattered not a jot to me or, I would imagine, anyone else there. I only remember it because I have a photo of her and it popped up today!

DappledThings · 20/06/2024 22:37

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:30

Wear whatever the fuck you want

Don't ask MN about wedding attire

Agreed. You'll just get a load of people insistent you're committing a huge footwear crime. Which you aren't.

Are they the proper sandal type or the slip-on type? Not that it matters, I'm just curious. Both absolutely fine.

People who get uppity about other people wearing comfortable shoes are very silly

Indianajet · 20/06/2024 22:36

I wore trainers to my son's wedding. To be fair, so did he.

Babycatsmummy · 20/06/2024 22:35

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:30

Wear whatever the fuck you want

Don't ask MN about wedding attire

Wake up on the wrong side of the bed love? No need for this. If you don't care don't bloody respond to the threat

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:33

It's not even the actual wedding. It's a celebration

They're Birkenstocks, which can easily look enough like a pair of plain sandals, not Crocs

Singleandproud · 20/06/2024 22:32

On a farm go for it, I'd probably wear an enclosed shoe on a farm though something neutral like a white converse or superga perhaps due to stones, general grit/dirt if dusty and I tend to get bitten to pieces so would expect more midges than another venue.

BeBopBeBop · 20/06/2024 22:32

I would say with what dress/outfit, but only because for me some things look great with Birkenstock and some don't. Honestly Ii wouldn't judge you either way - I rarely remember what others wear at weddings. But I know for me depending on the outfit I'd feel wrong.

RefusingToPlayYourGames · 20/06/2024 22:30

If you're going to a wedding on a beach, yes. Any other wedding, no.

It's invitations, not invites. An invitation is to invite you

nutella8 · 20/06/2024 22:30

Of course you can... it would make for a good chuckle or two.

PinkTonic · 20/06/2024 22:30

I think no, and I love and wear them all summer.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:30

Wear whatever the fuck you want

Don't ask MN about wedding attire

RabbitsandGuineaPigs · 20/06/2024 22:29

No. You don’t need heels, just a pair of nice sandals or wedges for an informal celebration.

Birkenstocks are only suitable for walking from a changing room to a pool, and even that’s pushing it.

DappledThings · 20/06/2024 22:28

Of course you can.

EC22 · 20/06/2024 22:28

I wouldn’t.