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To be worried about ds following nursery comments?

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Kenuppp · 20/06/2024 19:04

I keep being told ds (18 months) is pushing and pinching other kids. I have seen him do this at soft play once or twice but he’s not like it at home at all. I do believe what is being said but I’m just really worried now as to why he’s doing it? A couple of weeks ago they said they had to move him from the group and have him sit with a member of staff as he was shoving past kids all the time. Is he going to become more aggressive? He can communicate ish and seems happy generally. I can’t understand why he would be doing it if no other kids are? Where have we gone wrong?

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Kenuppp · 20/06/2024 19:23

Bendrix · 20/06/2024 19:19

My child does this. Hes 4 and its still ongoing. On the list for an adhd assessment.
Its incredibly frustrating and stressful. I envy parents of children who don't do this . Sorry your going through this

@Bendrix sorry you experience similar.

your post has made me even more anxious though 🤦‍♀️😂

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Ohlittleone · 20/06/2024 19:19

It's not necessarily aggression, some kids just like the reaction. I wouldn't be overly concerned at this stage but would work on it with him. Maybe try find some relevant storybooks or even social stories around it

Bendrix · 20/06/2024 19:19

My child does this. Hes 4 and its still ongoing. On the list for an adhd assessment.
Its incredibly frustrating and stressful. I envy parents of children who don't do this . Sorry your going through this

Kenuppp · 20/06/2024 19:18

He doesn’t like sharing with his cousin but again I don’t know why as we have always tried to show him that it is right to share etc. Also don’t know how to make him stop it as he doesn’t understand properly

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TheTartfulLodger · 20/06/2024 19:15

He's expressing something. It could be as simple as excitement but obviously this isn't an ideal way to express it. Does he have difficulty with sharing?

PeppermintPorpoise · 20/06/2024 19:13

Some kids are just really aggressive. My DS was at that age and he's fine now (teen). It faded off as he was able to talk more fluidly and express himself in other ways. Im not saying do nothing as obviously it an issue but you dont need to panic nor does this mean you've done anything wrong.

Kenuppp · 20/06/2024 19:13

@Ellie1015 why is he doing it though? I can’t even think of a reason!

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Ellie1015 · 20/06/2024 19:08

It is not ideal and something to work on but I wouldnt be worried about him just keen for him to learn and grow out of it asap.

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