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can I wear Birkenstocks to a wedding?

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bananasandhoney1 · 20/06/2024 22:25

Wedding is outdoors (or at least partially outdoors) on a farm, and the legal ceremony has already happened - this is the celebration of their marriage. They have sent out proper invites (if that matters). Not sure if it is too informal or not? I don't want to wear heels and I do not currently have any other flat shoes that go with my dress so would have to buy some tomorrow if the answer to my question is a resounding 'no'!

Thanks in advance

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MoonshineSon · 21/06/2024 03:22

WalkingonWheels · 21/06/2024 02:09

Literally no one cares.

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Ummm apart from the OP who has started a whole thread asking for opinions!

WalkingonWheels · 21/06/2024 02:09

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:49

Sorry but even I, the most ungirlie girl in all girl land, think they are fugly as fuck.

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Literally no one cares.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 21/06/2024 01:01

I did once… but I had just had foot surgery and was only a couple of days out of the surgical shoe and still bandaged and in pain.

Other than that no way would I wear them.

chaosmaker · 21/06/2024 00:31

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:54

Go ahead! I wear Birkenstocks that are really ugly day to day because they are comfortable. I am under no illusion that they are in anyway nice to look at.

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I love how they look AND feel

chaosmaker · 21/06/2024 00:28

Wear what's comfy

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 20/06/2024 23:44

Oh God, NO. shudder

NotSoHotMess24 · 20/06/2024 23:35

In recent years, I was a bridesmaid in a yurt / riverside wedding. Non-traditional wedding attire was encouraged. I bought some "fancy" wellies to go, but it didn't rain so wore heels all day and felt overdressed.

If you're really worried, best person to check with, would be the bride (so long as phrased in such a way that they can say no, if that's what they feel). Generally I find brides-to-be like thinking about weddings, and are happy to oblige any questions about the day.

Delphiniumandlupins · 20/06/2024 23:29

Yes, you can wear what you like. Virtually nobody else will notice. They definitely won't remember this time next year. Just don't wear a white dress. Or black.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 23:20

Babycatsmummy · 20/06/2024 23:02

Mumsnet is here for anything, it’s a forum so get over yourself.

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It was advice to the OP

Because you get crap like this

MN is weird about wedding attire

Imambaldi · 20/06/2024 23:09

Yes, wear whatever you like. It’s nobody else’s business and your comfort important.

Once they’ve all had a few drinks they won’t even care !

DappledThings · 20/06/2024 23:05

Babycatsmummy · 20/06/2024 23:02

Mumsnet is here for anything, it’s a forum so get over yourself.

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I think the people offended by other people's entirely reasonable footwear choices are the ones who need to get over themselves.

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 23:04

Riversideandrelax · 20/06/2024 22:57

Maybe it's your foot? 😂

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😜 Maybe, just the right one mind the left one is a beaut.

Babycatsmummy · 20/06/2024 23:02

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:54

What?

I answered the question and gave further advice never to come here for wedding outfit advice

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Mumsnet is here for anything, it’s a forum so get over yourself.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 20/06/2024 23:00

I think they're fine.

I've not been able to wear heels for years - not even naice wedges - so have worn flat shoes/sandals to many weddings, including my own. Who looks at what other people are wearing on their feet anyway?

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 20/06/2024 22:57

The only thing is, if they are the ones with cork soles, you could damage them if the grass is at all wet, eg evening dew.

Riversideandrelax · 20/06/2024 22:57

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:54

Go ahead! I wear Birkenstocks that are really ugly day to day because they are comfortable. I am under no illusion that they are in anyway nice to look at.

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Maybe it's your foot? 😂

DollyPartonsBeard · 20/06/2024 22:55

They'll be absolutely fine, hope you have a great time, sounds like it will fun!

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 20/06/2024 22:54

Babycatsmummy · 20/06/2024 22:35

Wake up on the wrong side of the bed love? No need for this. If you don't care don't bloody respond to the threat

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What?

I answered the question and gave further advice never to come here for wedding outfit advice

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:54

Toooldforthis36 · 20/06/2024 22:52

I love these may buy them!

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Go ahead! I wear Birkenstocks that are really ugly day to day because they are comfortable. I am under no illusion that they are in anyway nice to look at.

Riversideandrelax · 20/06/2024 22:52

RefusingToPlayYourGames · 20/06/2024 22:30

If you're going to a wedding on a beach, yes. Any other wedding, no.

It's invitations, not invites. An invitation is to invite you

And what would be the consequences of this? Will she be turned away for wearing the wrong beachy shoes? Maybe as it's a farm wellies would be most appropriate? Confused

Toooldforthis36 · 20/06/2024 22:52

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:49

Sorry but even I, the most ungirlie girl in all girl land, think they are fugly as fuck.

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I love these may buy them!

GummiBeari · 20/06/2024 22:52

No, too casual.

MoonshineSon · 20/06/2024 22:49

notasgreenasiamcabbagelooking · 20/06/2024 22:37

Can you post a picture of the dress?

https://www.birkenstock.com/es/arizona-big-buckle-natural-leather-patent/arizonabigbuckle-patent-naturalleatherpatent-0-eva-w_263.html

These look pretty smart under a long dress.

Sorry but even I, the most ungirlie girl in all girl land, think they are fugly as fuck.

FofB · 20/06/2024 22:47

Yes, I've worn nothing else for decades as I used to have terrible plantar fasciitis- I have a gold pair and I wore a long maxi dress. I've also worn red ones to a wedding and black patent ones- but I prefer the Madrid ones though.

LostMySocks · 20/06/2024 22:46

Yes but not battered old ones that are really only suitable for the garden or paddling at the beach