To expect my working from home to be respected

That's such a negative and transactional outlook. So are all children being allowed to stay at their parents' house as a favour or do the rules automatically change when one turns 18? What if the mother has no issue with her daughter working from home? I'm sure the father will say the same, it's my house, none of your opinions matter.

A house/home is made up of the family and belongs to all of them. No one should be made to feel like an outsider in one's own home, irrespective of age and OP is still so young. The basic issue here is the lack of respect for another member of the household.

Take the calls in your bedroom (assuming you have a laptop)

These would be my strategies too.

Your dad’s being a belligerent old git. Sadly that happens to some parents when they retire.

She's literally working in a storage room. How disruptive. What an arsehole. Why do people have kids if they genuinely hate them like this? It's baffling. If she was trashing his house or disrespecting them or whatever then yeah of course, but like.... she's working.

Well yes, but OP may have also been a bit of an arsehole disrupting her parents’ lives for her own benefit without consideration for them, too.

This! I can’t understand the “my house, my rules”, as well as the “you aren’t paying for two rooms” type of comments. I would feel so sad if my children felt they were an inconvenience or unwelcome at our home.

He doesn’t work, he probably does not need the office space as regularly as the OP.
What’s the problem of knocking to check if the OP is having in a call? He is being weirdly authoritative.

Why have you ignore the questions about working from your bedroom?

It sounds as though your dad is either unaware that you're trying your hardest to move out, by putting offers in on flats or he simply doesn't believe you.

It sounds as though he's strongly encouraging you to move.

Might not be her house but it's her home

Nope it's not her house. It's his and her muns house. They are allowing her to stay there.

Massive sweeping generalisation.

Sounds really challenging. It would be the lack of respect that I as a daughter would find upsetting. You are contributing to the cost of living there, and it sounds like a family home - but I know that some people have the view of "my house my rules" - I'm about to leave my own property to go back into a house share situation, my experiences have been positive - lots of respect, professional working environment etc... perhaps if you cannot quite make the financial jump to owning your own property you can maybe look at a professional house share whilst saving too?

he walked in again unexpectedly. I asked him if he would mind not just coming in to the office when I'm working as I had literally just finished a call speaking to someone in my team about wellbeing issues they're having; given that I'm a manager my work can be about sensitive confidential topics. My dad's response was, "don't you dare. I can go where I like in my own house".

Would your dad have said that you were actually quite rude in the way you spoke to him here and that was what got his back up?

’Dad, I know it’s probably a pain having me working from home in your house but would it be possible that you don’t just come in when I’m wfh as I have to take personal video calls-sorry if that sounds really bossy!’

‘Would you mind NOT coming into my office when I’m working! I’m a manager now and have VERY important things to do (which you wouldn’t understand, seeing as you don’t work!)’

We don’t know, we weren’t there. I think something needs to change though. Either you rent someone else or speak to your boss and ask if you can be considered to work full time from the office. I’m sure someone else would be happy to do extra from home to give you their desk space.

Oh right, I'll tell DH's company to overhaul their business model and he can commute between Indonesia and Mexico, then 🙄

Remote working has always been a thing, and it can be very effective (if you're not thick and fixated on presenteeism).

Doesn't really matter anyway, he's still an arsehole for bursting into the room when she's working. I can't imagine anyone I live with doing this, and her dad's reaction to her asking him not to tells me exactly what kind if man he is. The sooner OP gets out of there the better, for her

Umm, she is? She literally describes her flat hunting process. And how is wanting to observe confidentiality rules in her job not acting like an adult? 🤷‍♀️

Yes it's her dad's house, but OP is contributing financially and he isn't behaving very reasonably, this is his daughter when all's said and done.

Most employers allow staff with difficult home circumstances to work in the office. You could discuss this with your LM.

Create a place to work from in your bedroom and leave him to have the "office he never used and only goes in to disturb your work" all to himself.

I think it's high time everyone went back to the office now, Covid had a lot to answer for!

Some men have a red neck inbred inability to respect any woman working.
Repeatedly interrupting when they work from home.
I doubt this arsehole behaviour is in isolation.
What sort of a twat would make wfh more difficult for his child?
A misogynistic arsehole that's who.

Oh and they are surprised when they don't see their children for dust when they do leave.

He sounds very disrespectful of you and your work. I can imagine a parent forgetting you are in the middle of working and popping their head around the door to say goodbye or offer a cup of tea because they are at home and in home mode. But he sounds like he is purposefully being aggressive and difficult.

I don't think it would work with your father but when I'm wfh, I let whoever is in the house know when I'm going to be on a call or in a meeting so I'm not disturbed. Otherwise, I don't mind someone bringing me a cup of tea, saying a quick hi.

Good luck with the flat hunting!

The "wise up" should tell you all you need to know. He doesn't want you there.

It being used for storage by her parents rather than an office doesn’t change anything about the disruption to others of OP having that space to herself some of the time. That her DF set her desk up there makes it sound like he was fully onboard with her use of the space, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that. OP doesn’t say they discussed her working from home or what that would mean for the household, which was why I asked if she had.

I hear ya! I worked from my parents for a few days when lockdown restrictions were first lifted (we live several hours apart so it was a way to visit without having to take too much leave) and I had to tell them a number of times that working from home actually means I’m working and if the dining room (rarely used) door is shut, please don’t come barging in! But that was only a few days, if you can’t really expect them to tiptoe around their own home longer term.

Why don't you just go to work? Seems simpler all round!