To expect my working from home to be respected

She says in her OP that she is trying to find her own place. I'm assuming her parents allow her to live there so she can save more.

If this is the case, her personal and professional boundaries need to be respected.

I think that when you work from home there's bound to be some overspill with your family. I've seen a few people interviewed on national news who had children come crawling into view. I think it's difficult when it's your dad's house for you to impose your expectations. He might just think you're working in the study and it's perfectly reasonable for him to say Bye to you and pop in to get something. It's hardly awful behaviour. It sounds like you want to have complete privacy and there's a disconnect between your and his expectations. Hope you resolve it or get your own place very soon.

She's trying to move out. Did you miss that bit?

Easy solution move out!!! It's his house not yours. Sound a bit entitled.

I don't understand the problem.

I work from home from the corner of the living room. I have a headset on for meetings and a background for Teams. My DP can walk behind me, talk to me (I ignore if I'm on a call), have his own telephone conversations in the same room, but nobody else can hear him or see him.

Just like in the office when we all sit next to each other having our own separate meetings via Teams wearing a headset.

I wouldn’t get worked up if someone popped in and said bye on a work call, no one would care.

Wow, I'm surprised there are so many people on here who think the dad is entitled to behave like this. "It's his house." "Why shouldn't he walk in when he likes." "You need to move out."

DH, DD and I all work from home and we respect each other's privacy. I'd never dream of marching in on my daughter while she's working, without having a good reason and without knocking.

OP, your dad is out of line. (And he needs to get a hobby or something.)

To be fair when I was working from home during the pandemic I could have 1 eye on the screen & 1 on the kids & my OH works from home and I can rarely not enter the room to talk to him. But for many people it's very important to have silence and no distractions, a bit like my online speed awareness course ☺️

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I don't think yabu btw.

Your dad seems to be a little immature. Whilst it is his house, he needs to respect that you are not only living there, but you are also working from there. I do think his 'bye' was a nice gesture, and maybe your reaction might have got his heckles up?

I work from home intermittently, and whilst this is DH's home too, he wouldn't dream of vocally disturbing me. He gestures and it's quite funny.

I'd suggest talking to your dad. Acknowledge that it is his home but you are trying to find your own. Whilst you are 'under his roof' please could he respect some boundaries whilst you are working so you don't lose your job?

If he is still immature, give him a one finger salute and head to a library if you can't go to your office.

I find this kind of response utterly baffling. It just stinks of power tripping over something absolutely trivial. What kind of arse of a dad stomps around the house demanding access all areas even if his daughter is on a work call. Can he barge into the bathroom when she is on toilet, after all, he is able to go where he likes as it'd his house.

Didn’t u work in office before COVID ur saving commute office attire lunch expenses no time for it u can afford to move out surely are Ur company asking u to work at home don’t get it too many r doing a 3 day week working at home

YABU, it is a home first and an office second. Plus it’s their house like he said he’s able to go where he likes in his house.

He sounds like he’s doing it on purpose to assert his right to do as he pleases. Some people don’t like being told no. Pretend you’re on a call next time and that it’s a sensitive topic that would make him feel uncomfortable for barging in.

This is like my dad all over. I struggled with WFH while living with parents because of this very reason! And my dad's response was much the same as yours OP, even though my workspace was in my own bedroom! It is a nightmare, and I completely empathise.
The only solution is to move out, but while I waited for my house sale to go through, I survived by putting large notes on the door whenever I was in a call. This seemed to work to some extent. It might be worth also asking your dad if he needs anything from the office before you jump into a call.

I think your Dad is being ‘a bit of an arse’. You sound like you are organised and an effective WFH’er - I expect he ‘just doesn’t get-it’. And he might just be being a bit old fashioned. ‘How can people WFH and anyway it’s working from MY home’. As people get older - they can become very territorial. Whereas he may be fully supportive of you being sensible WFH whilst getting on with finding a home of your own. Can you try ‘having a chat’ - in a nice way - so that he knows how appreciative you are of the space and the opportunity- but explaining that it really is like dropping into your workspace unannounced. Best of luck anyway. My Dad would SO still do this. And yet - he wouldn’t mean any harm - or think he was being an arse.

He is definitely being unreasonable, if my DH was doing this to our daughter I would be very angry. You deserve some respect like anyone else in the family. it's not to say it's a room that he has to go in and out like the lounge. He is either trying to force you leave or He is a stubborn so and so. I would suggest a sign on the door but to be honest I think he would probably ignore it , If you could put something behind the door like a small cupboard or could would still try and come in? Perhaps you could sit down as a family , over the weekend to discuss the best way forward, perhaps a whatapp message if he needs something. But honestly what is so urgent that he needs it immediately out of a room used as an office. I am sure you come out at lunch and to make a cuppa during the day he could pop in then. I think men of this age think of something and want to do it immediately , usually because it they leave it they forget. Take it from someone who is a similar age and has numerous daft conversation with DH, when he swears I have said something but I haven't, tonight's was me " Do you want garlic bread with your food" DH, " I always have it". Me " not always"
An hour later he swears I asked if he wanted wine.🤐

Your dad is telling you he doesn't want you working at home.
He sounds quite unpleasant but it is his house.
I would say look for other alternatives but if not available as it sounds, work from your bedroom, adapt it/lock it if needed or jam the door shut, wear headphones if needed.
Good luck

Good grief! I would never have dreamed of walking into my daughter's room without knocking under any circumstances. He's belligerent and disrespectful. Get out ASAP for your sanity and well-being.

His house his rules
but he doesn’t seem very nice about it

YANBU at all! It’s your livelihood and he should respect that, maybe you can turn it round and explain you’d respect his privacy if he was on a confidential call, for example with the doctor?
can you agree to put something on the door if you can’t be disturbed, maybe explain that you could get in trouble with work if you can’t promise to keep your work confidential? Can you speak to your mum and get her to have a word maybe, if she’s more reasonable? Good luck finding a place of your own!!

Well, working at home has taken off in a way that your father probably doesn't understand. When I was working,it was viewed quite suspiciously as not really working. He is right, it is his home and although it would be nice if he were a bit more understanding, you have got to live with it. Is there a local library or communal space where you can work? You need your parents to be on your side, so try and keep them sweet!

Work in your bedroom.