DH shouldn’t “jokingly” blow out ds birthday candles

Me neither 🤢

I wouldn't be eating cake someone with a stomach bug had blown all over 🤢

As a child I would have found this funny. Just like the candles that don’t blow out are funny. I honestly cannot understand why so many people are sensitive about this.

What a total dick. What else does he do? I’m guessing tip of iceberg

That's awful. What an idiotic thing to do. Your poor poor child.

It sounds like you were at home, not so party with school friends? So the candles are more of a main event, making it different from a usual meal.
I think what hasn't been mentioned is the hypocrisy. In most families a child would be scolded / told off for blowing out their siblings candles, or their mates. DS knows this yet an adult does it to him. That's got to sting!

Did he not get to do candles as a kid? How odd

Even better!

Or to make it easier and safer, don't do candles in the first place

This. Or that the 7 year old lacks resilience for not finding the shitty joke funny.

Who would eat a cake that someone has blown all over.

Your dh was a prick, but use a candle snuffer next time. To make it more special each child can have their own candle snuffer with their name on or something.

Your DH sounds like a 7 year old! Maybe he needs his own cake and candles to blow out?

For my children, their favourite thing about birthday cakes is eating it ...but other than that, every year my 3 girls look forward to seeing what theme I'll decorate their cakes with. We sometimes put sparklers on them but never actual candles to blow. When we sing happy birthday, the highlight of the moment for the kids is getting trusted with the cake knife to cut into it and make a wish, and you dont touch the bottom of the cake plate or you get green babies (a cultural thing from Australia. DH says its their traditional equivalent to the British blowing out candles thing).

Obviously we live in Pommieland so when my children have been to parties, about 75% of them have had candles on the cake. Most of the time, the child had to be prompted to blow the candle or did it without any fanfare. It was more like a chore to get out of the way before enjoying the rest of the party.

I agree with a PP that we shouldn’t be blowing candles on a cake, it really is grim! We use a ‘wafter’ or put the candles on a cut piece of cake or cupcake so the germs are not being shared around.

And the fact that the Dad was the unwell one at that moment and still chose to blow all over the cake shows his complete lack of thought and regard for his family

To be honest, I'd have said the vast majority of kids dont actually care for the whole candles thing, and probably wouldn't actually noticed if you just did them a nice cake and sang without candles.

I couldn’t disagree with that more tbh. In my experience blowing out the candles is the thing the kids look forward to the most out of the whole cake bit.

And a 7 year old who has had to delay his birthday because he was ill is even more likely to be upset by his dads twattery than a 7 year old blowing out the candles on his actual birthday.

For something like that I think a 7 year old is more likely to be upset than a 3 year old as they’ve seen other people blowing the candles and have been looking forward to it.

I feel this way too. There are shades of grey, it’s a faux pas and yeah a bit silly but he’s not a bully and it’s nothing to cry over. This website is so extreme all the time, the reaction to everything is just way over the top

I'd understand more if his dad ruined his birthday cake or shoved his head in it? Or just started cutting it up for him without letting him have a go? Or if DS was 3 and found the candles mesmerising.

But not so much at the blowing the candles. Its a huge faux pas obviously, because it's up to the birthday person traditionally to do that, but I wouldn't have said it was anything to cry about.

To be honest, I'd have said the vast majority of kids dont actually care for the whole candles thing, and probably wouldn't actually noticed if you just did them a nice cake and sang without candles.

But thats just me. My DH is from down under where the whole candle thing isn't that big a deal in the first place

My DS7 would also be upset

Dad is a cunt

I wouldn't bother getting him a cake on his birthday

And if 'D'H has blown out the candles.... Do you really want to eat that cake? I wouldn't be eating it.

Prick move.

@CowboyJoanna
I still dont understand why DS cried though? Have you drilled it into him that he must blow out candles to turn 7?

Maybe he was upset because it was his birthday cake, his candles to blow out yet his dad decided to ruin the moment. What's difficult to comprehend about that?

I get that on MN adults aren’t supposed to care about their birthdays, but there’s no way there are genuinely this number of people who can’t grasp that a child of 7 - recently unwell and had to delay celebrations - is in no way abnormal or babyish to cry at their dad stealing their moment.

You can’t possibly understand why an excited 7 year old, just over an illness, who had to delay their birthday celebrations might cry at their Dad doing that?

I still dont understand why DS cried though? Have you drilled it into him that he must blow out candles to turn 7?

When I used to put candles on my kids cakes, when DD1 turned 5 the wind blew out her candle. She just said can we eat it now

Why are we expecting him to be resilient? Can I remind you that he’s SEVEN

Twat, of course that would upset a child.
They are HIS candles on HIS cake.

Your husband is a twat and dim to boot.
If this is an aberration fine, if not, he's a prick.