DH shouldn’t “jokingly” blow out ds birthday candles

Harsh response.

Not babyish of your son.

I'd bloody cry if I was 7 and had been ill and then idiotic Dad does that.

What makes it a joke?

Because mean shitty behaviour doesn't magically become a joke because the person doing the mean, shit thing is laughing. I could throw a rock at a cat and laugh, doesn't make me Bill Hicks.

There's a terrible culture in the UK of typically men, thinking any shit behaviour can be hand-waved away as bantz or just a laugh. No, be a decent person. Be funnier you tool.

No seven year old is going to find it funny. You don't take special moments away from people, especially children. What makes it worse is that it's belated birthday cake because of illness.

Bullies? Are you being serious?

How do you know they’ll laugh until you do it?

Pranks may be funny when it's one adult doing it to another but birthdays are once a year and I can understand how a 7 year old child would be upset at having the candles blown out just as they went to do it.

I actually think it's nasty.

It doesn’t matter if he was turning 37, it wasn’t funny, it was mean. People are allowed to react when someone is deliberately cruel. Fucking “resilience” gets trotted out again and again. How about we tell bullies to stop being bullies.

@Emmerald

i did too, difference is I asked for it (I presume you didn't?!) and it wouldn't have been my 'main' present, but I can't remember what that was?!

nearly all my little friends bought me those little woodland animals that were all the thing at the time.

i cried when they all went home🥲my Dad picked me up & danced around the sitting room singing 'It's my party & I'll cry if I want to'

I loved my Dad & I miss him everyday ❤️

@Quibbledibble if he'd pretended to go to blow them out DS might have found it funny, but what was he thinking actually blowing them out? Was he remorseful? Or just a twat telling DS not to be so stupid/a baby???

he's only just 7, it's not at all surprising he cried! Some posters have been very harsh!!

Ps: I hope they both like cake! I wouldn't be eating it or letting anyone else!!

Your DH - who is currently sick - is an idiot.
I hope you have enough buckets to go round.

Your DH - who is currently sick - is an idiot.
I hope you have enough buckets to go round.

YABU

DS had a stomach bug, it wouldn't have been fair to everyone else if he blew his germs all over the cake. DH shouldn't have done it either because now his germs are on the cake.

Has nobody learnt anything from COVID? Why are you even still doing this stupid candle thing?

It was just a joke. Aka "I'm gaslighting you to believe you're the issue for not accepting my completely cuntish behaviour'

@ARichtGoodDram gah - missed that.

I wouldn't let either of them anywhere near the candles!!

So he's blowing his germs all over the cake when he's got a tummy bug? What an even bigger dick.

Practical jokes are all about putting someone - quite unnessesarily - through public humiliation, a cruel cheap trick to perpetrate on a child. Plus, it seems Dad just HAD to be the centre of attention - a total idiot!

I hope you're giving him the silent treatment.

Her DH is the one that is currently ill. Her DS is better

I don't understand the people who are surprised at a newly 7 year old crying! His dad ruined a special moment that he waited more than a year for! Honestly, I'd be far more surprised if he didn't cry.

Your husband is a dick. He needs a sharp lesson in what's actually a joke (him) and what's not (stealing a child's special moment).

@SundayTulips it's not "unfunny but not mean" imo, it's very mean. The whole joke is about stealing someone's limelight. It wasn't DH's moment. Bet he also finds snatching favourite toys and shouting "ner ner ner ner ner" at crying 7 YEAR OLDS funny too. Fucking total dickhead. 😡

This wasn’t my quote but I do agree that it seems like much younger behaviour than age 7, whether for a boy or girl. Of course if they were so sad it’s fine to cry, but it seems odd to me to have been so upset over this at age 7 (as someone with a 5 year old and a 7 year old)

This has given me a menopausal hot flush I’m so angry at your prick of a husband!

I felt unwell at the weekend and I could’ve cried over something minor I felt so fragile (and I’m old and miserable and nothing makes me cry!!)

Your poor little boy. I hope you gave the husband a bollocking later op? What a moronic man-baby.

Quite right. How else is toxic masculinity to flourish if we don't stifle our little boys' normal emotions by calling them babyish 🙄

Your DS blowing out the candles would have basically meant that no-one else could have the cake!

I’m also curious as to how DH reacted. Was be surprised at the crying and did he apologise? I really hate this kind of practical joking too. It’s not funny and just creates awkwardness.

Crass from DH. It wasn't his moment. Shame.

Crap behaviour from your DH. I hate people who make a joke at kids expense. Their own kids too!